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Sex Detox Paperback – January 29, 2008

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Editorial Reviews


“In a town where everyone wants go down in history remembered for something, Ian Kerner wants to go down as the champion of going down.” (New York magazine)

“Love Sex and the City? Revisit the world of strategic dating with Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either.” (People)

“Men, while still lame, can no longer hide behind the old excuse of ignorance when it comes to pleasuring a woman--the facts are all here in this complete guide.” (Dr. Drew Pinsky, co-host of Loveline)

“Move over, Casanova. Step aside, Don Juan. Out of the way Mr. Big. Meet Ian Kerner, the author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.” (New York Post)

“Required reading for all men who are dating and all women who are wondering why they’re not satisfied.” (Cindy Chupack, writer/executive producer of Sex and the City)

“Take note, guys. This book is your secret weapon.” (Jauretsi Saizarbitoria, Jane Magazine)

“This book has an incredible amount of detailed, useful information about pleasuring women. I kind of knew I was doing everything wrong, but now I know why. Thanks Ian!” (Joel Stein)

“This well-written, hands-on, fluff-free book puts the ‘big-penis-big-orgasm’ theory to rest once and for all, and offers men the tools they need to have their partners coming back for more. No man or woman should be without it.” (Michele Weiner-Davis, M.S.W., author of The Sex-Starved Marriage)

“Witty and informed . . . this must-read promises to help you break your bad dating habits and stay true to your own intentions.” (Us Weekly)

“Ian Kerner is that rare man who truly loves women and wants to help them. Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either is a smart and very funny guide to getting off your butt and getting back on the journey that will eventually lead you to someone who love (From the foreword by Amy Sohn, New York magazine columnist)

“Here comes a book that puts men in their places - smack dab in between women’s legs!” (Cake)

“Every man’s must-read. Tell your guy to put down the remote and pick up She Comes First.” (Cosmopolitan)

“Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either is a funny and truly helpful look at what modern women may have forgotten (or just won’t admit) about themselves. Ian Kerner’s insights show us what we really think, why it matters, and how we can get what we really want.” (Jane Buckingham, author of The Modern Girl's Guide to Life)

“Armed with a doctorate in clinical sexology, Kerner has devoted his life to the study and practice of good sex-there are few men that wouldn’t benefit from the female-centric philosophy and techniques that Kerner advocates.” (Salon.com)

“An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!” (Playgirl)

“A funny and truly helpful look at what modern women may have forgotten (or just won’t admit) about themselves. (Jane Buckingham, author of The Modern Girl's Guide to Life)

“[Kerner] addresses common sexual concerns with compassion and straightforward advice.” (New York Post)

“Women will be putty in your hands if you read this book!” (Anka Radakovich, author of The Wild Girl's Club)

“You’ve all heard about ‘lunch at the Y.’ Well, this book will make it a feeding frenzy.” (—Sue Johanson, host of Oxygen's Talk Sex)

PRAISE FOR BE HONEST—YOU’RE NOT THAT INTO HIM EITHER:“Love Sex and the City? Revisit the world of strategic dating with Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either.” (People)

PRAISE FOR SHE COMES FIRST:“The sex manual getting the most attention these days is She Comes First. . . . With a cool sense of humor and an obsessive desire to inform, [Kerner] encourages men through an act that many find mystifying.” (New York Times)

PRAISE FOR BE HONEST—YOU’RE NOT THAT INTO HIM EITHER“Unlike many nuptial-obsessed manuals, Be Honest is about figuring out how to best serve your own needs, both sexual and otherwise, and still respect yourself in the morning.” (Elle.com)

“It’s refreshing and reassuring to know that Ian Kerner is out there in the world showing people how to love.” (Helen Fisher, PhD, author of Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love)

“Who knew that a temporary bout of celibacy could be so sexy? This book will gently hold your hand throughout the process, challenging you with questions you never dared ask yourself and inspiring you with stories and manageable to-do lists.” (Em & Lo, authors of Buh Bye: The Ultimate Guide to Dumping and Getting Dumped and Sex Toy: An A-Z Guide to Bedside Accessories)

“Kerner makes intimacy intimate again, as well as downright lustful. You’ll walk away trusting your instincts instead of subscribing to the fabricated ideas of what sexy ‘should’ be.” (Stephanie Klein, author of Straight Up and Dirty)

About the Author

Ian Kerner, Ph.D., is a sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author of numerous books. He contributes regularly to Today and lives in New York City with his wife and two young sons.


Product Details

  • Paperback: 238 pages
  • Publisher: WilliamMr (January 1, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0061136077
  • ISBN-13: 978-0061136078
  • Product Dimensions: 9.3 x 6.2 x 0.9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (10 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #919,212 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sexuality counselor who specializes in sex therapy, couples therapy and working with individuals on a range of relational issues.

Ian is the New York Times best-selling author of numerous books, including She Comes First (Harper Collins) which is the best-selling sex advice book of the last decade and has been translated into more than a dozen languages.

Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with frequent appearances on CNN, The Today Show and The Dr. Oz Show. He lectures frequently on topics related to sex and relationships, with recent appearances at New York University, Yale, Princeton, the French Institute Alliance Francaise and the inaugural Sex and Attachment conference in NYC.

