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Sex as Nature Intended It: The Most Important Thing You Need to Know about Making Love, but No One Could Tell You Until Now (2nd Edition)

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This book is Excellent, with a capital E. I found it enthralling from beginning to end and recommend it very highly. If there was ever a book every man and woman should read, this is that book.

It deals with a topic we are all interested in, our sexuality. But it looks at it in a new way, and one we must know about, if we are to have healthier and happier sex lives, and more loving relationships.

A major aspect of the book focuses in on the role that sexual pleasure during intercourse plays in the well-being of an intimate love relationship. And that the sex organs, as designed by Nature, work to enrich our lives in two ways: (1) they create sexual pleasure, and thereby, (2) create feelings of love for our lovemaking partner. In the process of explaining this, it lifts up the bedcovers in America's boudoirs and illuminates the shocking revelation that the part of the penis that plays the most important role in creating sexual pleasure (and ultimately love)--the foreskin--is removed in infancy by circumcision and thrown in the waste basket.

I foresee the current widespread acceptance of circumcision in this country (it is not practiced in most countries of the world) dwindling quickly once the information in this book hits the fan. Especially important, it offers hope and inspiration to men who want to restore their foreskin. Yes, this was a surprising solution. Foreskin restoration, though it may seem a "far out" concept, is presented as a dignified way for circumcised men to get back their foreskin through skin expansion techniques ("regrow,"as the author states it). And the author points out that although this concept affects men directly, it will also emerge as an important women's issue, and the book presents a convincing case for why women will be highly interested in their partner restoring--increased sexual pleasure for the woman.

Even though the book deals with a weighty issue, I floated through its 400 pages like a breeze, transfixed by its revelations and captivating presentation. I especially enjoyed the plethora of personal comments from women, mostly, but also from men, who reveal details of their sexual experiences and innermost thoughts on how this issue impacts their love life. These eye-opening comments and sentiments added validation to the fascinating (often totally novel, yet clear and to the point) explanations on how the sex organs interact during sexual intercourse to initiate and elevate levels of sexual excitement. The book touched my heart and mind on a personal level in many ways.

People think that circumcision is an issue of concern only to expecting parents and that the infant is only affected by it for the short time of his operation. But Sex As Nature Intended It presents clear, unrelenting, logical evidence that in the end, it adversely affects the sexuality of both the man and his female partner throughout their lives, who are harmed by this primitive practice, held over from a bygone era. Yet, its message and encouragement for foreskin restoration appears to hold great promise for improved sexuality of both partners. The circumcision debate seems to be popping up in various places these days. And I believe this book will be elevated to landmark distinction principally for two reasons. One, the thoroughness, lucidity, and persuasiveness of its argument. Two, its inclusion of the woman, the man's female sexual partner, into male circumcision's injuriousness. Women will be struck to the core when they learn about the detriments this practice wreaks on female sexual enjoyment, a message driven home through the reporting of the book's survey of women who had had sexual intercourse with both circumcised and uncircumcised men. The results of which were astonishing.

I think this book has a powerful message that will get the sexual implications of circumcision out into the open, and in doing so, we will be a much happier people sexually by facing up to circumcision's harm. Why do many American women have trouble achieving orgasm, as reported in numerous magazine articles? Why do many experience discomfort during intercourse, as reported in a recent study? Why is erectile dysfunction in men so prevalent in this country, making Viagra a top-selling drug? The author presents a persuasive case that circumcision could be a crucial factor in all these problems.

This book expanded my consciousness on how important this issue is. And the declining circumcision rate in America, as mentioned in the book, is testament that people's attitudes are changing on this topic.

Though it focuses on sexuality, the book appears to be a complete package on all aspects of this topic. Even the medical and social myths that help promote circumcision are discussed, as well as a brief history of how it infiltrated into American culture.

Every so often a dynamic book emerges that can bring revolutionary positive change to a problem that cries out to be corrected. This is one of those books. This book should be read by every man and woman in America.

I read Sex As Nature Intended It by Kristen O'Hara, and I enjoyed it very much. It is one of the most informative books about sex I've ever encountered, and I've read considerably on the subject. It contains a wealth of information that is vital to sexual and relationship happiness, and will help us to develop more love for our partner, and they for us.

