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Sex God Method - 2nd Edition

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I mostly agree with the ideas of this book. I often recommend it to men (I am a woman). I wish more men understood this stuff and more women were comfortable opening themselves up to it, as well.

Unfortunately, the author makes two grave errors in his presentation.

1. He assumes that a woman's Reptilian Brain's sexual response applies to every aspect of her life. This is true only for women (girls?) who cannot control their Reptilian response with their Higher Brain/Neocortex. But some of us actually can. Yes, the type of sex he describes IS addicting for a woman. But there are women who can control addictions that are counter-productive to their lives/goals. Women who look at the big picture.

I will admit that many people when getting the best sex of their lives will throw everything else out the window, but not all.

I don't really blame him for making this mistake. We live in a society that thrives on addictions: work, lust, cybersex, shopping, eating, gaming and the list goes on and on. Men and women are both encouraged to develop addictions to all sorts of things that can then take over their lives. Our brains are hardwired to do just that. Push a "pleasure button" enough times with anything and it will start to control YOU and your choices and eventually, your life. Yes, I've known the kind of sex he's talking about, but nothing, no matter how good, has ever made me lose my center in the ways he describes, virtually becoming a slave to the man to continue the sex. I think the author does not have much experience with mature women with impulse control, high self esteem and evolved characters. Which leads me to my second point...

2. He suggests that these techniques can lead to multiple partners, all aware of each other, all satisfied happy campers, all presumably doing his laundry and paying for his dinners, etc. I'm not doubting his honesty here, I'm doubting his judgment. Manipulating people with tools that cause a sex addiction strong enough to make them lose their center and make the man their world? Uh...just another form of drug dealer, if you ask me. Junkies love getting their fix, too. That doesn't take you off the ethical hook for selling the heroin, ya know?

That part is sad. His ideas about what women really want in bed are spot on. As they would be. He's field tested these techniques and obviously created a cadre of "junkies" to his sexual prowess. But his knowledge is just a tool. Like most tools you can use it to either serve or subjugate. It's disturbing that the ethical implications of the benefits he mentions are not even on the table.

Consider also that the man using these tools successfully is in just as much danger of becoming a "seduction addict" and finding his own life out of balance.

It's a shame that he felt the need to "sell" his book with promises of just another addict's paradise that serve neither the seducer nor the seduced in the long run. Because the information here, when used for the purpose of enhancing a true partnership can really help lots of people out there.

I gave Rose three stars for thinking outside of the box in order to really understand women's sexual response. Putting on the radar that the physical part of sex is only half the equation is a huge leap in consciousness raising for men who think physical performance is the beginning and end in bed. It's not.

I subtracted a star because he's still in the box of Reptilian addiction infomercial marketing. And another because he does not take into account the thinking woman.

Caveat to male readers of this book: Don't be surprised if your wives are put off by the stuff in this book. The Madonna/Whore dichotomy is well entrenched in our collective psyche. Many woman cannot see themselves as a "good woman" if they admit they would like the things Rose describes. That's why he talks about needing to "convert" women to feel comfortable about their sexual natures.

As a "self-converted" woman, I just wish he would have done more to "convert" men to being grounded and responsible with this information for themselves and their partners.

I am a woman - and I agree with a lot of what Ambella says in her review.

The bedroom techniques in the book will (and do) work - they are clearly based on Rose's experience in the field - and I personally enjoy them. However, I do NOT agree with Rose's speculation on WHY they work.

He postulates that all women want to be dominated - not true - as evidenced by the Joe Dugan review - he clearly didn't get good results.

First, domination/submission in the bedroom can be incredibly erotic. However, being dominated outside of the bedroom (workplace or socially) by a strange man can be threatening and repulsive to almost all women. I do not agree that all women crave alpha males and domination. I agree with what Joe Dugan says in his review, that women want a man they can look up to, respect, and is confident.

IMHO, Rose is just wrong is his reasoning for why domination works. I think it works because when a woman is dominated by man (whom she TRUSTS) in the bedroom it is incredibly immersive for the woman. Being dominated in the way he describes, forcefully drives away any intrusive thoughts and insecure chatter in the woman's mind. When being dominated by a man there is no room in your mind to think about anything else - you can't worry if your thighs aren't right or if you look fat in this position, the mind is dominated to think about sex - his sex. This is incredibly liberating for a woman. It also provides a woman the freedom to submit. If a woman craves submission, only a dominating man can give her that freedom - this is rare and powerful for such a woman. I do agree with Rose that most men are not aware of this secret desire that is present in many women. This is a taboo thing to admit for women and both men and woman are socially conditioned against it. (Breaking any taboo in the bedroom is erotic!)

I DON'T agree, however, that all women crave this in the same way. In my conversations with other women I have learned that if a woman had been subject to an overly dominating workplace, boss, father, or other influence in her life she may have had enough of this domination stuff and just not dig it. Also, if a woman has been raped, sexually abused, or the victim of a violent crime, domination techniques may produce highly distracting thoughts and bad memories that are completely counter-productive to good sex.

