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Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World [Kindle Edition]

Joshua Harris
4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (115 customer reviews)

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Lust isn't just a guy problem – it's a human problem. And unless we honestly confront it, lust will destroy our relationships and our lives. Joshua Harris, author of the runaway bestseller I Kissed Dating Goodbye, calls a generation bombarded with images of sexual sin back to the freedom and joy of holiness. This "PG-rated" book – straightforward without being graphic – speaks to those entrenched in lust or just flirting with temptation. Honestly sharing his own struggles, Harris exposes lust's tactics and helps readers create a personal plan for fighting back. Men and women will find hope in God's grace and learn the secrets to lasting change.

Neither sex nor sexuality is our enemy. We need to rescue our sexuality from lust so we can experience it as God intended.

Bestselling author Joshua Harris shows you how lust deceives you. Specific and honest without being graphic, this book–for both men and women–will guide you in creating a custom plan for fighting lust and celebrating purity.

Praise for Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is)

“For your joy and Christ’s honor, I commend this book to you. It is realistic, practical, and hope-giving.”
-John Piper, pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis

“A beautiful blend of grace and truth. Joshua Harris raises high standards of holiness while carefully avoiding legalism. I highly recommend it.”
-Randy Alcorn , bestselling author of The Treasure Principle and The Purity Principle

“I am very encouraged that my longtime friend Josh Harris has written a book about lust. May God use this book to keep many from allowing their minds to become ‘the devil’s playground.’”
-Rebecca St. James, singer/songwriter

Story Behind the Book

“I was preparing a message on lust when I realized that the book I wanted to consult hadn’t been written. That book would make it clear that only Jesus Christ can free us from the hopeless treadmill of shame and guilt that so many well-intentioned people end up on. It would instill a love for holiness and a hatred for sin without dragging the reader’s imagination through the gutter. And it would be for both men and women, because I’ve learned that lust isn’t just a guy problem–it’ s a human problem.”
–Joshua Harris

From the Hardcover edition.

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About the Author

Joshua Harris lives outside Washington, D.C., in Gaithersburg, Maryland, where he is a pastor at Covenant Life Church. He speaks nationally and leads an annual conference for college students called New Attitude. Joshua and his wife Shannon have two children.

Product Details

  • File Size: 1142 KB
  • Print Length: 194 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1590525191
  • Publisher: Multnomah Books (January 21, 2009)
  • Sold by: Random House LLC
  • Language: English
  • ASIN: B001PU7WD2
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #92,544 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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211 of 219 people found the following review helpful
Most of the reviewers have hit upon some of the main things that makes this great. Yet some reviewers accuse Josh Harris of borderline legalism because of the steps he has personally taken to properly handle his lust problem (and some examples from others who are fighting this sin). As a young man who, like Harris, is weak in this area, struggling with legalistic attitudes on one side and full-blown licentiousness on the other, this book has been a breath of fresh air, a glass of cool, clear water. While it does offer practical advice, Harris is not so arrogant as to claim that this is the one-size-fits-all practical guide to lust.
First, he points out a group of young people who would fast if one of the group looked at internet pornography. Instead of praising this method, Harris is disappointed and points out that One has already paid the punishment for every sin we have and will commit. To make other people "pay" for your sin is to deny the sufficiency of the atonement of Christ. He says: "If you were to use the practical ideas I'm about to share with you as a legalistic set of guidelines, not only would it be displeasing to God, but you wouldn't change. Your behavior might change for a while, but your heart wouldn't change." (p. 50) And regarding his friend that stayed outside the video store, was he saying it was right for everyone to do so? By no means! His friend had recognized the areas that caused him to lose sight of Christ, and for that time in his life, video stores were a struggle. This is vastly different than telling everyone, "So, like my friend, you shouldn't go into video stores, either."
This is exactly it: Have we really tasted of God to the degree that we want nothing less than satisfaction in Him?
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137 of 144 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars The best book on lust I've ever read September 24, 2003
This is a powerful book on dealing with sexual temptation. Joshua Harris does a fantastic job of setting every man's battle in its proper biblical and theological context. He is not soft on sin, but neither does he lead one to discouragement or despair. He understands that a right relationship with God is by grace through faith alone, but he knows that the faith which justifies also sanctifies. He is candid and honest, yet remains discreet, writing a book which is appropriate for and targeted to both men and women. He avoids setting hard and fast rules, advocating that we develop "a custom-tailored plan" for fighting against lust, but he provides plenty of practical ideas about how to make progress. He addresses sensitive issues (like masturbation) as well as cultural issues (like media and dress). Best of all, he encourages open accountability ("lone rangers are dead rangers") and provides an excellent chapter on how to fight the lying promises of lust with the true and satisfying promises of God. Drawing on the wisdom of John Piper's Future Grace, and C. J. Mahaney's The Cross-centered Life, this is one of the best books on sanctification I've seen, and the best book on the particular subject of sexual temptation I've ever read. I highly recommend this to both men and women, single or married. Thanks, Josh for sharing your heart with us.
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59 of 64 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Finally the Topic is Broached Properly September 30, 2003
I believe this book ought to be read rather than Every Young Man's Battle. This book is cleaner (no unneeded lude descriptions), it makes solid points, it is directed at both men and women, and it stays close to scripture all the way through. This book will get the legalism out of your battle with lust, and remind you that a biblical battle with lust will always have desiring Christ and a closer walk with Him who has already declared christians righteous despite their struggles and failures at the center of it.
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31 of 33 people found the following review helpful
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I got this book looking for ideas on how to share the topic of lust with our youth group. What I found was a very practical, Biblically-centered, and informative approach on how both men and women can tackle the immense problem of lust. I quickly found myself realizing that this book was not only good enough for our youth group, but for me, and even for our entire congregation. This will definitely be a future topic in our ministry, both to the teens and to the adults.

