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Sex with the Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered

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An AOL Recommended Book, Ducky Doolittle's "Sex With the Lights On" intersperses questions and answers on various sex topics (anatomy, orgasm, oral sex, etc.) with anecdotal snippets culled from her years as a sex educator and entertainer, as well as her own personal experiences and observations. For the reader interested in the literature of sex and sexual fulfillment, Ducky's casual-in-tone, sex-positive book will remind you of other similar, informative books such as the Q&A section of Lou Paget's "365 Days of Sensational Sex," Dr. Ruth Westheimer's "Sex for Dummies," Deborah Sundahl's "Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot," and "Sex Toys 101" by Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah (this last book being mentioned in Ducky's bibliography). What, then, sets this book apart from all the rest?

The book's main strength lies in its hidden gems, the small details one picks up along the way-for instance, useful informational tidbits on, say, water-based lubricants vs. glycerin-based ones, or the possibility of allergic reactions not only to latex condoms, but also to the spermicide Nonoxynol-9. Having worked in the pleasure retail business, Ducky is also comfortably well-versed in the world of sex toys, their function, care, and maintenance.

Anal sex enthusiasts from the experienced to the merely curious will be pleased, as Ducky donates considerable time and good-natured attention to anal pleasure and health (one reads that she has a particular affinity for this practice, on "holidays"). And then there are the occasional unexpected bon mots, often pretty funny (my two favorite ones are her taglines on penis curvature and the one on "poop,"-I don't want to spoil it for you, but read them and you'll see). The feeling that this is an author comfortable and encouraging about sexuality and all its myriad aspects (not just her own) clearly comes through.

Bottom line: if you're a beginner, check this book out because in between two covers it straightforwardly delves into topics you may have always been curious about but not had the full confidence to ask or explore. Experienced lovers can use this as a quick reference, or at the very least access its lengthy bibliography to lead them to additional resources. In the book, Ducky is neither fully interested in dry statistical numbers (for that read "The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior") nor deep delvings into the psychological/emotional differences between men and women (for that, read John Gray's "Mars and Venus in the Bedroom"). And she is the first one to admit that she doesn't know everything. While scientific studies and gender preferences are to some degree touched upon in the book, Ducky's primary purpose is to entertain as well as educate, to give you the basics, to provide a springboard for basic yet satisfying sexual knowledge and practice, and to enhance your sexual lovemaking. In this, she does very well.

I love this book! It is so fun and easy to read, like the author is just speaking to the reader conversationally. The book has lots of tidbits and facts and hints I didn't know, it's very useful! I especially loved the chapter on foreplay, with suggestions of leaving the clothes on for an extra ten minutes to see how excited you can get each other, the chapter on body image with the top fourteen things that make a person sexy from a poll of over 500 people, the emphasis on creativity and the sexiest organ--the brain! Ducky sounds super sex positive and I believe this book would benefit anyone, any gender, any type, any age. It is inspiring and made me feel good about myself and sex.

Ducky has succeeded in writing gently about a sensitive topic. Her tone is genuine and light while imparting information that can help people feel more comfortable with themselves and those they love. I would buy a copy for everyone I know!

"Ducky's" book is extremely detailed and informative about many aspects of human sexuality while remaining quite interesting and upbeat...an excellent for read for anyone over 18.

Ducky's book is a refreshing, exciting, humorous, non-judgemental and straight forward approach to answering sex questions people think about, talk about with friends and don't talk about...she even covers questions we never thought to ask.

This book has shed light in my personal life but also helped me in counseling my patients on issues of sex and sexuality. I love that Ducky stresses clear communication with your partner, that sex is not just what happens when we are naked, but that even eye contact and cooking together leads to the bonds that help us feel safe with our sexual partner. I also love that she counsels women to loveand embrace thier body type no matter what they look like. And as an author, Chinese Medicine & Healthy Weight Management, I admire her ability to write with such clarity, organization and personality!

Don't Miss This Book!

Absolutely fearless, unshielded by lab coat or clipboard, with a warm humor that feels like advice from the family's coolest aunt. You can not read a hundred pages without learning five things about sex that you never thought about before.

If just a little bit of the attitude wrapped up in this book rubs off, you'll be a more relaxed and confident human being and how can that be a bad thing?

Ducky DooLittle has done the world of advice books a mitzvah. "Sex with the Lights On : 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered" is compassionate, plainspoken and unabashed in its detailing pretty much every aspect of human sexuality. The conversational tenor of DooLittle's writing lends "Sex with the Lights On" a light and breezy tone, personal and open-minded; serious but not sterile. It's commonsensical advice dispensed from the sexually sage friend you wish you had at your disposal. And now you do.

There is no technical word usage to make you put the book down! Ducky does a great job keeping the answers simple and to the point! Great resources section and I really loved the "tales of" sections. It's always great to read about things you never had the guts to ask about. I've been a fan of Ducky's advice for years and now I can keep it on my bookshelf. I learned a lot from this book and got explinations on things I'd always wondered about. Great job Ducky!!

All I can say is I loved this book! Very informational, Awesome read. I recommend it to everyone.

Awesome book. I gave this as a gift. She read it front to back and then passed it on to her friend. What else can I say? I love Ducky Doolittle!