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Carne's books are better
on March 19, 2002
There is nothing in this book that isn't covered better and in greater detail in Patrick Carne's books or A.A.'s Big Book. The author's (who founded the S.A. organization) world is one where men and women adhere to strict gender roles and there is no room for homosexual relationships or heteros who 'shack up.'
The SA organization recently changed its sobriety definition to clearly state that spouse means a married partner of the opposite sex. Last time I checked, Tradition Three did not say "the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and only have married, heterosexual relationships." While other "S" groups help members repair and redirect their potentially destructive habits, SA seems intent on suggesting its members repress those urges and replace them with a more Christian-oriented view of sex.
The author makes liberal use of "member quotes" that are suspiciously alike in structure and content, making me suspect that these quotes are entirely the authors.
I don't mean to bash SA--the organization. It was instrumental in my recovery. Without it I could very likely be in prison right now. It's the book I'm not crazy about.
As a recovering sexual addict, I find A.A.'s Big Book and Hope and Recovery contain everything I need to live a life free of addictive behavior. The author's thinly-veiled fundamentalist agenda undercuts what could have been a landmark work. Read this book. Then read Hope and Recovery. Then compare and decide which is best for you.