Ian is also the founder of GoodInBed.com, a web destination and publishing company that brings together many of the country's leading sex experts and also conducts original research into various aspects of human sexuality. Recent topics of study include: relationship boredom, sexual adventurousness and changing attitudes around monogamy.

In addition to being a New York State licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Ian is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). He works with individuals and couples both privately and at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy, one of New York's oldest and most respected not-for-profit mental health training and treatment facilities. His practice is composed equally of heterosexual and LGBTQ patients.

Ian was born and raised in New York City, where he lives with his wife and two sons and their family dogs, Jitterbug and Oscar.

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Ian Kerner is a gifted writer with deep insights into sex and relationships. He's the best sex writer I have ever encountered, quite possibly the best of his generation.

Kerner's work avoids the easy mistakes of most sex manuals: there are no catalogs of impossible sex positions (anatomically speaking, he says, there are only four); there's no disembodied, parental voice dispensing intimate advice (instead, Kerner bares his own humiliating experiences as a sex therapy patient), and most importantly, there is no large collection of sex facts, lacking synthesis or interpretation.

Kerner has a firm grip on anatomy and physiology, but he also understands that sex isn't all about the physical. It's more about what's in our minds-- our psychology, cultural background, genetics, and evolutionary history. I get the feeling that Ian Kerner knows what really makes us tick as sexual beings.

With his newest book, Sex Detox, Kerner offers what many of us could use but few would avail ourselves of-- several sessions of helpful and revealing sex therapy. Instead of visiting a live therapist, we are guided by Kerner in the form of a self-help manual. Sex Detox is designed to accommodate singles who are dating, partners who want therapy together, or coupled people whose partners are not interested in therapy.

Sex Detox is modeled partly on a 12-step program. There are daily exercises and writings, and the plan asks abstinence from dating (if you are single) or sex (if you are coupled) for 30 days, with an eye towards recharging your sex life. Following the full course involves an assessment of your physical health, childhood experiences, and dating experiences.

Most challenging is a section on finding your own "love map".
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Sex Detox is not what you expect. Or maybe it is. A few years ago, Sting was on Oprah. Oprah wanted to know if the rumors were true: Did Sting and his wife 'do it' in every room of the house? Yes, Sting said.

Sting was supposedly talking about the Kama Sutra, but what he was really talking about were the marathon love sessions, made up of kissing for hours on end on the couch, whereupon one of the kids usually walked by and said, Ewe, get a room, guys.

Sting was talking about communication, not positions. And that is exactly what Ian Kerner is talking about in his book, Sex Detox: Recharge Desire, Revitalize Intimacy, Rejuvenate your Love Life.

Kerner is a sex therapist who grew up in New York City, the son of an artist, a man who lived amongst writers, artists and bohemians. This man has hit the nail on the head. No, sex is not about positions. Yes, sex is about communication, intimacy and hunger.

Kerner offers couples and singles a 30-day program to help rejuvenate their love life, by 'doing without' sex. How is this possible? And why?

In his preface, Kerner states:

"American sex lives are broken, 'shattered,' as the old Rolling Stone song goes --and we cannot seem to make them whole...We have lost too many pieces along the way to gather ourselves up because deep down we believe we are doomed to stumble again...While our cultural exposure to sex has heightened in the last decade, our level of personal satisfaction has plummeted to a staggering low, with sexual dissatisfaction being cited more often than ever as a primary cause of divorce...

...It's time to take sex off the table so we can, once and for all, truly feast on love..."

And so begins Kerner's book.
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I did like the book Sex Detox. It offers some real insight into how to recharge your sexual batteries. I will freely admit I didn't do the program that Ian lays out here. That didn't remove my appreciation for what he has laid out here.

This would be good for either Men or Women.
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What if someone told you you could experience love, sex and intimacy as you've never imagined it in just 30 days. Would you be interested? Dr. Ian Kerner is a sex therapist and has created a formula and system to "fix" the average American's sex life in just 30 days.

As the good Doctor puts it in his book, "While our cultural exposure to sex has heightened over the last decade, our level of personal satisfaction has plummeted to a staggering low." With this in mind it helps to know that you are not alone. This book will walk you through the 30 days to recharge desire, revitalize your intimacy and rejuvenate your love life. Whether you are married or single, gay or straight, male or female, young or old, you can get more out of your love life with Dr. Kerner's book "Sex Detox."

But wait there is a catch. You have to be active in the program. Dr. Kerner has day by day activities such as deep breathing exercises, keeping a Detox Diary and various discussions and quizzes throughout each day. Okay now here may be the hard part for some; you have to spend that same 30 days you are doing the activities not having sex. That's right no sex for 30 days. But at the end of that 30 days you will find your attitude toward sex, love, desire and intimacy ready to create a beautiful life for yourself.

The book is divided into sections for singles and those in relationships to make it easier. Once again you have to be active in your own growth and this is where the miracle of this book works out. You find out your own strengths and weaknesses and your growth is your own.

Dr. Kerner may not solve the world's oversexed information overload, but he can help you help yourself.
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