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"The Selfish Path to Romance has arrived just in time for Valentine’s Day. Based on the Objectivist philosophy of Ayn Rand, this manual instructs the reader on how to build and preserve a mutually fulfilling sexual relationship with the romance equation boiled down to a point-by-point, easy-to-understand workbook, complete with intellectual exercises at the end of each chapter. The authors explore the importance of self-love in this concise text that breaks down the method of seeking a 'soul mate.' They believe that achieving romance involves negotiation, as well as nurturing, between respectful individuals exhibiting self-esteem and common sense.
"Divided into six parts, this intriguing book begins by defining romantic love as a positive experience built on egoism (i.e., there must be something in it for both parties or it won’t work), but eliminates altruism and narcissism as stereotypically bad courses of action. Making yourself appealing to a potential mate is addressed at length, along with choosing an appropriate partner and making the correlation thrive. A section devoted exclusively to sex precedes the final segment on resolving conflict. Included is an appendix on the termination of a relationship in the event of irreconcilable differences.... True love, according to these experts, is not an accident, nor is it mystical. It is a rational interaction between two people that can be learned."
Though Locke (Handbook of Principles of Organizational Behavior) and Kenner base their latest on controversial Objectivist Ayn Rand, their text actually adheres to a simple self-help premise: honest introspection, truly knowing oneself, will lead to rewarding romantic relationships. The authors use countless case studies of challenged relationships to illustrate healthy approaches to problem solving and boundary setting. Maintaining that "the principle of self-sacrifice destroys relationships," they invoke their own clinical experience to offer guidelines for developing self-esteem. Despite the Randian platform, this effort is actually a compendium of oft-repeated advice ranging from "Replace Anger with Positives" to finding the right partner. Acknowledging that relationships need work to thrive, the authors offer tips on resolving the inevitable conflicts of any relationship. Though Locke and Kenner offer little new in their first collaboration, their breezy style and comprehensive approach will likely draw new readers. (Feb.)
Cevin Bryerman, Publishers Weekly, April 18, 2011
Here are some highlighted takeaways, from the book.
The book covers what love is, what it takes to be lovable, how to find a soul mate, and how to keep a relationship strong among other things.
After you read this book you will see that love does make sense and that having a successful relationship is under your control!
This is a great book that has really helped my understanding of how I function inside of many relationships. I highly recommend it to anyone and everyone!Published 2 days ago by Gunnar Nettleship
I bought this book when it was first published because I know and respect one of the authors. A year later, I was having some problems in my thirty-seven year marriage and began... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Robert Palin
The first book that really discusses what love is and is not. Selfish does not mean uncaring of others, it means self-love, self-esteem and not needing but wanting someone because... Read morePublished 2 months ago by Paritosh-Navala
A must book to read. It is a book from which one can gain incredible insight and apply toward any new or old romantic relationship, and actually apply many aspects of it towards... Read morePublished 4 months ago by Sheila Bazleh
I read a lot of self-help books. I didn't take a lot away from this one. Try 'The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work' instead.Published 10 months ago by emrm
It's a smart and geeky read. Very entertaining if you want to understand why some of your relationships worked and some didn't. Read morePublished 12 months ago by Philip
I'm not done reading it yet, but I'm loving it. This book has a lot to offer, if you are willing to listen. I would recommend it to others.Published 14 months ago by christal strimple
I liked a few of the points that the book made; in particular, that altruistic love requires a narcissistic love on the other side, and that neither one works well in real life. Read morePublished 24 months ago by KindleReader
In this book and according to Ayn Rand's definition, being selfish doesn't mean not caring about others. Read morePublished on February 16, 2013 by Kenneth Jeppesen