It made a deep-felt impression on me. I can already feel that my life has been changed for the better by this book. I foresee it having a lasting impact on just about any reader. It could be the most important book you'll ever read.

Sexuality inhabits the core of our being. It defines who we are to a large extent -- our feelings, our fears, our love for others, our emotions, our spirituality. I can hardly imagine what life would be like without sexual passion and love between the sexes. In this unique book, the author talks about a particular aspect of sexuality that urgently needs to be addressed: The impact of something that is"missing" in millions of bedrooms, and how we can get this "missing something" back into our lives again. The book reveals many important facts about sex and sexuality, but most of all Kristen unlocks the secret to having great sexual relations with your lover. The information she discusses is not found in any other book on sexuality that I've come across. And she does it in such a convincing way, you know she knows what she's talking about.

This book is a "must-read" for everyone who cares about having a dynamite sexual relationship! It's very informative, very helpful, and it offers the potential to make our lives richer and more fulfilling. This book is very special to me personally because it answered many of my long-standing questions about sex and sexual relationships. I recommend this book very strongly. ...

The truth is finally here. Couples in a circumcised relationship that are young and in love and having great sex, will find this book hard to relate to. For women like me, in a wonderful marraige for 20 years, and having had great circumcised sex for the first 12, (with only slight discomfort),it finally put into words, the logic and reasons for my lack of interest, and sometimes distress, about sex. Every woman should read this book. I'm sure some men will take issue with it, as no man wants to believe he is lacking anything sexually, for other men, it will stir in them well deserved anger for what was done to them. It makes so much sense to me now, as I always assumed my lack of desire was all my problem. A lot of wives out there have sex for their husbands sake, and I'm sure they wonder why they don't "feel like it" anymore. I am so sorry my husband and I have been robbed of our ability for fulfilling, NATURAL sex. I highly recommend this book.

The book addresses the sexuality of the foreskin. Nearly always, this aspect is missing in any article on infant circumcision.
It is most obvious that we could brush our teeth easier if our cheeks were cut out. But the tongue would become tough and dry and food just wouldn't have the same taste.
We could cut off our eyelids and prevent any eyelid "problems", but, without natural protection and lubrication, our vision would rapidly deteriorate. (And, we'd have life without sexy winks.)

Circumcision destroys much of the sense of touch that is experienced in sex.
Nature provided cheeks, eyelids, and foreskin. The intended function of each is similar. Complete sexuality is using all senses to the extent that nature intended.

Kristen O'Hara's new book, Sex As Nature Intended It conveys a new truth: Infant circumcision results in lifetime adverse sexuality effects for circumcised men and the women who love them. Not only does she convincingly back it up, she includes the whole gamut of players: wives of circumcised men, circumcised men, the parents of would-be circumcised sons and even the religious factor. Everyone is victimized by this tragedy.

The author's hope for devastation rests with foreskin restoration, whereby circumcised men can recreate a foreskin facsimile by non-surgical techniques. The Wall Street Journal had a front-page article on foreskin restoration in December, 2000.

In depth, this book explains how circumcised sex abnormalizes, not just mechanics, but the emotional relationship that surrounds it. How? By direct, down-to-earth language and quotes/stories by those affected. In one chapter, twelve women comment extensively on the differences of circumcised and uncircumcised (natural) sex from their experience. Not to be too heavy, though, humor periodically sprinkles the book.

The book operates on two levels. One, a conversational one-on-one relating of what circumcised and natural sex are like and what the differences are. Ms. O'Hara conducted research providing survey results from women, documenting their experiences and comments. These objectify the dysfunctionality of relationships highlighted by circumcised sex, disturbing an essential factor of what she calls the "love bond". There are also stories of foreskin restoration success, including a marriage-saving account of her husband , Jeff, who wrote the book with her. Throughout the book, the primary victims--circimcised men--are given emotional encouragement for foreskin restoration. Their stories are on a plain-talk level and are always conceptually accessible.

