Sex and Spirit: Merging Heart and Soul in Love [Paperback]

John Selby (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 7, 1999

Drawing on revealing case studies, this frank, groundbreaking guide examines the nature of both male and female orgasm, shows that changes in your self-image can evoke positive changes in your sex life, and teaches how true sexual intimacy can become a transcendent and life-fulfilling experience.

Product Details

• Paperback: 276 pages
• Publisher: iUniverse (April 7, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1583482016
• ISBN-13: 978-1583482018
• Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 6.2 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (2 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #2,238,164 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

I'm of cattle ranching origins in California and Arizona, one of the few remaining people who actually did the work of a cowboy while growing up - not so glamorous actually. I was eager to head back east to Princeton - and from then on it was non-stop change ... government-funded psychedelic research in the late sixties ... meditation exploration and working as a therapist in the seventies ... loads of trips south into Indian realms where I felt most at home. Then Europe in the eighties where I found people seriously eager to plunge into the deeper mind-management methods I'd been developing.

After a number of fulfilling and enlightening but not-quite-right relationships, finally the love of my life appeared at 37 ... and then off we went to Hawaii to start a family (most fulfilling of all) and go deeper into my own explorations. Now our boys are grown and living in California, and after almost 20 years here in paradise, Birgitta and I are getting set to also move to California so as to be more plugged in doing seminars etc, with three new books coming out this new year.

During the last decade I've been finalizing my life work in developing short-form meditation' techniques and Focus Phrase methods for quickly quieting the mind and shifting into present-moment full engagement. Quite a number of books have emerged along the way - and now Birgitta and I are producing special 'experiential video' programs that in and of themselves, awaken a meditative present-moment quality of consciousness. Visit http://www.tappingdaily.org to see samples!

You can read my Huffington Post blogs at:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/john-selby/

And enjoy free video meditations at:

http://www.youtube.com/selby2424

And explore our new video work at:

http://www.tappingdaily.org

For me, there's no choice. Here and now is where I like to live. Nice view! And yeah, a sense of humor is the highest quality I aspire to... overall, life has been so very good. Hope so for you too! Feel free to contact me at the TappingDaily.org site.

Customer Reviews

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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars SEX AND ALSO SPIRIT - DREAM COME TRUE!, June 3, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: Sex and Spirit: Merging Heart and Soul in Love (Paperback)

I've read a lot of books on sexuality and a lot of books on spiritual themes - finally here's a wise and really insightful book on how the two go together. The human act of creation must be a spiritual act ... after all, who created us in the first place? But it seems sex has gotten so mundane - this book helps bring in the deeper parts of love ... and what a rush!

Well, sometimes I've felt just totally trascendent when making love, but usually I haven't known how to go to that amazing expanded place during sex, where there's no difference between me and my true love, and we just blast off into some infinite place that is definitely spiritual. Now I know - it's a secret everyone should know, which is why I'm writing these notes.

Selby is a psychologist who really knows how our minds and our spirit work together, and his book explains real simply what the mystic experience during orgasm is all about. He also teaches totally pragmatic ways to help a spiritual experience happen, every time you make love ... many thanks to him!

What I was especially surprised and happy to learn about, was that we can act on our own to finally heal old heartbreaks that get in the way of really opening up to our new love - that's where this book most helped me, since I'd just come out of a real heartbreak, and I'm mostly over it now, thanks to this book.

The other thing I learned from reading Sex and Spirit and then working with the inner programs of the book is that right when we're making love, we can consciously shift into special states of mind where we let go of worries, tune into the present moment, and allow some deeper natural force or whatever to "move us" together toward orgasm.

And one other thing that's really great are the chapters on letting go of trying to be a good lover, and also letting go of fantasies while making love - so that you're fully "here" and the pure experience just overwhelms ... I can't say all of this as good as the author does, he's definitely an expert on sexuality and he's also just very kind and patient in his teachings ...

Enjoying wild sex and deep spiritual feelings at the same time ... that's about as good as life gets - and this book is definitely the hands-on manual for really opening up and letting your whole soul merge with your lover. I give this ten stars!

Julia

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars sexual healing and fulfillment, January 7, 2009

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This review is from: Sex and Spirit: Merging Heart and Soul in Love (Paperback)

Sex and Spirit

'Sex and Spirit' is a book designed to help you wake up to your own sexuality on many deep levels at once- it shows first of all how your breathing awareness underlies how you respond sexually, and how staying aware of your breathing and whole-body rather than getting lost in thoughts, is the sure way to a deep experience. You'll learn how to let go of anxieties related to getting naked and having sex - and how to be intimate not just physically but in verbal and visual intercourse too. There's a chapter on how to heal old heartbreaks, and also how to expand into what's truly a spiritual encounter during intercourse. I wrote this book after years of guiding couples toward healthy fulfilling sexual relating - and to be quite honest, it's simply what has worked for me too, over the years, in moving from a pretty messed up uptight childhood to where I could finally be totally fulfilled in love myself. I've also included discussions on how sexuality and spirituality merge in a deep relationship - the book is designed also to share with your lover - enjoy!