Domination is a `flavor' of sex. Like chocolate, many, many women love it, some just don't care for it, and some are violently allergic. Be sensible.

I also agree with Ambella that it must be a specific type of woman who would become a sex `addict' and give up everything for a man who provides it. (Some women spend all their money on beanie babies too.) I'm not denying the truth that he has created `sex addicts' as he claims, but you must consider they type of women he is describing. In reality, we all know that it is hard to end a relationship that is NOT working but the sex is mind-blowing, but we women do it - and men do also.

I get it that women using sex to manipulate men is a cliché and permeates our society. I understand the urge to `get back' women with techniques being sold as a way to put the shoe on the other foot. However, I think that deliberately using sex to manipulate another (man or woman) to create a `sex addict' for social or financial gain is sad, misguided, and misses the point of great sex.

It IS possible to have partnership of equals who pull together as a team and respect and cherish each other - AND still drop it all to enjoy the kind of explosive sex that exaggerated gender roles and domination/submission can bring in the bedroom. I know because I'm in one. It is worth working for.

If you pick up the tools he offers I hope you leave behind philosophy.

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There's a good reason why this book used to be called The Sex Revolution Handbook, and that is because this stuff isn't taught anywhere else. Most other books talk regurgitate the same topics: erogenous zones, where the g-spot is, how to stimulate the clit. This book, however, details the topics that actually make the most difference in the bedroom, the mental side of sex, things that the physical techniques alone cannot do. I highly recommend this book for all men, regardless of how good in bed they think they are. And if you want to get it for cheap, google sex god site and you'll find the link to get a deal for the book.

While reading this book alot of the things you read may seem far fetched and some things you may never see yourself doing, but this book changed my life for sure. While I've only tried the tips from the book on one girl I must say she loves it! She has told me it's the best sex of her life and she has an orgasm everytime. Whats funny is that all of the tips are pretty simple. No crazy positions. It's all about getting in her head. Dirty talk, hair pulling, ass-slapping, holding her down: she loves it all. I definitly recommend this book if you want to keep a girl coming back.

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This book is aimed at men who want to learn how to, OR want to get better at being sexually dominant. If the idea of being OR being with a sexually dominant man doesn't get you hot, this book isn't for you.

261 pages total, and very little fluff. It's definitely worth reading. I caught 5 grammatical mistakes in this book. Not bad at all, especially for an e-book.

The cost of this book is justified just through the Fantasy chapter. Absolutely priceless advice, especially when he teaches how to introduce fantasies (215). He's dead on about everything, and attacks issues in a very logical way that more than once made me say "why didn't I think of that?!" Not to mention, some of his experiences are really hot! His descriptions are eloquently written and explained. On a side note, there are also some really touching stories, two of which made me cry.

Probably the most helpful section of this book is where the Rose addresses a lot of critical errors men make with women. As a woman myself, I have experienced a lot of men make these errors. Author gives priceless advice that every man should read.

I started having major conflicts with this book when Rose started talking about his own relationships. The first thing is something a previous reviewer already pointed out: how he says there are three women he has sex with on a regular basis that are completely fine with an open relationship and cook, do his laundry, and give him money. As the previous reviewer also said, "I don't doubt him, I just question the judgment." The author makes it sound like these women are addicted to the sex he provides them, even to the point of obsession... "Women will describe this as a burning obsession, a need to be with you, and a sense of emptiness and despair when you are gone." (178)

Whoah whoah whoah. Let's stop right here. This doesn't sound psychologically healthy to me at all.

I agree with a lot of the points this guy makes about dominance, and SEXUALLY, it is okay to look at a woman like an inferior being because it can be a turn on for both sexes. However, viewing women as the inferior sex seems to be a part of the author's everyday life. This can be seen how the author refers to "training" women time and time again, or in the chapter where he's talking about double standards between men and women:

"...use the terms "s***s" and "w****s" equally for males and females, and call girls "players." Make it clear that you think that the traditional system of values where a man is admired for having a lot of sex but a girl is condemned is hypocritical and ridiculous." (181-182)

When he says "make it clear that you think," but does not actually explain the double standard, it sounds like he's telling some of his readers to lie. Maybe that is just me splitting hairs.

I digress; back to his three girlfriends. The author claims to love these women (11, 178, 233), but honestly, I don't think he knows the difference between love and infatuation. Take, for instance, when he says "if you bring up anal sex outside the bedroom, now she's thinking with her logical brain--which is always bad," (156). Love means trust. Why wouldn't he want her to think with her logical brain? Fear of rejection? Fear of her not trusting him?

For that reason, I completely reject the way the author approaches anal sex: Don't ask, just tell her what he's going to do when she's on the brink of climax and wait for her to say yes. Using her moment of weakness to get what he wants? Doesn't that seem a tad manipulative; even sick? Would you really do that to someone that you LOVED?

