Sex Tips from a Dominatrix [Hardcover]

Patricia Payne (Author), Maurice Vellekoop (Illustrator)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 12, 1999

Welcome to D/s land.

Could your sex life use some new thrills? If so, here's your ticket to all those secret desires you've only confessed to your best friend in her dorm room at Deerfield: crops and corsets, nosebleed stilettos, leather, latex, and lambcuffs.

Whether you would like to make dominance and submission (D/s) a permanent part of your relationship, are brushing up for a weekend submersion session of Lina Wertmuller films, or are simply looking for a one-spank stand, Patricia Payne—exacting dominatrix and luxurious bon vivant—will guide you through this brave new underworld. Here, she shares step-by-step instructions on how to set the mood, decorate your room, pick a proper outfit, buy the best bonds, tie the exact knot, and wield the perfect quirt. She also gives tips on avoiding disaster and embarrassment, such as preventing nasty wax stains on the Kashan, so you can keep the bon in bondage.

Sex Tips From a Dominatrixcontains such forbidden fruits as:

• Tips on Whips

• BDSM Glamour Do's and Don'ts

• Silencing Your Lamb

• The Dope on Rope

• How to Get Knotty

• Aural Sex

• Dungeon Decorum

• Advanced Activities

So add a new whine to your cellar and get allwrapped up in lovemaking—with strings attached.

Editorial Reviews

Review

""Sex Tips from a Dominatrix contains more ideas on how to bring pain into your bedroom than you can shake a stick at...guaranteed to give you a whole new perspective on the term 'power struggle.' Spank you, Patricia Payne. Spank you very much."--"Bust Magazine

About the Author

Patricia Payne is a practicing dominatrix who has held several top positions in boardrooms and bedrooms. The product of a strict boarding school, she first aspired to be a governess—until she found greater opportunity being the Governess.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 224 pages
• Publisher: It Books; First edition. edition (August 12, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0060392878
• ISBN-13: 978-0060392871
• Product Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.3 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #991,468 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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35 of 36 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Somewhat Interesting..Somewhat Not, May 17, 2000

By 

Todd Hawley (San Francisco CA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Sex Tips from a Dominatrix (Hardcover)

The author takes a light-hearted and "campy" approach to introducing SM to your partner. Written primarily from a Fem Domme point of view, the book has some interesting information. It also has some cute illustrations at the start of each chapter and some witty section titles.

There is good information on shaving, how to clean your leather clothes, a great list of movies with "SM-type scenes" in them, and chapters on knot-tying and "SM yoga" type exercises. There's also good advice for getting "toys" past airport security.

However, there were a few sections I was uncomfortable with. For example, advising the cleaning of toys with vodka? Huh? Anti-bacterial soap or rubbing alcohol works just as well for sterilizing toys. Also, ripping up hotel bedsheets to use as bondage ties? I would imagine a hotel manager might bill you for those ripped-up sheets.

I also was a bit uncomfortable with the chapter on gags. While she does mention safety precautions to a certain extent, I would never gag anyone with tape to hold a gag in place. There's too much possibility of things going wrong IMHO.

This book has good and not so good information. Hence the three star rating.

30 of 33 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Don't bother, April 2, 2001

By 

TammyJo Eckhart "TammyJo Eckhart" (Bloomington, Indiana United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Sex Tips from a Dominatrix (Hardcover)

I collect "how-to" books about BDSM, especially those which address female tops or slave training. This book was a Valentine's Day gift and I'll treasure it for that -- I just was not impressed with the book. There is nothing particularly wrong with the information (except for using pantyhose or ties for bondage -- don't do that) and there is nothing new here. The presentation with what I guess was an attempt at humor, only made the book seem like one a very vanilla person might put out to "shock" friends. It won't "hurt" you partner or you to read this, but please make sure you get another "how-to" book to double check the information; better yet, contact a nearby BDSM organization and learn about safety first hand. Some of you by like the black and white drawings of the book.

20 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Good for beginners, little for experienced players, November 16, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Sex Tips from a Dominatrix (Hardcover)

This is excellent for beginners, curious about the evermore visible world of SM. By putting a softer edge on the subject, Ms Payne removes much of the stigma attached to SM, making it more palatable for a mainstream audience. If Cosmo or Mademoiselle were to write a serious book about SM, this is what I would exzpect to be the result. Ms Payne, a self described "Avid SM Hobbyist" is not a professional dominatrix, she is however the Martha Stewart of SM.

Seasoned veterans of the SM scene however will find little in this book that they didn't already know. Most basic SM texts are far more advanced than Ms Paynes offering. If you've been around the dungeon for a couple of years, the best use you'll find for this book is as a gift to your curious vanilla friends.