Why to Keep a Marital Diary:
an all-important tool for your own self-esteem and for planning your legal strategy as well.
How to Find the Right Lawyer for You:
and how to work best with that lawyer.
Mediation vs. Court:
settling across a table, or in a courthouse.
The Importance of Separation:
a cooling-off period which allows flaring emotions to settle.
The History of Woman's Rights:
taking courage from our predecessors.
Why Being a Housewife is a Full-time Job, and how to convince the court of that fact.
How to Manage Your Finances: why women are better investors that men.
Warm with remembered life, Separate Ways imparts lessons on relationships and families while telling a personal story of obstacles overcome, and urges all women less than satisfied in their marriages to listen deeply to themselves, take charge, and then take action. In Vira Hladun-Goldmann's words, "my instinct is to mother, but with some fire in the milk!"
In Separate Ways, Vira Hladun-Goldmann, winner of the largest equitable divorce in American history, gives women all the emotional and analytic tools necessary to achieve that rare thing, a "good divorce." A good divorce is a fair, swift and just divorce, that privileges a woman's independence and nourishes her growth. It does not happen by itself, and Separate Ways shows the careful mix of foresight, focus and emotional buoyancy necessary to achieve it. Filled with hard-earned wisdom, the book imparts important life-lessons on both togetherness and apartness.
Why must a woman contemplating divorce write a History of My Marriage? Not only because it provides a legal roadmap for her lawyers, but because it allows her to understand the key importance of all those daily tasks she performed, without which, the home would never have run as it did. In chapters dealing with such topics as The Importance of Separation, How to Find a Lawyer, and Mediation vs. Court, Separate Ways provides crucial practical background for a divorcing woman. In others such as The Three Phases of a Life, The Importance of Communication in Marriage, and Women's Finances Today, it gives women the emotional counsel necessary to understand the opportunity of divorce, the way it divides a life into Before and After and gives a chance for a fresh start. Throughout the book, women are exhorted to seize the reins and intelligently impose their will on their own lives.
Written with humor, warmth and deep insight, Separate Ways provides empowerment and a full tool kit for any woman looking to end her marriage -- or anyone interested in the state of marital relationships today.
