Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man (Positively Sexual) (Paperback)

by Py Kim Conant (Author) "In her pursuit of sexuality, love, and marriage, can any woman become an American Geisha by using the powers, secrets, and lessons of the Japanese..." (more)
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This is not a sex manual but a pleasantly odd take on finding and keeping a "good man" using geisha-like techniques filtered through feminism and tailored to modern America...Speaking from experience as a lovelorn late bloomer, she urges wannabe brides to embrace beauty, femininity, and male/female opposites; to be "always sexy but not always sexual." The book is divided into four parts. First comes sexual self-discovery; next, triaging potentials to find a good man; then pushing persistently for commitment; and finally, keeping the mateship warm and the sex hot... ? Library Journal

You may want to wear gloves as you read Sex Secrets of an American Geisha- it's that HOT! The secrets of this 1st-class pleasure seekers' guide for women will reveal the intimate details you can use to unleash your own hidden desires. It'll take you and your Good Man on a trip to Paradise. - Larry James, Author of Red Hot Love Notes for Lovers

Py Kim Conant provides a precious gift to readers-permission to embrace their femininity and open up to exquisite sensual possibilities. Sex Secrets of an American Geisha is a rare combination of self-growth, relationship, and sexual "how-to's" that educate and enlighten. Most of all it offers hope. - Elayne Savage, Ph.D., Professional speaker, relationship coach, and author of Breathing Room-Creating Space to Be a Couple and Don't Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing with Rejection

"A fascinating read with a truly unique perspective." - Lisa Daily, syndicated columnist, media personality, and author of Stop Getting Dumped!

"Conant shows us how East meets West in dating and relationships leading to marriage and really tells it like it is! This is an exciting new perspective on an age-old subject. A must read for every Motivated to Marry woman! - Amy Schoen, life coach, speaker and author of Motivated to Marry?-Now There Is a Better Method to Dating and Relationships!

The wisdom of the Asian Geisha in terms of beauty, eroticism, and pleasing high-powered men is well-known around the world. In Sex Secrets of an American Geisha, author Py Kim Conant imparts some of that special sexual wisdom with a Western twist and a personable style. If you want to learn to be more feminine, read this book. Great section on female ejaculation, too!" - Susan M. Block, Ph.D., author of The 10 Commandments of Pleasure and producer of Dr. Suzy's Squirt Salon: Secrets of Female Ejaculation

A fun and fascinating read! Inspiring to any woman who has ever found herself dateless on a Saturday night, this sexy how-to-find-and-keep-a-man manual will rev up your mojo and give you the confidence you need to jump into the dating pool. - Jina Bacarr, author of The Blonde Geisha and The Japanese Art of Sex

Sex Secrets of an American Geisha takes an intriguing and thought-provoking look at the goal of obtaining mutually loving and satisfying experiences within a committed, monogamous relationship. The author shares with us her system of actions and awareness that has so successfully contributed to her own sexual image of herself and deep appreciation of her "Good Man." Women who are hoping to find a "good" man will definitely welcome this new and refreshing approach to dating. Married women who desire a more erotic and sexual relationship with their spouse and have the desire to please their partner will find that this book is filled with advice and suggestions that can be playfully incorporated into their lives. - Debra Burrell, CSW, psychotherapist, New York

A superb book for recapturing the essence of femininity and illuminating how its secrets can be used for not only exquisite erotic play, but for achieving a higher state of intimacy and even enlightenment. - Deborah Sundahl, sex educator and author of Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot

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Any single or married woman can find success in the pursuit of love, marriage, and happiness with these sensible, sexy, realistic tips from Py Kim Conant, who used them to find her own American husband. More practical than politically correct, her advice covers every aspect of landing and keeping a man. Developing ?Geisha Consciousness,? she says, helps maximize a woman?s femininity. The author invites readers to become a ?Younger Sister,? a geisha-in-training, and then proceeds into the four parts of this lively, provocative book: getting started as an American Geisha; sex secrets to bond him to you; planning for marriage; and keeping the marriage fresh and sexy. She suggests specific strategies for women including creating a bedroom shrine of worship to hubby?s manhood; learning to express femininity and sexuality; identifying and then dating their ?Good Man.? An afterword on "Geisha Power," a glossary of terms, recommended reading, and resources help readers expand the experience.

