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The best book ever written by any man I was married to, October 30, 2008
This review is from: Seven: The Deadly Sins and the Beatitudes (Paperback)
Okay, so I am not objective... but here is a true story.
With two toddlers I don't have a lot of time for meditation, but on occasion I am forced into introspection usually due to my bossy/crappy/angry parenting style that creeps in when I feel too busy or too tired. A few days ago I felt at the end of my rope, and really heart sick with all the meanness that seems to crowd my life.
I was feeling interior. Isolated. I wanted something to speak to my life right then. And it occurred to me--- the chapter on Wrath & Peace makers.
I have read Seven (through a year of various re-drafts) probably 30 times. I have never really felt the need to read it again. I have seen this work for so long as a project, one that I could barely step outside of... and yet it was the one source that I thought of that could actually speak some sense into that place right away. It wasn't Jeff's job, it wasn't a clever way for the Cook family to pay our bills. It wasn't a book written by my husband any longer, it was a salve that I knew offered something to me, personally and immediately.
There was something real in Seven that was talking to me in a way I hadn't heard like this anywhere before.
I understood, maybe for the first time, the soul eating, life crushing, relationship killing void left by my anger... and that the peacefulness that I longed for was "not pacifist pomp. This is not wishful thinking or an impossible course. Any watering down of these prescriptions is a rejections of Jesus' own death. It was Jesus who when struck turned his other cheek, who when asked for his shirt gave his coat as well... in his revolutionary meekness, Jesus inherited everything (144-5)."
And what was I inheriting with wrath
---or leaving for my sons--- with my anger?
Nothing. Nothingness.
I think I will never be over getting mad, or hurting because of it, but that day I felt normal, loved, understood. I felt like there was a way out. I didn't mean to find that in Seven but I did.
Friends and family that buy Seven because, well frankly, we make them end up commenting to me how this book spoke to them in their marriage, in their debt, in their envy, in their self loathing and in their desire to belong to a community that won't let them down. Seven opens a better door for many of us.
I am proud of you Jeff, not just for writing a book, but for writing THIS book, and for quietly teaching the most stubborn person you know.
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27 of 28 people found the following review helpful:
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What's in the Book, November 18, 2008
This review is from: Seven: The Deadly Sins and the Beatitudes (Paperback)
Summary of chapters
"Introduction: Holes in a Good World" - The intro to Seven is lengthy and introduces both the deadly sins and the Beatitudes.
The author argues that sin is first and foremost a power at work in our world cutting holes in what was once solid. Its most lethal expressions in the human heart are: "Pride, the natural love for myself magnified and perverted into disdain for others; envy, the rejection of the good life God has given me for an obsession with what God gives to someone else; sloth, the indifference toward my neighbor, my soul, my world, or my God; greed, the desire to possess more than I need because of fear or idolatry; lust, handing control over my body and mind to illicit cravings; wrath, the love for justice perverted into bitterness, revenge, and violence; and gluttony, the excessive consumption that deprives another human being of a life-giving necessity."
The author argues that such sins distort our humanity and destroy what God created beautiful. Yet such sins appeal to our desires, and they are difficult to reject therefore, "When Jesus began to announce that heaven was engulfing our world, he had to do more than show this reality through miracles. He had to show that God's work was desirable." Jesus appealed to the desires and intuitions of his audience through a teaching he often gave called the Beatitudes.
"The Beatitudes are some of the sights we see when heaven and earth overlap and interlock. More than anything, they are Jesus' appeal to the brokenhearted and the arrogant, the virtuous and the self-assured to awaken, to turn their perspective right-side-up and not only see the world as God does, but desire it. At their core, the Beatitudes are Jesus' portrait of a dead world resurrected from the clutches of the seven deadly sins...The Beatitudes and deadly sins are two sets of invitations. Looking at them in turn, we see two paths available to us. Both call to deep places within us to come and taste. Both present themselves as life as it actually is. Both invite us to take up residence. But only one will make us happy, for one is life full and awake, the other is the absence, the nothingness. In the Beatitudes and the deadly sins we see heaven and hell and we hear the words they speak to us."
1. "Pride and the Poor in Spirit" - Cook writes, "Pride is the natural love for myself magnified and perverted into disdain for others. Augustine called pride the foundation of sin, for, "Pride made the soul desert God, to whom it should cling as the source of life, and to imagine itself instead as the source of its own life." In other words, the more I make my life, my well-being, my enlightenment, and my success primary, the further I step from reality. Thus, the hell-bound do not travel downward; they travel inward, cocooning themselves behind a mass of vanity, personal rights, and defensiveness." Conversely the poor in spirit know they are empty. Cook argues, "The poor in spirit are blessed because they alone know they need help--and any step toward help must be a step toward community. Jesus said to those who acknowledge their spiritual poverty that `theirs is the kingdom of heaven,' because here in heaven we thrive on codependency. Here in heaven we suffer and mend together. Here in heaven the language we speak assumes that you and I are one, that we need each other, that healing comes when we exhale all the toxic things within us by confessing them. Total exposure is not a requirement to enjoy heaven; total exposure is what enjoying heaven looks like."