I like this book. Harris is not afraid to say what needs to be said. You know that he is like the "rest of us" because as you read the book, you find yourself thinking .. yes I've thought that before ... oh my I did that too ... good grief, is he reading my mind?

Mr. Harris offers some very simple ideas (but not necessarily easy ones) for combating lust in our lives. For example, he asks the reader to take stock as to when and where lust strikes so that we can understand how the problem occurs and how to take steps to fight it. He uses the Bible to show not only the dangers of lust, but also to show solutions to the problem. The book does not offer a "formula" that will help you win the fight. But Mr. Harris expertly points out just how society is permeated with lustful images and innuendos. And like it or not, these things influence and de-sensitize us to the real problems of lust.

The book is a very light read; you could put this one away in one sitting. But you might just find yourself going through it many times because there is a lot of practical advice and strategy to be learned. The book is highly recommended for both men and women, married or single alike. It could just be one of the most important books you will read for a long time.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars Awesome quick read
Awesome Read.. Some of the dialogue is a bit lame.. But the overall message and is on point and helpful!
Published 1 day ago by Raquel
4.0 out of 5 stars another good one
Practical Book that is realistic and honest. I love that Josh H. Always encourages people to go back to their source of help The Holy Ghost and not pharisaic rituals
Published 28 days ago by Kenyatta
5.0 out of 5 stars Very true
This was an easy read....I found it insightful and intriguing. A lot of straight forward speaking and he was direct not preachy
Published 1 month ago by Eki
5.0 out of 5 stars this is a must read for every Christian young or old
This book has changed my life. It has changed my view on being a woman and on who God is.
Published 1 month ago by Laney
5.0 out of 5 stars Lust really is 'every man's battle'
Well written Biblically sound advice on how to think. It may be hard to get someone who is not a believer in Christ to read this book but it would be a valuable tool for even an... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Stephen L. Taylor
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Read
I have sincerely enjoyed reading this book. It is real, honest and such a great read! I highly recommend this book.
Published 1 month ago by Amanda
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Godly Advice
You should read this for the wonderful Advice that is given in this book. It definitely puts things in perspective and helps deepen the understanding of why purity is such a... Read more
Published 2 months ago by Misty
5.0 out of 5 stars not just lust but sin in general
I read this book years ago and picked it up to do some research. It has been a blessing to see a book committed to living life in the shadow of the cross. Read more
Published 3 months ago by JET
5.0 out of 5 stars This book is a must read!
Very encouraging, straight-forward, and practical insight on how to overcome lust...for men and women. This is indeed the road less traveled in our culture.
Published 3 months ago by Scott Luck
5.0 out of 5 stars Very easy to read book
This is a very easy to read book and very practical... It's a good book to have for christian people who is struggling with lust (Pornography and several other sexual issues)... Read more
Published 4 months ago by GodIsLove1968
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More About the Author

Since writing his breakout book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, at the age of twenty-one, Joshua Harris has enjoyed tremendous publishing success, with total book sales exceeding 1.5 million copies. His later books, including Boy Meets Girl and Stop Dating the Church firmly established him as a trustworthy voice to his generation. Harris is senior pastor of Covenant Life in Gaithersburg, Maryland. He and his wife, Shannon, have three children.

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