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Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man (Positively Sexual)

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Kudos to Mrs. Conant for pursuing her love of writing and making this book a hit. Personally, I don't find most of her suggestions for building the ego of a man to be particularly controversial and I agree with her on a lot of points. I can honestly say I've practiced most of this philosophy before she gave a name to it and the results have been easy and positive.

However, there are a couple of facts that the potential buyer should know about. The first being the author does not have much experience with successful love affairs, by her own admission. She dated a few jerks and finally married, at the age of 36, a man more than 20 years older than she. At the time of this book's publication, he is 63. She admits he "has a very relaxed attitude toward work and money; he is more of a thinker than a doer" (page 120). Now, one of the author's promises is that if you follow her advice, you can be married in 12 to 18 months. I'm sure she and her husband are in love and it's not my business to pry into her personal life, but the question is: is the potential buyer impressed by her choices enough to subscribe to her advice in order to get similar results?

Another interesting point was that the fact that they live in a one bedroom apartment with lots of exercise equipment all over the place. Exercise is important to them. Great. No problem. Except the premise of her book is to ALWAYS be feminine and fresh as a flower for your man. My question is, can a geisha sweat like a banshee while doing crunches on the carpet in front of her husband and still keep her feminine mystique? Why doesn't she join a gym to preserve the allure she is so passionate about? This is a quibble, I know. But still.

Finally, the one idea she put forth that I do find unique, to say the least, was to make an actual shrine to your lover's nether regions. Yep. Display an explicit photo of his member. Surround the photo with candles, small offerings and incense. Perhaps add a poem written about it. Okay. I had to ask my husband, who is no shrinking violet in the alpha male department, what he thought of this. He cringed and said it would be embarrassing. We both hope she was joking around. But we're not sure.

Conant writes to a specific audience: women who are eager to exit the single life and/or women who want to sustain steamy passion in an ongoing relationship. She all but guarantees that husband-hunters will bag their quarry within eighteen months, following her plan. That core of the plan is simple: dedicate oneself and one's every waking moment to the goal of finding (and keeping) the ideal partner.

Whatever else men may be, they are physical. As a result, Conant spends the first half of the book on developing a woman's physical allure. Half of that is directed inwardly, toward raising the reader's sense of her own eroticism. The other half is directed outwardly, toward helping the reader project her allure and toward the man's sense of his own physical potency. As a male reader, I have to agree with big parts of Conant's advice: enhancing the physical affection in a relationship enhances the relationship as a whole.

The second half of the book addresses the search for a close and satisying relationship. Much of this discussion focuses on the reader's knowledge of herself - if she doesn't know what she wants in a relationship, how will she know when she's found it? Conant is quite right in pointing out that the search never really ends. Simply existing in a long-term pairing or marriage isn't enough. It takes effort to hold onto its intensity and to explore new possibilities within that monogamous range. Although Conant is specific in much of her advice, the general tone is what matters: always encouraging, and always confident that the effort will be rewarded.

The author points out early and often that her approach isn't for everyone. It runs directly against the grain of much feminist thinking. Some of her advice seems radical by any standard, such as "Get[ting] a less demanding job" to free up more time for the husband hunt. Other advice, the kind that focuses the reader on how others see her, carries its own risks, and the author says little about the idea that a woman's eagerness to please her man should be reciprocated. Conant has chosen not to address the man's role in the mutual attraction, however, and that is her right as an author. Instead, she addresses the woman's part in creating and sustaining attraction, showing how a geisha's professional skills can work in any relationship. Decide whether that's what you want - if so, there's a lot to enjoy in this book.

//wiredweird, reviewing a complimentary copy

I'm 24 and am currently searching for my Good Man. I was wandering through the book store after getting rejected by a Wrong Man that I had been chasing for months. I felt so humiliated and and depressed and kept wondering what was wrong with me. I stumbled across "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha" I grabbed it and sat down on a cushy couch with it and must have been there 2 hours before I heard the store was closing. I then decided I HAD to have this book and ran home to keep reading. Upon reading further, I realized my approach was all wrong. Like Py, I had almost always been the one doing the chasing, and the men I were chasing were Wrong Men and Bad Men. I kept wondering why "fate" was repeating itself and why I kept making up excuses to not cut ties with these men. Py's book was a real eye opener and I see that if I had not read it, I'd still be chasing after all the Wrong Men and Bad Men and I'd never be happy. I have learned not only to not be with a man who disrespects me, I learned too that I don't have to be gaurded in a relationship with a Good Man because he's good!. I have realized I don't have to be aggressive to get by as a single girl in this world and a Good Man will love me for who I am and I will never have to feel like it's him vs me in a relationship ever again. Thank you Py for showing us younger sisters that we can have much more out of life and believe again that we can find a Good Man because they do exist! And thank you for helping us understand how to please ourselves in the process :)