The other level of the book concerns the nitty-gritty of circumcised vs. natural sexual technique and general information about foreskin and circumcision. Ms O'Hara spends some time describing the "mis-chanics" of circumcised hetersexual intercourse, such as abnormal thrusting rhythms and the recent discovery (be sexual researcher Josephine Lowndes Sevely) of the "male clitoris"--a pressure-sensitive nerve structure, adversely affected by circumcision. Not neglected, there is also good, sound information abgout circumcision and the foreskin in general: how circumcision originated as a "cure" for masturbation, 35 Reasons Not to Circumcise Your Son, etc. She also exposes and debunks the common and medical myths perpetuating circumcision in America.

However, the most important concept about this book may be surrounding the whole concept of the book and the way it is framed: circumcision is an act against nature, creating sex and relationships that just don't work. In doing so, the author gives voice to men and women who suspected something was missing, but didn't know what "it" was, and then discovering that they were not alone. We are on the threshold of a new sexual era and Kristen O'Hara's book, Sex As Nature Intended It will definitely help us to cross over that threshold to a better sexual future.

The author, Kristen O'Hara, conducted a study that was published in a prestigious international medical journal. The results of this unique survey, which posed sexual questions never-before-asked in the circumcision controversy, forms the basis for one of the book's most thought-provoking chapters.

But even without this study, the book's explanations on how the sex organs function as generators of sexual pleasure, and how circumcision adversely affects the intercourse experience of both partners, are convincing enough in their own right and make sound, logical sense. That, to me, is what is most impressive about this book.

Anyone even remotely interested in sexuality should find it fascinating! It will open your eyes to the importance of sexuality in connecting a man and woman together with love. It has passion, humor and wit, and most of all, it pursues truth.

The book seems to be catching on because it's a hot subject on the internet (which is how I found out about it). Kristen
challenges the practice of infant circumcision, and she makes a compelling argument for abandoning it.

Most of the world's people do not practice circumcision. If you'd like to find out why, I recommend that you read this book! If you want to understand how to maximize your own sexual pleasure and relationship happiness, you definitely want to read this book!!

I believe this book will become a classic on male and female sexuality. Both men and women will come away from this book with a wealth of information. As a woman, I was particularly impressed with how boldly and intelligently it addresses female sexuality in a manner conscious and respectful of our sexual anatomy. Kristan O'Hara presents a profusion of evidence that substantiates the concept that a woman's sexual enjoyment is significantly affected by the presence, or absence, of a foreskin on the penis.

The book's factual information is backed up by a multitude of quoted comments from women who participated in a survey that is most unusual and very, very revealing. Unusual and revealing because it delved deeply into not only physical pleasure but also women's emotional feelings and thoughts during and after intercourse. A major thesis of the book is that the penis, by natural design and function, is intended to elicit splendid pleasure sensations from the female during intercourse. These are sensed and appreciated by the man, who, too, is transported to overwhelming heights of erotic enjoyment. This heavenly sharing of the intercourse experience and its orgasmic reward contributes to the cementing of the love bond between the mated couple. Repeated states of coital bliss lead to the development of a profound unity and trust that fosters protective concern for each other and the offspring that result. This is sex as nature intended it.

However, in America, women and men do not experience this because a surgical procedure routinely performed on infant boys--circumcision--alters the penis and raises havoc with nature's grand design. Twentieth century America was held tightly in the grip of fear of sexual pleasure and saturated by guilt surrounding our sexuality. As the book points out, routine infant circumcision gained credibility in the early 1900s as a means to curb the sexual inclinations of young males, especially masturbation, which was believed at that time to cause many physical and mental ailments. Even though these early myths (as well as subsequent justifications for circumcising) have been dispelled, circumcision still continues as the most performed surgery in the United States.

The book carefully examines what goes on during the act of love-making--how the erotic movements and pleasure sensations of both partners are affected by the presence, and by the absence of the male foreskin. It profoundly strikes the reader that surgical reduction of the penis and its consequent loss of neurological sensitivity inhibits the male's sexual response and reduces his overall enjoyment of the lovemaking experience. Further, it reduces his ability to sense his partner's response to his movements, and as he seeks to stimulate his desensitized penis, it causes untoward negative effects on his female partner's pleasure responses, and may oftentimes cause her discomfort and thwart her ability to achieve orgasm. Thus, the natural process of deepening the bond between man and woman, by sex, is hampered.