I ran into this conflict again, later in the book, when he was talking about relationship talks. "...there is only one good time for relationship talks: after sex." (191) Rose argues that the woman will be incapable of manipulation after a series of powerful orgasms, and that it is unwise to answer the "where is this going?" question outside of the bedroom. To some degree, I agree with him. After sex is when the two souls are the closest, so it is a good time to talk relationships. On the other hand, I don't agree with taking advantage of a woman at her moment of weakness. The entire Building an Open Relationship chapter is a guide for manipulating women into being okay with an open relationship. By taking advantage of their weaknesses, I might add. Rose goes on to say that women normally manipulate men into exclusive relationships. Err, why does that make it okay to manipulate a woman into an open one?

"She must be highly conditioned to be submissive to you," (178) he says, and I disagree. A man does not have to and should never psychologically condition a woman to be submissive for him. Girls are submissive to varying degrees. If she does not enjoy being submissive, she is not going to be submissive. If she does enjoy being submissive, a man should make sure that he lets her know how much he likes it when she is submissive and that it is O.K. to be submissive. On the note of his psychological conditioning for submissiveness:

"Never fall into the trap of working hard for a girl, and letting her use sex as a reward. This is a surefire way to make her less sexually attracted to you. A sexual master will never work so that a woman gives him sex. Instead, he will make women work for sex with him. Use sex as a reward for good behavior." (180)

Again. If it's wrong for a female to use sex as a reward, why does that make it right for a male to use sex as a reward? Sex should never be a reward. Sex should be what both partners truly want. No wonder he's constantly talking about training women and how his three girlfriends do his laundry and dish out cash. All he has done is reverse the traditional gender roles. That is not love. A couple should have sex because they love and care about each other. He even points out, the more deeply the partners care about each other, the better the sex will be (178-179, 184), which leads onto the next conflict I have...

"If you are a virgin yourself, you should lose your virginity as soon as possible. People have generally been conditioned to believe their first time should be very special. While I believe that you should not fight this conditioning in others, you should fight it in yourself. Remember that you cannot improve your sexual skills without experience. Don't wait for that "one special girl" to lose your virginity to. Get experience on lesser girls for now, so that when that one special girl does come you will have already achieved sexual mastery." (188)

...wtf? Let's start with how it doesn't make sense that the author believes that the readers should not fight in others the very conditioning that he is telling his readers to fight in themselves. Talk about not practicing what you preach.

Onto "losing your virginity as soon as possible," and "lesser girls." Obviously not everyone is in love with who they sleep with. On that note, why the hell would you sleep with someone if you didn't even like them? Besides, by having sex with anyone and everyone, the value of sex decreases. It becomes ordinary, commonplace. And on the note of "lesser girls," Rose goes on to say in a later chapter that "some girls have been so damaged by social programming that it is not worth the effort to teach them [sexual skills]." (206) All I have to say is that's stupid. If you love someone, it will always be worth the effort.

Onto "getting experience". A man should not be worried about getting sexual prowess with other women so that he can impress the woman he loves. There are other things (far more important things) that he should be worried about; like getting a job that can support this woman and maybe in the future, a family. He should be worried about doing the right thing, making the right choices, and making himself psychologically attractive to the woman he loves. The author might make the point that a woman would be more sexually attracted to a broke bad boy rather than a nice guy that could support a family, but that's why e-books like this exist; so that men that have everything else taken care of can conquer the last part of the equation. Once the nice guy learns how to act like an alpha male, he's going to be a far more attractive option than the broke bad boy.

I am not happy with the way Rose suggests women going on the pill. The pill can permanently damage a woman's libido (speaking from personal experience). Rose does not mention this. Please pick birth control responsibly, and do your research before getting it prescribed.

I was turned off repeatedly by the use of the dirty words and the phrase "my baby" in this book. Especially the p-word. It seems so in-your-face-p*rno to me, that I actually get turned off when ANYONE uses it. Only other thing I wish was addressed was the author's use of the word "little," in front of a feminine word. Definitely something that should have been discussed in the dirty talk chapter.

In conclusion, I am glad that I read this book. I would definitely recommend this book to men that want to learn how to be the sexy bad boy or men that need to put some "oomph" back into their love life. Five stars because it's a sex book, and offers great sex advice. But don't read past "sex book." That's what relationship, marriage, and job books are for. Take any advice that isn't in the genre of a book (like his nutrition chapter) with a grain of salt.

This book has got to be the BEST book on sex I have ever read. It completely changed my sex life.

Dan breaks down the whole female arousal into for simple sexual arousal triggers to get women to achieve female orgasms.

His advice is rock solid and revolutionary.... I always thought I was okay in bed, but man did this book take it to the next level.

This book is definitely a MUST Read for all men!