Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered [Paperback]

Ducky Doolittle (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 18, 2006

Few sex educators are as well-matched to the task of dispensing safe, honest, affirming sex advice as Ducky Doolittle, a former Times Square stripper, who emerged from behind the peepshow glass to climb to the top ranks of advisors on all matters sexual. For more than a decade, she has toured the country with her one-woman show, visiting hundreds of cities, where she has answered sex advice queries from thousands of women and men-partnered and singled, straight and gay. Ducky's winning humor and rich knowledge of human sexuality have allowed complete strangers to open up and reveal their most intimate thoughts. In Sex with the Lights On she shares for the first time the most-often asked questions, which include: What's the best oral sex technique? Does every woman have a G-spot-and what are the top tips for locating her own? Can men have multiple orgasms? How does a couple introduce anal sex into their relationship? Why do anti-depressants lower sex drive and how can that be avoided? Ducky not only answers each question with a sex-positive open-mind, she gives readers permission to laugh and relax and to create the sex lives that best suit their own desires.

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About the Author

Ducky is a sex educator, writer & comedian. Her story is one of a woman who emerged from behind the peepshow glass to the head of the class - as one of America's most celebrated sex educators. Ducky toured the nation performing her signature shows: Amazing Objects Removed From Human Rectums and The Screwy Animal Show. She traveled to every corner of the nation, from Boise, Idaho to New Orleans and has regularly appeared in clubs and cabarets in New York City, San Francisco and at The Improv's "Ladies of the Evening" in Hollywood.

Ducky's experiences both on and off stage have contributed to the unique and sincere personality she is today. In the workshops and classes she now conducts, she mixes humor with sex advice, giving her audience permission to laugh and relax as she dishes out real, solid sexual information. Her schedule is packed full of engagements, venues include universities & colleges, non-profit & community organizations, private events and public venues like the Museum of Sex and Toys in Babeland in New York City. Ducky regularly appears at universities like Antioch College, Barnard College, Columbia University, New York University, Pace University, Sarah Lawrence College, University of Michigan, Vassar College, Wesleyan University - to name a few! Ducky also spent 3 years working as the Educational Coordinator and lead workshop facilitator for Toys in Babeland, NYC. This year she was awarded a fellowship from the New York Foundation for the Arts in the category of Non-Fiction Literature.

Ducky has been featured in many magazines like Spin, Penthouse, and Details. She has been seen in newspapers like The New York Times, The New Yorker, New York Observer, NY Post, and The Village Voice. She is frequently consulted on women's sexuality issues by magazines like Marie Claire's What Makes It Irresistible (April 2002), Cosmopolitan's Female Ejaculation: The Last Taboo (March 2002 - UK), Honey Magazine's Foreplay: Have an Orgasm Tonight! (February 2002) and Mademoiselle's How To Be The Best Lover He's Ever Had (January 2000). Ducky's work as a sex journalist and sex advisor has been published internationally. Ducky often appears on shows like Day to Day (NPR), Sex Bytes (HBO), Sexcetera (PlayboyTV), Behind Closed Doors (PlayboyTV), and The Howard Stern Show (E!). Her sex advice has been cited by Jay Leno in his monologue! Ducky has also been a consulting sex expert for The Learning Channel's Sex In The New Century (ABC New Productions) and she was the writer and host of 60 episodes Fresh Advice, a sex advice show for women (Pseudo Programs, Inc).

Product Details

• Paperback: 320 pages
• Publisher: Da Capo Press; 1st Caroll & Graf Ed edition (April 18, 2006)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0786716800
• ISBN-13: 978-0786716807
• Product Dimensions: 8.2 x 5.7 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #616,947 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars An Excellent Resource, Well-Written, April 16, 2006

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Marcus B. Wyche - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered (Paperback)

An AOL Recommended Book, Ducky Doolittle's "Sex With the Lights On" intersperses questions and answers on various sex topics (anatomy, orgasm, oral sex, etc.) with anecdotal snippets culled from her years as a sex educator and entertainer, as well as her own personal experiences and observations. For the reader interested in the literature of sex and sexual fulfillment, Ducky's casual-in-tone, sex-positive book will remind you of other similar, informative books such as the Q&A section of Lou Paget's "365 Days of Sensational Sex," Dr. Ruth Westheimer's "Sex for Dummies," Deborah Sundahl's "Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot," and "Sex Toys 101" by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah (this last book being mentioned in Ducky's bibliography). What, then, sets this book apart from all the rest?

The book's main strength lies in its hidden gems, the small details one picks up along the way-for instance, useful informational tidbits on, say, water-based lubricants vs. glycerin-based ones, or the possibility of allergic reactions not only to latex condoms, but also to the spermicide Nonoxynol-9. Having worked in the pleasure retail business, Ducky is also comfortably well-versed in the world of sex toys, their function, care, and maintenance.

Anal sex enthusiasts from the experienced to the merely curious will be pleased, as Ducky donates considerable time and good-natured attention to anal pleasure and health (one reads that she has a particular affinity for this practice, on "holidays"). And then there are the occasional unexpected bon mots, often pretty funny (my two favorite ones are her taglines on penis curvature and the one on "poop,"-I don't want to spoil it for you, but read them and you'll see). The feeling that this is an author comfortable and encouraging about sexuality and all its myriad aspects (not just her own) clearly comes through.

Bottom line: if you're a beginner, check this book out because in between two covers it straightforwardly delves into topics you may have always been curious about but not had the full confidence to ask or explore. Experienced lovers can use this as a quick reference, or at the very least access its lengthy bibliography to lead them to additional resources. In the book, Ducky is neither fully interested in dry statistical numbers (for that read "The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior") nor deep delvings into the psychological/emotional differences between men and women (for that, read John Gray's "Mars and Venus in the Bedroom"). And she is the first one to admit that she doesn't know everything. While scientific studies and gender preferences are to some degree touched upon in the book, Ducky's primary purpose is to entertain as well as educate, to give you the basics, to provide a springboard for basic yet satisfying sexual knowledge and practice, and to enhance your sexual lovemaking. In this, she does very well.

9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars BEST SEX BOOK EVER!, June 16, 2006

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Tanya Geddes "Chuckles Klown" (Los Angeles, CA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered (Paperback)

I love this book! It is so fun and easy to read, like the author is just speaking to the reader conversationally. The book has lots of tidbits and facts and hints I didn't know, it's very useful! I especially loved the chapter on foreplay, with suggestions of leaving the clothes on for an extra ten minutes to see how excited you can get each other, the chapter on body image with the top fourteen things that make a person sexy from a poll of over 500 people, the emphasis on creativity and the sexiest organ--the brain! Ducky sounds super sex positive and I believe this book would benefit anyone, any gender, any type, any age. It is inspiring and made me feel good about myself and sex.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant! Humble and Hilarious!, April 12, 2006

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Jessica Purcell (Kerhonkson, NY United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered (Paperback)

Ducky has succeeded in writing gently about a sensitive topic. Her tone is genuine and light while imparting information that can help people feel more comfortable with themselves and those they love. I would buy a copy for everyone I know!