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The Seven Conflicts: Resolving the Most Common Disagreements in Marriage

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This is not only a very wise book about marriage, but a book that will help everyone, married or not, to become better at understanding other people. It explores interpersonal dynamics in an insightful and often humorous manner. I'm single, but again and again I had "aha" moments as I thought of various arguments I had had or various arguments my various married friends had had.

The key is that often we don't fight about what we seem to be fighting about. Instead of an argument being about money, for example, it might really be about security: We can't afford that vacation, because we're trying to save for a house or for retirement. It has charts to analyze each spouse's response to the various conflicts, and a wonderful chapter on how to understand and communicate more effectively with the spouse who responds differently to a particular conflict.

A unique feature to this book: Many of the chapters have short summaries (called "quick takes") so that the reader's spouse can get an idea of what has been said without having to read the whole book.

Easily one of the most insightful of the 100 or so books I've read in the last year.

My wife and I have easily gone through a dozen or so relationship books over the years, some good some bad, but this one is priceless and the best we've ever read! Christians put a lot of effort into married couple small groups and come up with incredibly insiteful stuff. If you are avoiding this book because you are not a Christian, don't, it is well worth skimming over the Bible verses and reading the concepts.

I do not know a single married couple who's relationship would not benefit GREATLY from going through this book together. Tim and Joy Downs, I feel indebted to you.

Terrific book in terms identifying seven common Marriage conflicts which dating an engaged couples should read . In addition, Premarriage Counseling and or Workshops should recommended that participants read this in order to be aware of these potential conflicts in order to prevent and resolve them in a health and productive manner .

We are using this book in a small group at our church. It is an invaluable resource to help not only marrieds who don't know how to handle conflict, but also for anyone -- friends, parents/children because conflict happens there, too. If you strive to apply the principles, you will find your relationships less tense and more fulfilling.

Great for any couple. Really sheds light on the root of a lot of arguments.