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Product Details Paperback: 240 pages Publisher: Hunter House (January 7, 2007) Language: English ISBN-10: 0897934903 ISBN-13: 978-0897934909 Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.6 inches Shipping Weight: 14.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies) Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (30 customer reviews) Amazon.com Sales Rank: #149,840 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books) Popular in this category: (What's this?) #57 in  Books > Health, Mind & Body > Sex > Sex Instruction > Women

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Most Helpful Customer Reviews 9 of 9 people found the following review helpful: 3.0 out of 5 stars I geisha just had to be there., August 26, 2007 By  Tiger Lily "book store owner" (Athens, GA) - See all my reviews Kudos to Mrs. Conant for pursuing her love of writing and making this book a hit. Personally, I don't find most of her suggestions for building the ego of a man to be particularly controversial and I agree with her on a lot of points. I can honestly say I've practiced most of this philosophy before she gave a name to it and the results have been easy and positive. However, there are a couple of facts that the potential buyer should know about. The first being the author does not have much experience with successful love affairs, by her own admission. She dated a few jerks and finally married, at the age of 36, a man more than 20 years older than she. At the time of this book's publication, he is 63. She admits he "has a very relaxed attitude toward work and money; he is more of a thinker than a doer" (page 120). Now, one of the author's promises is that if you follow her advice, you can be married in 12 to 18 months. I'm sure she and her husband are in love and it's not my business to pry into her personal life, but the question is: is the potential buyer impressed by her choices enough to subscribe to her advice in order to get similar results? Another interesting point was that the fact that they live in a one bedroom apartment with lots of exercise equipment all over the place. Exercise is important to them. Great. No problem. Except the premise of her book is to ALWAYS be feminine and fresh as a flower for your man. My question is, can a geisha sweat like a banshee while doing crunches on the carpet in front of her husband and still keep her feminine mystique? Why doesn't she join a gym to preserve the allure she is so passionate about? This is a quibble, I know. But still. Finally, the one idea she put forth that I do find unique, to say the least, was to make an actual shrine to your lover's nether regions. Yep. Display an explicit photo of his member. Surround the photo with candles, small offerings and incense. Perhaps add a poem written about it. Okay. I had to ask my husband, who is no shrinking violet in the alpha male department, what he thought of this. He cringed and said it would be embarrassing. We both hope she was joking around. But we're not sure. 10 of 11 people found the following review helpful: 4.0 out of 5 stars Applying Eastern traditions to Western relationships, February 1, 2007 By  wiredweird "wiredweird" (Earth, or somewhere nearby) - See all my reviews (TOP 100 REVIEWER)    Conant writes to a specific audience: women who are eager to exit the single life and/or women who want to sustain steamy passion in an ongoing relationship. She all but guarantees that husband-hunters will bag their quarry within eighteen months, following her plan. That core of the plan is simple: dedicate oneself and one's every waking moment to the goal of finding (and keeping) the ideal partner. Whatever else men may be, they are physical. As a result, Conant spends the first half of the book on developing a woman's physical allure. Half of that is directed inwardly, toward raising the reader's sense of her own eroticism. The other half is directed outwardly, toward helping the reader project her allure and toward the man's sense of his own physical potency. As a male reader, I have to agree with big parts of Conant's advice: enhancing the physical affection in a relationship enhances the relationship as a whole. The second half of the book addresses the search for a close and satisying relationship. Much of this discussion focuses on the reader's knowledge of herself - if she doesn't know what she wants in a relationship, how will she know when she's found it? Conant is quite right in pointing out that the search never really ends. Simply existing in a long-term pairing or marriage isn't enough. It takes effort to hold onto its intensity and to explore new possibilities within that monogamous range. Although Conant is specific in much of her advice, the general tone is what matters: always encouraging, and always confident that the effort will be rewarded. The author points out early and often that her approach isn't for everyone. It runs directly against the grain of much feminist thinking. Some of her advice seems radical by any standard, such as "Get[ting] a less demanding job" to free up more time for the husband hunt. Other advice, the kind that