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Separated By Duty, United In Love (revised): Guide to Long Distance Relationships for Military Couples (Updated) Paperback – May 1, 2010
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This book has thoughtful insight into the daily challenges that face military couples during a deployment. There are so many topics covered in this book that I am sure are almost never addressed with military couples. Most of the couples I have known just struggle the best they can through deployments, hoping just to get through it, to be emotionally and financially intact at the end of it all, with the loved one safely back at home.
This book offers a better way to guide your relationship and family through a military deployment. It offers much needed encouragement and advice from military wives and husbands who have experienced being apart in the military. I would have never even thought of many of the excellent topics it covers, a few of which are emotional issues, financial problems, childrearing issues and most importantly, understanding and nurturing yourself and each other while you are apart and when you reunited. "Separated by Duty, United in Love" is a real life commentary on very real situations that present themselves daily on the homefront in the military deployment experience. Reading this book may be the most important thing you do to nurture your relationship and family during this challenging time.
Most of the advice was sound and well written, but very basic. She gives good advice, but most of the advice would benefit from a more detailed 'further reading' section, especially the parts about dealing with money and suspected infidelity. Despite this shortcoming, this is an excellent book for a new military spouse.
Regardless of disclaimers, the book was clearly written for military wives, not military spouses. What irks my wife, an active duty Air Force officer is the assumption that husbands don't need help, and are OK when the wife is away. What irks me is the implication that women shouldn't be in the military. To assume that the spouse is a wife is to assume that only men are in uniform. And by not making it clear that military husbands have most of the same challenges as the wives plus a few distinct ones, the statement is that men shouldn't be the ones on the home front. During my own military career, the female officers that I served with were, on the average, more competent than the males (although there were two or three that really tried to pull the rest down). It is not appropriate to send a message that these women serving our country in uniform shouldn't be there or shouldn't have husbands.
This one was good for new wives, but really struck a nerve for me.
E. M. Van Court
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Thanks so much I love the book. Got it in 2 days was really quick with delivery. Love it!!Published 15 days ago by Amazon Customer
Back when DOMA was still in affect, this book was only semi-useful, but now after the repeal, this book is a great guide for couples in the military. Read morePublished 11 months ago by Element02
Too fluffy...doesn't get deep or go into more than superficial issues....Published 12 months ago by Amanda Schumaker
Not easy to get into. Seems to keep repeating info. Better to read before a deployment rather than during it. Perhaps that was my reason for not finding it interesting.Published 14 months ago by MrsClarkson
Best if you have a family. We don't have kids and I don't live on base. But there is some some useful advice.Published 19 months ago by Mary
so glad i found a book like this to help me understand/cope with the separation =/ thank you so much!Published 19 months ago by Carla L
This is a quick easy read on how to stay connected to your deployed spouse/significant other. It is just a helpful tool with some good ideas, but nothing out of the ordinary. Read morePublished 19 months ago by CoffeeLover