Until now, the female's sexual responses during intercourse has not even been a consideration when deciding to circumcise or not to circumcise a male. The release of this book, and the thought and discussion that ensue will alert women to the detrimental effects of circumcision on female sexuality and ultimately lead to the cessation of the practice in America since women often make the decision to circumcise their son or not.

Thankfully, the author assures us that this unhappy condition for America's couples does not have to be the end of the story. She stresses that there is a way to restore a functional foreskin that in many ways can not be distinguished from the real thing. Manual stretching of the shaft skin by the ingenious use of weights and tape devices is a proven method of foreskin restoration. Many men testify that they have achieved full coverage of the glans penis and report improvements such as increased sensitivity, more comfortable erections, and the gliding action created by the now moveable skin. (Which to me, makes all the difference in the world. I was very excited to read that many other women in the book's survey have also noticed similar differences between natural and circumcised sex, and when given the opportunity, they resolved to to speak truthfully about these differences.)

Knowing this, it is not unreasonable to suggest that all women have the capacity to discern, and therefore could enjoy, a more robust and fulfilling sex life if the man possessed an intact, or restored, foreskin. "Sex As Nature Intended It" is very likely to become the sex text that all future researchers and text writers will reference when human sexuality is the focus. Never again will doctors and researchers be tempted to devalue female sexuality by the wanton surgical mutilation of the male's penis--our MUTUAL sex organ.

At last a narrative for women and men about how we have handicapped our sexuality through circumcision.

Sex As Nature Intended It is one of my best allies in educating our culture on the harm of circumcision, how it effects
couples and what to do about it. I have been waiting thirty years as a childbirth educator to have a book which covers the
physiology of circumcision as well as the psycho-sexual impact on both genders.

Mothers - take note. Our job is to protect our sons from harm. Our future daughters-in-law will thank us for it, especially when this issue later gains national recognition and becomes common knowledge.

Fathers - be aware: Your sons are here to look like themselves, not you. Show your magnanimity and love by allowing your son to retain the full genitals endowed by nature.

Grandparents - I hope you give this book to your expecting children and help sustain the wholeness of your family.

Libraries and friends of babies - order copies of this remarkable book and share widely.

After reading several books on circumcision, if I could recommend only one book on the "c" word, this would be the one. There are several good books out dealing with circumcision, but this book deals with the "why" question better than any of them, completely answering the question "why" you should try to reverse your circumcision / restore your foreskin and "why" your infant circumcision should never have happened in the first place. Written by a woman whose husband was surgically restored years before her book was printed, it spells out how the restoration was the greatest thing they ever did, both for him and her. Included in the book are several interviews and quotes from women, which are often absent from other anticirc books. The book also presents the advantages of the surgical option of restoration, which much of the anticirc subculture has rejected (in favor of a nonsurgical restoration), but is still an option many of us trying to reverse our infant circumcisions are still interested in researching. The authors, now in their sixties, have an active website and seem more than happy to answer questions and help out those undergoing restorations.

I can't say enough good things about this book. If you are underdecided about either circumcision or restoration, you won't be after you read this book. Amazon.com will only let you give a book five stars. I would have gladly gave it 100 stars.

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The O'Hara's make it clear that the foreskin is the most erogenous, sensual and sensitive part of the male sex anatomy. They also make it clear that the foreskin also increases sexual pleasure in the female partner during sex. Circumcision started in this country as means to stop male sexual pleasure through masturbation. It continues as a means to control male sexual pleasure by reducing a man's sexual pleasure in all aspects of sex. It is now known that circumcision has no medical benefit. No medical organization in the world recommends routine circumcision.

This book lends support to the concept that the male's foreskin is the functional homolog of the female's clitoris. Any circumcised man that thinks he is not missing out on better sex should think of what sex would be like for a woman without a clitoris. Sex for a man without a foreskin is like sex for a woman without a clitoris. (...)P>The O'Hara's should be commended on broaching a subject that few would choose to take on. Their book should be required reading in every sex education and child birth class in this country. I hope that the culture of cutting off a piece of our new born boys genitals will end soon.