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Sex, God And Men: A godly man's road map to sexual success

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The book "Sex, Men and God" is immensly helpful in understanding the underlaying reasons for sexual addiction. The problem is affecting men all over the world. Dr. Weiss gives you a thorough understanding of the problem and clear real-life examples. He also gives you practical step-by-step guidelines for working through the problems and solving them on your way to sexual success. The author obviously has years of counseling experience on the subject. I strongly recommend the book.

If you are a Christian male and have struggled with sexual issues, pornography or relating to your wife this is the book for you! Easy to read and understand. Immediately applicable to today's life and challenges. Also discusses how to deal with and talk to teenage males about sex.

Best book on the subject. For men or teenages 14 or over only. Highly recommend compared to any other book on this subject. This book was issued to me at his conference and his outline followed the book on two or three chapters. Best book for helping your teenage boy deal with these issues or marriage issues as a result of problems in this area. For believers or non-believers..Writer has been sober for 15 years and has interviewed 1000 people with these problems.

I am not under 13, but wrote the review like that to keep my review anonymous.
There were many things I really liked about this book -- and many things I didn't.
The book's premise is if your brain associates sex with anything but loving relationships, you will be less satisfied. On the other hand, if you associate sex with one female (wife), and you verbally praise her a lot, she'll want to have sex with you and your brain will desire her more, benefiting both of you. The author was a player when he was younger, became a sex addict, found Christianity, and now counsels about sex addiction. He definitely was not the type of guy that had trouble attracting women.

I liked his explanation of how fantasy and porn affects your brain and will affect your future marriage. Too bad he didn't cite any of his sources. Nor does he tell single people how to ensure good sex in marriage (well, one is no porn, for the rest, read Sheet Music by Kevin LeMan, Finding the Love of Your Life by Neil Clark Warren, and No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover). I liked his three a day. I also liked how he emphasized the need for verbal praise with sex. I am Asian and never learned the importance of verbal praise. I also liked the rubber band technique for controlling fantasies.

What I did not like is that he gives the impression he's trying to promote his books and counseling center. Many times he cites his experience, but he never talks about the Nice Guy Syndrome - the guy who can't get women to like him and whose only choice is to masturbate. In fact, in his other book, and Joe Zychik in Most Personal Addiction make a bigger point that men who remain virgin to marriage could have bigger issues with porn and their future. A study by Sandfort in 2007 or 2008 confirmed that people who start sex later in life have more problems. I also didn't like how his chapter on shame addressed people who had felt bad about sex -- but said NOTHING about the many, many, nice guys who feel incredible shame from women never liking them. I also didn't like how the only two healthy people in his book are (1) a guy who was virgin at marriage and married his college sweetheart at age 23, and (2) a guy who had lots of sexual partners before marriage, but knew verbal praise was important. His book neglects the single guys in their 20s who can't get a girl. While this book is aimed at married people, because he has a chapter on the seductress, and that a supportive partner helps heal the best, a single guy would benefit from seeing how porn and fantasy will hurt him later. However, I thin Joe ZyChik addresses the single guy better in his free eBook, Most Personal Addiction.

A bigger question is what about premarital sex. The men who avoid it often get stuck in porn and fantasy. The author had two healthy guys - one who had lots of premarital sex, and who married right after college to his high school sweetheart. People rarely marry their high school sweetheart these days and avg age of men is 28 at marriage. So what's a guy to do? That study by Sanford, and another one by Hyde and DeLamater found that men who started being sexually active later in life had more problems. I think Sheet Music does provide some solutions without having premarital sex. Joe Zychik distiguishes ethical and unethical sex, and meaningless sex.

My recommendation is that this is a great book raising the awareness of how fantasy and porn can hurt your sex life forever. I owe it for that. And the importance of verbal praise. But read No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover first. If you are contemplating marriage and want a book on having great sex once you are married, go for Sheet Music and Finding the Love of Your Life first. If you do have a problem with fantasy masturbation or pornography, take a look at the free eBook by Joe Zychik on Most Personal Addiction. It's eye opening, and a little more straightforward. I do NOT recommend Weiss's other book on Intimacy because several chapters are copies of this book, but it lacks the brain research which was the best part of this book.

I have come back to this book again and again. It has helped both my husband and I understand the compulsion and the psychology at the core of the issue. It has tons of life application and is written at the perfect level for understanding. I HIGHLY recommend this book. I have read others concerning the same topic and this is the best I've come across so far!!

A great book for anyone who has concerns about sexual relationships. Good for women and men. Insights into developing a good relationship with your spouse, and also why some people find it so hard to be monagomous. After I read it I purchased additional copies for friends.
Especially good for people in 12 step programs who have concerns about sexual relationships.

I am single, and I bought this book for advice. I recommend it only for married men.