focuses the reader on how others see her, carries its own risks, and the author says little about the idea that a woman's eagerness to please her man should be reciprocated. Conant has chosen not to address the man's role in the mutual attraction, however, and that is her right as an author. Instead, she addresses the woman's part in creating and sustaining attraction, showing how a geisha's professional skills can work in any relationship. Decide whether that's what you want - if so, there's a lot to enjoy in this book. //wiredweird, reviewing a complimentary copy 5 of 5 people found the following review helpful: 5.0 out of 5 stars A Wonderful Eye Opener!, June 25, 2007 By  Hummingbird "Hummingbird" (USA) - See all my reviews I'm 24 and am currently searching for my Good Man. I was wandering through the book store after getting rejected by a Wrong Man that I had been chasing for months. I felt so humiliated and and depressed and kept wondering what was wrong with me. I stumbled across "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha" I grabbed it and sat down on a cushy couch with it and must have been there 2 hours before I heard the store was closing. I then decided I HAD to have this book and ran home to keep reading. Upon reading further, I realized my approach was all wrong. Like Py, I had almost always been the one doing the chasing, and the men I were chasing were Wrong Men and Bad Men. I kept wondering why "fate" was repeating itself and why I kept making up excuses to not cut ties with these men. Py's book was a real eye opener and I see that if I had not read it, I'd still be chasing after all the Wrong Men and Bad Men and I'd never be happy. I have learned not only to not be with a man who disrespects me, I learned too that I don't have to be gaurded in a relationship with a Good Man because he's good!. I have realized I don't have to be aggressive to get by as a single girl in this world and a Good Man will love me for who I am and I will never have to feel like it's him vs me in a relationship ever again. Thank you Py for showing us younger sisters that we can have much more out of life and believe again that we can find a Good Man because they do exist! And thank you for helping us understand how to please ourselves in the process :)		Most Recent Customer Reviews 5.0 out of 5 stars A strong woman with a healthy self image understand that giving doesn't make you weak. I loved this book. Some of the suggestions were things I'd already been doing, but didn't realize why they were important. Read more Published 1 month ago by Pagan Harper 4.0 out of 5 stars "Please respect my orgasm." I found this book to be a very enjoyable and fun read. The author is humorous, sincere, and though-provoking. I disagreed with her on a few points but I was never bored. Read more Published 10 months ago by Y. Chow 4.0 out of 5 stars Almost great!! I enjoyed this book a lot. It's almost perfect, but I have a couple disagreements. The author teaches her "younger sister" to be very obedient and agreeable with her "Good Man",... Read more Published 13 months ago by Love books 4.0 out of 5 stars An empowering book I am about half way through the book. I took a pause mid-way so a friend could read it. She fell so in love with it, that she returned mine and bought her own to highlight and... Read more Published 20 months ago by Moonstone Cerridwen Faye 4.0 out of 5 stars hot stuff - practical and helpful I read this book and it definitely changed my outlook. Far from being PC, this book is honest, direct, and on-target. Read more Published 21 months ago by Angel 4.0 out of 5 stars Cute While I felt that I didn't learn as much about geishas as I expected, Py's book has a certain charm to it that makes it worth recommending. Read more Published 21 months ago by finechina 5.0 out of 5 stars Modern Geisah This is a good book. She talks to you one-on-one basis just as if you where sitting down with Kim, the author, having a cup of tea. Read more Published on June 27, 2007 by W. K. Tamez 3.0 out of 5 stars Giving the lonely women some tools to work with... At first when I saw the Py Kim's sex/relationship guide, "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man (Positively Sexual)" on the book store... Read more Published on May 15, 2007 by OsirisX 5.0 out of 5 stars Bought it for my Wife and I read it first! I had heard about Py Kim Conant's, "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha," and bought it as a gift for my wife. Well, I took a peek inside the book and could not put it down. Read more Published on March 27, 2007 by Tony S. 5.0 out of 5 stars Perfect Relationship Enhancer I absolutley loved this book! The advice given is right on the money! 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• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Hunter House (January 7, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0897934903
• ISBN-13: 978-0897934909
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars See all reviews (30 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #149,840 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars I geisha just had to be there., August 26, 2007

