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Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality Paperback – January 10, 2012
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"Read this book. Whether you are a believer, doubter, or atheist, religion influences your sexuality. Darrel Ray removes our blinders. Never again will you view religion as benign in its effects. With patience, verve, and overwhelming evidence he makes the case that religion is an STD, a sexually tarnishing disease. Religion undermines our capacities for romance, love, sex, intimacy, and parenting. Sex and God, not the Gideon Bible, needs to be in every hotel room."
--J. Anderson Thomson, Jr., M.D., University of Virginia, psychiatrist, author, Why We Believe In God(s): A Concise Guide to the Science of Faith
"The gods seem to have a perverse obsession with the sex lives of mere mortals. In this comprehensive, sharply written survey, Darrel Ray takes us on a tour of the millennia-long religious crusades against guilt-free human sexual expression. I enjoyed this book. It's a fascinating, informative read."
--Christopher Ryan, Ph.D., co-author of Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality
"When it comes to hurtful hypocrisy, it appears that religion and sex may well take the cake. How appropriate therefore - and how courageous - that Darrel Ray has written Sex and God, a powerful debunking of one of the deepest yet rarely examined mythic connections of all time. Give Sex and God a try ... and then drop one of them (I'll leave it up to you to decide which!)."
--David P. Barash, professor of psychology, University of Washington, and author, most recently, of Homo Mysterious: evolutionary mysteries of human nature
"Dr. Ray poignantly applies both the facts and common sense to two of society's greatest untouchables: sex and religion. Approach this book with an open mind and you will find Sex and God puts sexual power back where it belongs: with you!"
--Laci Green, host of Sex+, youtube.com/lacigreen
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Born into a fundamentalist family and raised in Wichita, Kansas, he was surrounded by religion while growing up. He had a grandfather who preached for 40 years, cousins who were preachers and missionaries, and his parents became missionaries when they retired. For decades, he has been intensely curious about the mechanics of religion, how it influences and infects people's minds. He wrote The God Virus in response to a need for a simple and practical understanding of religious mechanics. Something anyone can understand. While Dawkins, Hitchens, Harris and Dennett have written eloquently about religion, these authors are less accessible to those who have little knowledge of philosophy, biology or religious history. Of the thousands of religious books and hundreds of sociology and anthropology books, few if any explain the methods religion uses to infect and control people and cultures. The God Virus and Sex and God, explains in common, understandable terms, religion and its consequences on individuals and society.
Darrel is the father of two adult children and has two grandsons. His hobbies include mountain climbing, flower gardening, and reading. In early 2009, he founded the rapidly growing movement called, Recovering from Religion. You can learn more about this movement at www.recoveringfromreligion.com. In 2011, he turned the organization over to a new executive director, Jerry DeWitt, and became the chairman of the board of this rapidly growing organization.
Dr. Ray travels extensively and speaks in may places about the ideas presented in Sex and God, The God Virus and his research on Sex and Secularism and Recovering from Religion. Please look at his book tour schedule to see if he will be in a place near you soon or contact him directly at IPCPress.com to book an engagement.
Top Customer Reviews
Imagine for a moment that God either doesn't exist or does not care about your sex life. How would this revelation impact your sexuality?
For some, it would mean more sex, for others, less sex - but given all the considerations of research, data, history, testimonials, etc which Ray brings together on this important topic of sex and religion, for most people, the elimination of God from the equation would not result in significant changes to their sex lives. What it would definitely change is this: We would most likely cease to feel guilty about whatever it is we are doing or not doing in our bedrooms.
The religionists' great fear is that apart from the constraints of "thou shalt" and "thou shalt not" - the human race would quickly descend into an abyss of sexual debauchery. But think about it ... without the promise of eternal reward or the threat of damnation, how many of us would actually become rapists or child molesters?
Research shows that Believers engage in the same sexual behaviors, at about the same frequency, as the less religious - the only difference is they feel guilty when they do it. And it is through the guilt that religious leaders and institutions gain their power and control over ordinary people like you and me.
I highly recommend "Sex and God" - it is especially important information for women who are the particular targets of religion's need to channel powerful sexual energy into the service of the Church.
Who Will Benefit..?
On page seventeen, Dr. Ray reveals who will benefit from reading his book. Thus, I will start here. He points out four demographics, and I quote...
*If you are young and not yet experienced in marriage or relationships, this will show you the world of dating in a religious culture. You will learn about the unconscious games used by religious people to trap ou into religion through marriage and relationships.
*If you are in a new relationship or newly married, you will learn about many hidden religious assumptions that directly impact your sex life. Examining these assumptions will give you the power to make informed decisions, free of dogma and indoctrination.
*I you have been married for 10 or 20 years or more, and want to know if your feelings and concerns are normal, this may give you some benchmarks to consider and ideas to further develop your relationship.
*Finally, if you are religious, you will be able to compare your particular religion with many others. You may want to explore such questions as, "Why do all major religions use shame and guilt, regardless of their theology or doctrine?Read more ›
The book is broken up into 5 different sections (Religion in Perspective, Follow the Biology, Follow the Culture, The Psychology of Religion and Sex, and Program Yourself for a Change) with a total of 26 chapters spit up among the sections. Despite it taking me a while to get through the book, most should find this to be a quick read. I'll state at the beginning that the only real negative thing I have to say about the book is that it was repetitious at times, but that was a minor issue, and does not detract from the book or the subject matter at hand. Others have criticized the Sex and Secularism Survey because of the self-selected sample, but there's really no getting around that when you're dealing with the topic of sex. If you disagree, head down to the local shopping mall and approach random people with a clipboard, and tell them you're going to talk to them about their sex lives. Be sure to report back to me afterward to let me know how that went for you.
Religious people are really hung up on the idea of sex. Whether it's heterosexual sex, homosexual sex, bisexual sex, oral sex, anal sex, self-sex (masturbation), and everything here, there, and everywhere pertaining to human sexuality - you can bet your sweet bippy that religion is going to have it's fingers in the pie. The reason for this, as Dr.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
You might not agree with everything in this book but it is an eye opener. It really helps understand our stigma toward other activities.Published 2 months ago by A. Rambaud
This book offers absolutely no questions or answers. The author makes redundant claims over and over again without sufficient evidence to prove his point. Read morePublished 6 months ago by Kay
Fantastic eye opening boom on how religion destroys what it is to be humanPublished 6 months ago by jeremy collins
As an old man brought up as a practising Catholic, I can say that Darrel Ray's rationale certainly makes sense. Read morePublished 6 months ago by Amazon Customer
Simply a must-read for all intelligent people who want to understand the history and psychodynamics behind the huge 'God versus Sex' fall-out. Read morePublished 8 months ago by Dr RJW.
Dr. Ray's book, "Sex and God" literally says it all about the destructive relationship between sex and religions' pernicious influences on this most basic human impulse. Read morePublished 9 months ago by Seeker of Truth
Religious guilt ruins sex. We all knew that. Still, it's pretty well written.Published 10 months ago by Lillian A. Anderson