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Sex and the Single Person

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I devoured the first half of this book the day it arrived in the mail. Bob writes in such a warm, inviting fashion. It's as if he knew exactly how I was feeling. Of course, the fact that he didn't get married until he was 37 probably accounts for his "insiders view" of the unique challenges of single life. His use of current events and insight from the Bible was refreshing. I've bought five more copies to give to friends! If you're looking to be encouraged, challenged and motivated in the areas of sexual purity, this is the book for you.

I purchased a copy of this book just a few days before writing this review. It was a good read and really encouraging. The comments Bob makes about living the single life and the struggle and benefits of choosing to remain sexually pure were right on. I found myself laughing and really contemplating a lot of the wisdom this brother offers the reader. There is some really good stuff in this title! A must read for Christian singles.

It also meant a lot to me personally because, at the time of writing this review, I am a 30 year-old, single, virgin myself. Just hearing from a guy who's 37 (older now actually as this book was written in the late 90's) talk so positively about how great it is (and 100% possible) to be happy, serve God, still be single and a virgin and have a desire to pursue the Lord more than even a wife or anything else was encouraging. But I think this book will be a blessing to more than just 30 year old virgins (grin). I think so many singles who have come through different experiences and backgrounds leading up to this point of their lives will find strength and encouragement in this book. Bob has much to say to divorced persons, widows, those who aren't virgins but have made a decision to follow God's plan and become "second virgins," and young men and women as well as older singles. I think Bob communicates his message well enough that anyone (single) reading this book can get something really positive from it.

Bob makes a comment about sex that I think is really true but this truth is not what we hear in the media, the music industry, hollywood and in society today. The truth is that "sex is a drive, it's not a need." That simple fact, so often, gets distorted and, really, rejected... but it's true. This book presents some real insight and encouragement for the single who wants to please God but can be honest about the struggle with temptation and about wanting to lay hold of some practical tools for overcoming it, fleeing from sin and immorality, and running to God.

This book doesn't feel like it's written by a pastor or some other authority figure or religious leader talking down to you. Nothing, by that statement, is meant as derogatory to pastors or counselors, but what I'm simply saying is that Bob talks on a level of understanding what singles deal with because he is one himself and battles the same stuff every day in his own life. The things that God has brought him through and taught him in his own life become great counsel for other singles dealing with many of the same or similar issues.

Sex and the Single Person is written by a guy who understands the types of thought processes and emotional cycles that most Christian singles face. But I think it would be unfair to suggest that this book has something to say only to Christians. I believe that there are some strong messages in this work that would be very enlightening and provoking to those who haven't thought much or cared about the Christian viewpoint on abstinence before Marriage or how to live a healthy and happy single life. To those that have trouble understanding why anyone would want remain chaste until marriage or overcome the temptation to give in to sexual behavior, you NEED to read this book. It will help you understand why and may cause you to look deeper at some neglected areas of your own heart. You may find some answers that you have been avoiding asking questions for.

The book does feel targeted at an audience with ages between 25 and 35 and there is a lot of encouragement and counsel given to those who are still virgins. Of course there is also the feeling that this book speaks a lot to male single, since the author is a male. Each of these aspects applied to me and so I was able to relate to most of the author's comments and draw strength from what I read. Perhaps someone who doesn't fit into these categories will get quite as much from this book as I did, but I'm not too confident in suggesting that either because Bob says a lot to people who are not in these categories and he does not speak exclusively to men either. Heck, the book is affordable enough that I don't think anyone can go wrong here. It's a good read and you will get something from it!

I just started reading another book that is specifically geared towards adult men that seems to be excellent so far. It's called "Every Man's Battle." Highly recommended reading also!

Sex and the Single Person hits the subject of living the single life from a broader, less exclusive perspective, which makes it great for anyone single to read, male or female. I really enjoyed it and would recommend it highly!

It was quite refreshing to find a man over 30 who is still waiting for God's best. I was pleased to learn this! I thought the author made great points to those of us who are single and waiting as well as those who were once married or even outside of God's will prior to being a Christian. It was an honest look at sexuality from a single perspective without a preachy tone. If you are committed to living a chaste lifestyle, no matter who you are, you will find this book to be encouraging.

I'd like to see a book written for those who know what they are missing - not from the perscpective of a virgin. This book was probably very helpful for those who are still waiting - but I believe that is probably a small majority.

I gave this book as a gift without reading it first. Older readers, new Christians and/or those who are not virgins will probably see the author (almost 40 and still a virgin) as a source of curiosity rather than a source of inspiration. Better choices would be The Ten Commandments of Dating, The Black Single Christian's Guide to Dating & Sexuality and True Love in a World of False Hope.

I've used many resources in Singles Ministry - this is one of the best.