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Sex, Love, and Dharma: Finding Love Without Losing Your Way

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Arthur Jeon should become a national treasure. As I read his works, first City Dharma, and now, Sex, Love and Dharma, I can't decide whether I am more amazed by the beauty and heart within the writing, or the wealth of wisdom contained in the text. In Sex, Love and Dharma, you will see yourself in a number of the entertaining anecdotes that cover all facets of love and relationships. You will laugh when he tells you that "Sexual relationships are like Roach Motels, easy to enter and very difficult to exit..." and you will be deeply moved when he tells the story of a young woman selflessly stopping to help an older woman in a wheelchair, begging on a street corner.

Reading this work, I found myself learning new "loving skills" and being reminded of ones that I had forgotten. I found myself inspired to approach the world with new eyes and a more open heart. I found myself wanting to be more awake to the beauty I am surrounded by daily, and to the opportunities to create beauty that are available to me right now. After all, as Arthur suggests, love is at its best when it's a verb, not a noun.

In Sex, Love, and Dharma, Arthur takes on the role of a patient teacher of practical, common-sense wisdom. Yet he never bludgeons us by telling us what to believe or what to go do. He simply suggests that we can find our way out of suffering and into happiness. By seeing clearly, remaining awake, and paying attention to the unfolding of the present moment in all its fullness, everything becomes available to us, especially love.

Arthur Jeon hit the nail on the head in his wonderfully written book on the highs and lows of relationships and dating. Arthur and I are from the same generation and his insights into sex, love, and misery are profound. I found my x-wives and former lovers in all the pages of this book including my twisted, insecure self. His compassionate review of the human condition and approach to Dharma is nothing short of significant. I recommend it to anyone who is in pain, or who is searching for a more humane way to treat women and themselves. Anyone who has a cat named Omar and took the time to select the feline from a shelter must have some degree of authenticity and integrity. Having found his book in the Atlanta airport following the death of my mother and sudden divorce to a woman I loved deeply before Christmas was a christmas present itself. Way to go Arthur. Keep writing and help us impressionable humans who are hopelessly in love with narcissistic beautiful women get through the tough times. You are a rare find.

Robert
Portland, OR
UCLA '85

I really enjoyed this book, read it in about an hour and a half! It's very accessible and really brings home the concept of personal responsiblity in relationships. The Dharma approach is great for the subject matter because I think a lot of us lose sight of our individuality when we partner with someone - this loss of autonomy and neglect of personal accountablity is the death knell for many great partnerships. The book also provides a lot of common sense for navigating the world of dating and the growing pains of a new relationship - and of course, how to break it off well and with dignity.

This is a must have for anyone in a relationship or thinking about re-entering the dating scene.

because Arthur Jeon writes of LIVING. Teaching that it is best to live - and, more importantly, love - in the present applies to every aspect of life. Though there is much wisdom in these pages on how to deal with love relationships at every stage, the most important is how one lives as an individual. Acknowledging that everyone stumbles and runs into walls (not always of one's own making), the important thing is to learn one's lessons, bless it and proceed on the journey.

I truly enjoyed this book "Sex, Love, and Dharma" and found its contents to be both practical and inspiring. This book is for anyone who has had a series of disappointing relationships and is brave enough to ask, "What's my part?". The reward, if you're willing to get real, is an authentic relationship - with yourself, the world, and other people.

The book highlights different self-defeating patterns and behavoirs that are all too common in intimate relationships. What I most appreciated in this book is its humorous, accessible tone and lively stories and examples. It's a quick, engaging read that provides the tools to cut through the muck surrounding love and intimacy.

Highly recommended!

This Book is amazing. I love the way he writes and explain things with real life examples..he is wonderful. I never wrote a review for a book but this one deserve it. Is rare to find a book were you can identify yourself with and the best part is that once you start reading you cant stop because you wanna know more and more of what he have to say.

This is a very good resource for those dealing with a wide vareity of issues in relationships. I had just gone through a break-up and this book is tremendously helpful. I wish there were more resources out there like it. Although I disagree with some of the book's propositions and tone, I recommend it without reservation to those seeking knowledge and understanding about human relationships to each other, ourselves, and existence.

I'm thankful I didn't pay for this junk--I borrowed the book from a friend. Jeon's writing style leaves a lot to be desired-he often presents rambling, confusing ideas through antecdotes from his own life. Usually these stories involve him setting his friends straight with the wisdom he's acquired. This wisdom has come to him through the many relationships he keeps reminding us he's had. When I got to the part where he counsels a friend who just discovered his girlfriend's breasts are fake I had to throw the book down. The real fake is Jeon--who poses as a writer and spiritual leader but who's really just another hack.