2. "Envy and the Blessed Mourner" - The author argues that envy has "the deadly ability to distract our heart and mind from the daily bread God puts in our hands each morning, focusing us instead on the gifts, status, talents, and joys he gives to others. This is not only a rejection of the good that God has given to me; this is a desire to become someone I'm not, was never made to be, and will not enjoy becoming if my jealousy ever succeeds." Conversely, Jesus says that those who mourn expose the places they lack. Cook writes, "Those who envy and those who mourn are both in positions of want. They both desire a different kind of life with different details, but only one group finds happiness.'"
3. "Sloth and Those Who Hunger For a Life Made Right" - Cook argues that sloth is not about being lazy. Sloth is indifference. He cites Dante who called sloth "a failure to love God with all one's heart, all one's mind, and all one's soul." Where the slothful are controlled by apathy, those who "hunger for a life made right" push toward what matters despite their lack. Cook writes, "When Jesus said, `Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled,' he was not blessing people who were already filled with goodness ... Jesus was addressing those with wrecked moral lives. So wrecked in fact, that he associated their pain with starvation." It is these, writes Cook, who will experience heaven filling their world, for they are empty enough to receive it.
4. "Greed and the Mercy Giver" - "Greed" writes Cook, "is not gluttony, which indulges to the point of bursting. Greed in many ways could care less about enjoying its spoils. Greed pursues accumulation. It is the desire to possess more than I need, because of fear or idolatry. A fitting personification of greed is Ebenezer Scrooge, who sat alone at night with a single candle to light his cold bedroom. `Darkness is cheap,' wrote Charles Dickens, `and Scrooge liked it.' Where the greedy hoard, the merciful give even out of their want. Cook writes, "Giving mercy not only reaffirms the humanity of others; it reaffirms and invigorates our own humanity. Even in the most desperate places, those who give away what they have are the ones who in the end truly receive." The argument is that those who stockpile drown in their stuff, where the merciful breathe easily the only life worth having.
5. "Lust and the Pure of Heart" - Cook argues that God is not a substitute for sex, as Freud thought, but sex can be a substitute for God. Lust is self-absorbed and uses others for its own satisfaction. The pure in heart however honor the unique value of a person as a vessel (or potential vessel) of God's Spirit. They in fact see into others, see the hands at work, see the Spirit of God just as Jesus promised. Cook writes, "You and I have desires. We will never be rid of them. They are meant for our good and are only burdensome when we seek to fulfill them with things that cannot satisfy. Our desires can keep us pinned to shadows, or they can be redirected toward what is real. They can insist that we are mere animals, or they can awaken us to a new way of being human."
6. "Wrath and Meek Peacemakers" - Dante's description of wrath was "love of justice perverted to revenge and spite." As with the other deadly sins, Cook argues that wrath is essentially self-focused. It defends its own territory. It lashes out at the provocation of others, and causes only confusion and discord. Peacemakers, those who restrain their fists, know that there is no territory of their own, for "the earth is the Lord's and everything in it." Peacemakers honor their Father, and their Father gives to his children (even the meekest) the whole world. Cook writes, "What an incredible thing to hear! In Jesus' kingdom, the harmless and kind will gain what tyrants and the violent spent their entire lives seeking to possess. [When Jesus said blessed are the meek for they will inherit the earth; blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called children of God], he judged and called worthless all the world's power plays. He mocked such pursuits with matter-of-fact candor and said those marginalized and oppressed by the strong will inevitably possess all the plunder."
7. "Gluttony and the Persecuted" - The author argues that Gluttony's favorite word is "more." Food, drink, sex, hobbies, possessions: the glutton is an extremist. Those who are persecuted for Christ's sake, however, give even those things they need for the love of their King. Cook writes, "The question of gluttony and the persecuted is a question of marriage. To what am I united? What will I give everything for? The glutton's answer comes through addictive behaviors. Though we may say our first love is for God or a set of human beings, our actions tell the real story. The glutton sells her soul for another hit, another car, another round of trivial pleasures, a forbidden fruit. The persecuted, on the other hand, give even what she needs for the sake of a lover."
8. "The Story God Loves" - Like the intro, this chapter focuses heavily on resurrection. Cook argues that the beatitudes are an example of the work God is in fact doing in our world. He writes, "We taste the fruit of God's renewed world when the poor in spirit fill God's kingdom. We taste the fruit of God's new world when comfort comes to those who mourn, when the meek inherit the earth, when God's fullness enlivens those who hunger and thirst for a right soul. We taste the fruit of God's new world when mercy is poured out on the merciful, when the pure in heart see God, when the peacemakers are known universally as God's sons and daughters. We taste the fruit of God's new world when the persecuted take their place beside the prophets with gladness, knowing their suffering is not vanity but union with Christ. Among so many other details of God's future, the Beatitudes are heaven breaking into our desert world and filling it with the life of God's future."
Summing up the deadly sins he writes, "Jesus showed in his teachings and parables, those who serve pride will be left alone. Those who serve the fires of lust and wrath will burn up in their flames. Those who serve envy and sloth will experience a dark...
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