I had heard about Py Kim Conant's, "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha," and bought it as a gift for my wife. Well, I took a peek inside the book and could not put it down. I finished it in just a few days! I was struck by the sincerity and fearlessness of Kim Conant's words and her ideas on femininity and sexuality. Guys should also read this book if they would like to honor their 'Good Woman'. Py Kim Conant speaks with frankness and clarity on subjects that can be awkward for couples. With Conant's insight these subjects suddenly seem much more approachable. Thank you Py Kim Conant for writing with such integrity and daring!

My three best friends and I go on a trip each year -- just girls. After reading Py Kim's book Sex Secrets of an American Geisha, I knew my friends must have this book! I gave one to each friend on the first night of our weekend and it was a huge hit! We read out loud to each other and, as the trip continued, even wrote poems for our men. We went home from our weekend with a renewed sense of sexuality, sensuality and confidence. A must-read for women!

Kimmi
www.soupygato.com

If you're never heard of female ejaculation, Py's book will be eye-opening for you with its techniques for achieving body-draining, mind-numbing pleasure with your significant other. I appreciated her openness--she shares many personal details about her own struggles to find a mate and I liked that she didn't sugarcoat her negative experiences. I liked this book and recommend it to anyone seeking to expand their arsenal of tools to do just what the title says: attract, satisfy and keep their man.

I am delighted to recommend this wonderful book. Py Kim's points of view on sensuality and sexuality are indeed a treat. Treading in the extremely erotic, and the practical at the same time is an art form. She is able to take on the roll of a big sister and teach the reader, male or female, how to be all you can be intimately, both physically, and mentally. She never goes off track, and one leaves this book excited in a knowlege sense and a physical one at the same time. Buy this book, and put it to use. Your lover will love you for it!

This is supposed to be a self help book, something to help you find and keep your "good man".

When I hear the term "sex secrets" I think tips and tricks in the bed room. When I hear geisha I think Japanese beauties. Put together I thought I was getting tips and tricks for beauty and sex, along with some sound advice to perk up my marriage. I didn't get what I expected.

I really didn't like the older sister/ younger sister terminology, instead of endearing which I think she was going for I found it condescending and just plain bugged the heck out of me. I felt many of her suggestions were just plain impractical, in this day and age. I understand she was trying to meld western and eastern cultures and empower women (?) The reason for the question mark is that there is a entire section where she takes about weigh and how a woman should be one way, then turns around and does a complete 180. It felt hypocritical in places. I got that Ms Contant wanted to share her experiences with other women, but I don't feel she had enough experience to make this a self-help book. She admits she never even masturbated until she was in her 30's. Yet there are gems of good information in here. I did agree with the section that said when you get in a stable relationship you should make a list of things you won't give up and make sure your vibrator, masturbation, and earth shattering orgasm are on the list. While the sex techniques are good, they are about par with any other sex manual and I'd just suggest you check one of them out if that's what your looking for.

This product was provided to me free of charge by Hunter House in exchange for an unbiased review.

For me, her information was invaluable. She helped me to revive my ho-um sex life I was thinking about dating someone else until I read this book and followed some of her suggestions and it turned my boyfriend around to becomeing more caring and interested in me again. so I think I will keep him.
I just think this is a great book. It seems to help you revitalize a 2 year relationship. It is not perfect but it is worth looking into I should have bought this book long ago. She dosnt hold back she tells you everything you need to know to satisfy your man. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone and my best friend.

I found this book to be a very enjoyable and fun read. The author is humorous, sincere, and though-provoking. I disagreed with her on a few points but I was never bored. I also found her discussion of her early life to be very touching. At one point, I was a bit unnerved. Imagine yourself sitting down with your older sister for a nice cozy chat where she tells you about men and dating. Then imagine yourself sitting there while she graphically describes her own sex life and how she regularly achieves female ejaculation with her husband. I deducted a star because she seems to imply that sex is the only requirement to keep a man. 3.5 stars