By	Tiger Lily "book store owner" (Athens, GA) - See all my reviews

Kudos to Mrs. Conant for pursuing her love of writing and making this book a hit. Personally, I don't find most of her suggestions for building the ego of a man to be particularly controversial and I agree with her on a lot of points. I can honestly say I've practiced most of this philosophy before she gave a name to it and the results have been easy and positive.

However, there are a couple of facts that the potential buyer should know about. The first being the author does not have much experience with successful love affairs, by her own admission. She dated a few jerks and finally married, at the age of 36, a man more than 20 years older than she. At the time of this book's publication, he is 63. She admits he "has a very relaxed attitude toward work and money; he is more of a thinker than a doer" (page 120). Now, one of the author's promises is that if you follow her advice, you can be married in 12 to 18 months. I'm sure she and her husband are in love and it's not my business to pry into her personal life, but the question is: is the potential buyer impressed by her choices enough to subscribe to her advice in order to get similar results?

Another interesting point was that the fact that they live in a one bedroom apartment with lots of exercise equipment all over the place. Exercise is important to them. Great. No problem. Except the premise of her book is to ALWAYS be feminine and fresh as a flower for your man. My question is, can a geisha sweat like a banshee while doing crunches on the carpet in front of her husband and still keep her feminine mystique? Why doesn't she join a gym to preserve the allure she is so passionate about? This is a quibble, I know. But still.

Finally, the one idea she put forth that I do find unique, to say the least, was to make an actual shrine to your lover's nether regions. Yep. Display an explicit photo of his member. Surround the photo with candles, small offerings and incense. Perhaps add a poem written about it. Okay. I had to ask my husband, who is no shrinking violet in the alpha male department, what he thought of this. He cringed and said it would be embarrassing. We both hope she was joking around. But we're not sure.

10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Applying Eastern traditions to Western relationships, February 1, 2007

By	wiredweird "wiredweird" (Earth, or somewhere nearby) - See all my reviews (TOP 100 REVIEWER)

Conant writes to a specific audience: women who are eager to exit the single life and/or women who want to sustain steamy passion in an ongoing relationship. She all but guarantees that husband-hunters will bag their quarry within eighteen months, following her plan. That core of the plan is simple: dedicate oneself and one's every waking moment to the goal of finding (and keeping) the ideal partner.

Whatever else men may be, they are physical. As a result, Conant spends the first half of the book on developing a woman's physical allure. Half of that is directed inwardly, toward raising the reader's sense of her own eroticism. The other half is directed outwardly, toward helping the reader project her allure and toward the man's sense of his own physical potency. As a male reader, I have to agree with big parts of Conant's advice: enhancing the physical affection in a relationship enhances the relationship as a whole.

The second half of the book addresses the search for a close and satisying relationship. Much of this discussion focuses on the reader's knowledge of herself - if she doesn't know what she wants in a relationship, how will she know when she's found it? Conant is quite right in pointing out that the search never really ends. Simply existing in a long-term pairing or marriage isn't enough. It takes effort to hold onto its intensity and to explore new possibilities within that monogamous range. Although Conant is specific in much of her advice, the general tone is what matters: always encouraging, and always confident that the effort will be rewarded.

The author points out early and often that her approach isn't for everyone. It runs directly against the grain of much feminist thinking. Some of her advice seems radical by any standard, such as "Get[ting] a less demanding job" to free up more time for the husband hunt. Other advice, the kind that focuses the reader on how others see her, carries its own risks, and the author says little about the idea that a woman's eagerness to please her man should be reciprocated. Conant has chosen not to address the man's role in the mutual attraction, however, and that is her right as an author. Instead, she addresses the woman's part in creating and sustaining attraction, showing how a geisha's professional skills can work in any relationship. Decide whether that's what you want - if so, there's a lot to enjoy in this book.

//wiredweird, reviewing a complimentary copy

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Wonderful Eye Opener!, June 25, 2007

By	Hummingbird "Hummingbird" (USA) - See all my reviews

I'm 24 and am currently searching for my Good Man. I was wandering through the book store after getting rejected by a Wrong Man that I had been chasing for months. I felt so humiliated and and depressed and kept wondering what was wrong with me. I stumbled across "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha" I grabbed it and sat down on a cushy couch with it and must have been there 2 hours before I heard the store was closing. I then decided I HAD to have this book and ran home to keep reading. Upon reading further, I realized my approach was all wrong. Like Py, I had almost always been the one doing the chasing, and the men I were chasing were Wrong Men and Bad Men. I kept wondering why "fate" was repeating itself and why I kept making up excuses to not cut ties with these men. Py's book was a real eye opener and I see that if I had not read it, I'd still be chasing after all the Wrong Men and Bad Men and I'd never be happy. I have learned not only to not be with a man who disrespects me, I learned too that I don't have to be gaurded in a relationship with a Good Man because he's good!. I have realized I don't have to be aggressive to get by as a single girl in this world and a Good Man will love me for who I am and I will never have to feel like it's him vs me in a relationship ever again. Thank you Py for showing us younger sisters that we can have much more out of life and believe again that we can find a Good Man because they do exist! And thank you for helping us understand how to please ourselves in the process :)