Setting Limits: How to Raise Responsible, Independent Children by Providing Clear Boundaries (Revised and Expanded Second Edition) [Paperback]

Robert J. Mackenzie (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 11, 1998

Start Setting Effective Limits — Now!
Do your children misbehave? Do they repeatedly ignore or refuse your requests for proper behavior? Are you constantly fluctuating between permissive and authoritarian parenting, with little or no success? Are you convinced there has to be a better way? There is. Setting Limits will help you establish the positive, respectful, and instructional groundwork your children need for proper ethical and behavioral development
In this revised and expanded edition of his popular book, Robert MacKenzie, Ed.D., demonstrates proven techniques and procedures that not only correct misbehavior but instill the cooperation and conduct you want and expect from your children. This book shows parents how to:
·Enforce clear, firm, and effective boundaries
·Put an end to conflicts and power struggles
·Establish rules that encourage cooperation
·Teach children important problem-solving skills
·Apply logical consequences of misbehavior
Children need limits to guide their development. With MacKenzie's expert guidance, you will learn how to build and enforce the instructive boundaries necessary for a happy and rewarding family life.

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Start Setting Effective Limits ? Now!
Do your children misbehave? Do they repeatedly ignore or refuse your requests for proper behavior? Are you constantly fluctuating between permissive and authoritarian parenting, with little or no success? Are you convinced there has to be a better way? There is. Setting Limits will help you establish the positive, respectful, and instructional groundwork your children need for proper ethical and behavioral development
In this revised and expanded edition of his popular book, Robert MacKenzie, Ed.D., demonstrates proven techniques and procedures that not only correct misbehavior but instill the cooperation and conduct you want and expect from your children. This book shows parents how to:
·Enforce clear, firm, and effective boundaries
·Put an end to conflicts and power struggles
·Establish rules that encourage cooperation
·Teach children important problem-solving skills
·Apply logical consequences of misbehavior
Children need limits to guide their development. With MacKenzie's expert guidance, you will learn how to build and enforce the instructive boundaries necessary for a happy and rewarding family life.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 384 pages
• Publisher: Three Rivers Press; Revised edition (March 11, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0761512128
• ISBN-13: 978-0761512127
• Product Dimensions: 5.4 x 0.8 x 8.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (32 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #34,098 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Robert J. MacKenzie, Ed.D., is an educational psychologist, and marriage, family, and child therapist with more than 15 years experience working with family and classroom behavioral problems. He is the author of Setting Limits (Prima), a guide to establishing reasonable boundaries at home.

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32 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Thorough and practical, June 24, 2001

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Derrick R. Bell (Ontario Canada) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Setting Limits: How to Raise Responsible, Independent Children by Providing Clear Boundaries (Revised and Expanded Second Edition) (Paperback)

Excellent book for parents who are tired of yelling, power struggles and constantly repeating themselves. Applicable for all ages and includes separate chapters for teenagers and children with ADD.

This author shows how our discipline methods appear through the childs eyes (not always pleasant), and why they often just ignore our rules. Children often know exactly what we want and what upsets us, but rarely know what our real expectations are. They compare our words to our actions and can learn to ignore our words if our actions don't follow up.
The book teaches parents to elimninate soft limits and clearly communicate your expectations, and gaining cooperation by being consistent. There are countless examples of realistic discipline situations which cover a wide range problems. At the end of each chapter, there are parent study group questions which are helpful.
There are also separate chapters for problem areas such as handling chores, homework and descriptions of age appropriate tasks.
A logical and staight forward approach with clear messages. Many of the parenting "What If?" questions are answered instead of avoided as in some parenting books. I would highly recommend this book to all parents.
Some other helpful parenting books I would also suggest are: "The Manipulative Child: How to Regain Cotrol and Raise Resilient, Resourceful, and Independent Kids" by Swihart and Cotter, and "Ain't Misbehavin" by William P Garvey.

43 of 47 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If Your Kids are Driving You Nuts..., February 24, 2001

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Mark Twain "xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx" (zoon) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Setting Limits: How to Raise Responsible, Independent Children by Providing Clear Boundaries (Revised and Expanded Second Edition) (Paperback)

...reach for this book first. It is the perfect emergency handbook for out of control kids and their parents. With very little fanfare, MacKenzie shows you have to regain control over your children without screaming, threatening or inflicting bodily harm. He shows you how to set firm limits and let your children test those limits and learn your new boundaries.

The truly amazing thing about his method is, it works! It is humane, rationale, devoid of all the squishy politically correct nouveau-parenting verbiage, and smacks of common sense. I tried it on my kids, who are at times utterly impossible, and after about a week, they started listening to me the first time instead of the twentieth. This is the one that I am shoving under my hubby's nose to save him from his shouting matches with the kids. And when he's not reading it, I keep thumbing through it to remind myself of the things in it I need to remember. Bad parent habits are not easy to kick. Keep this book on your night-table, and take a dose of it every night at bedtime-- then watch your family's sanity grow.

23 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The most exciting book about parenting I've ever read., September 18, 1998

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This review is from: Setting Limits: How to Raise Responsible, Independent Children by Providing Clear Boundaries (Revised and Expanded Second Edition) (Paperback)

I have read plenty of parenting books and have disagreed with some of the material. In Mr. MacKenzie's book there was not a single thing I disagreed with. It really helped me to understand why my children behave the way they do and how to change their behavior. I have been recommending this book to everyone I know. It is a must have book for parents.