Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse [Hardcover]

Ed Young (Author), Lisa Young (Author)

Book Description

Release date: January 10, 2012

The predominant message in our culture is that it's okay to have sex whenever, wherever, and however we want. Sex has become just sex. But while society has taken sex too far, the church hasn't taken it far enough.

God wants couples to make love in marriage-with passion, with purpose, and with pleasure. Marriages aren't experiencing all the benefits that come from a healthy sex life. Couples are facing a barrage of influences that keep them from connecting with each other regularly-the kids, the career, the house, the errands, etc.

SEXPERIMENT shows people that sex in marriage is more than just sex, and it's more than a chore. The Youngs believe it's time to get back to understanding the context of sex in marriage and that it's time for couples to break the barriers keeping them from a healthy sexual relationship. Couples ought to experience the benefits of having sex regularly, intentionally, and creatively. SEXPERIMENT will allow couples to discover that the intersection of God and sex can lead to a life punctuated by exclamation marks!

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Ed Young will teach you the difference between temporary moments of happiness and true inner joy for a lifetime." (Joyce Meyer )

"Young writes like he's sitting across the table, talking directly to you." (The Washington Post )

"Young not only brings energy to his topic, but also meaningful, biblically based content." (Christian Retailing Magazine )

"Ed and Lisa Young have modeled a Christ-centered marriage for over 25 years. Their straightforward, encouraging and practical teaching in SEXPERIMENT will take your marriage to a greater depth of intimacy than you've ever known before." (Craig Groeschel, Senior Pastor of LifeChurch.TV Author of WEIRD, Because Normal Isn't Working )

"Honestly, most of the preaching and teaching about sex, love, and marriage is not getting the job done. The marriages and sex lives represented in the church look no better than the world's. And the reason is because our approach to the subject is based on restraint rather than vision. In SEXPERIMENT, Ed Young, a man with a marriage and family worth aspiring to, changes that. If you want to experience all of the pleasure and happiness God intended for your marriage, this book is a must-read." (Steven & Holly Furtick, Lead Pastor at Elevation Church; Author, Sun Stand Still )

"Marriage without good sex is like a house without heat in the winter. You might be able to survive in it but it's not nearly as enjoyable. Ed and Lisa are among the best when it comes to encouraging us to keep the ""heat on"" in the house. Their practical, honest, and open style of communication on this topic is both real and refreshing. I want to encourage you to take this challenge as an opportunity to stir the fire in your marriage." (Pastors Kevin & Sheila Gerald of Champions Centre
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"Ed and Lisa are simply fun to be around and their joy as a family speaks even louder than their world renowned church does. My wife and I look at their marriage, the way they still laugh with each other and live life so passionately, and are instantly inspired. Additionally, all their children actually want to hang out with them! Higher praise for parents, you will not find. Obviously, their marriage is impacting, if it works in their own house first. This book should be a pre-marriage pre-requisite and an annual 'wanna stay happily married' re-read! Thank God for a couple that continues to help others build strong marriages." (Carl & Laura Lentz, Lead Pastor at Hillsong in New York City )

"Our culture worships sex but is often confused about marriage. I've always believed that the church should be at the forefront in portraying the delight of sex in the context of marriage. Ed Young's book does just that with humor, wisdom, and candor." (Judah & Chelsea Smith Senior Pastors at The City Church
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"It's not a lack of love that makes a marriage monotonous; it's a lack of passion. Sexperiment will help you put the passion back where it belongs...and take your marriage where it needs to be!" (Rev. Run )

About the Author

Ed Young is a pastor, author, and conference speaker noted for his creative communication style. He has a passion for making the complex simple as he speaks truth to people in ways they can understand and apply to their everyday lives. Through his leadership as founding and Senior Pastor of Fellowship Church, the church has become one of the most attended churches in America.

Lisa Young, the wife of pastor Ed Young, hosts Flavour, a ministry designed specifically for women at Fellowship Church. She has also co-authored The Marriage Mirror and The Creative Marriage and has contributed to Ed's books, Beauty Full and Kid CEO. In addition, she has written a cookbook, Body for God, and her most recent book, Flavour Your Day, combines inspirational thoughts from Lisa with beautiful illustrations from nationally recognized artist, Olivia Bennett.

Product Details

• Hardcover: 224 pages
• Publisher: FaithWords; 1 edition (January 10, 2012)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0446582727
• ISBN-13: 978-0446582728
• Product Dimensions: 5.9 x 1 x 8.4 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (35 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #242,597 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Ed Young is a pastor at Fellowship Church in Grapevine Texas, author and conference speaker noted for his creative communication style. He has a passion for making the complex, simple as he speaks truth to people in ways they can understand and apply to their everyday lives. He has written 14 books including Sexperiment, The Marriage Mirror, Outrageous, Contagious Joy, Beauty Full, and Kid CEO.

Pastor Ed Young is a frequent conference speaker, and he provides resources for church leaders through CreativePastors.com and the Creative Church Conferences (C3). Ed has been married to his wife, Lisa, for more than twenty-six years. They have four children and live in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.

Ed and Lisa, are also strong advocates of maintaining an active and healthy lifestyle. And to help people honor the bodies God has entrusted to us, they have produced a series of resources called Body for God.

If you want to learn a little more about Ed, see what's on his mind, what he's up to and what drives him each day, visit www.facebook.com/pastor.ed.young, twitter.com/edyoung, www.youtube.com/user/EdYoung and www.Vimeo.com/ey.

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

8 of 10 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars I Was Skeptical At First ... March 20, 2012

By rp

Format:Kindle Edition|Amazon Verified Purchase

Sexperiment: 7 Days to Lasting Intimacy with Your Spouse

The Sexperiment is about a challenge for married couples in the church where Ed Young serves as lead pastor to make love for seven consecutive days. The quotes used by co-authors Ed and Lisa Young in this book would lead a reader to believe that the sexperiment has revolutionized some marriages.

When I first began reading about the sexperiment I was immediately drawn to the question, "What would make this sexperiment so beneficial (beyond the obvious)?" In other words, I wanted to know if this whole thing was just a gimmick used to draw in the curious crowd. If it's more than a gimmick, why did the sexperiment have such a big impact. And throughout the book those questions stayed at the forefront of my mind.

Eventually I found myself satisfied when I realized that gradually my questions were answered. I believe the Youngs' answer to this question is that the arrangements a couple has to make in order to make love for seven consecutive days set possible precedents for the immediate future for that couple.

For example, in order to make love seven consecutive days, a married couple would have to prioritize making their sex life above all the other items of life that take our time. When a married couple gets so busy that they don't have time for one another, the sexperiment can help them re-order their lives.

Another example: by the third (or possibly fourth!) day, the husband is not likely making love to satisfy his sexual energy (at least this would be true for most men). So now he can focus on making love to serve her needs, which at that point are not likely sexual in nature by then, either. He may focus on her need for emotional intimacy, using the physical closeness to enhance emotional intimacy.

By the end of the book I was convinced that for some couples, the sexperiment could be a very valid exercise. It was an enjoyable read and Ed and Lisa Young managed to get me past my skepticism.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars A Good Twist on Marriage Help books... May 20, 2012

By Carrie R. Walker

Format:Hardcover

When I saw that this book was available for review I thought it sounded like an interesting twist on your typical marriage help books and I was eager to read it. While I sincerely believe that my husband and I have a very good marriage, I figured that there would still be something that we could gain from this book. I started reading the book and it did not disappoint. While yes, the book does definitely focus on having an intimacy with your spouse - it goes beyond that! It covers so many excuses that we let crop into our lives that lead us away from "becoming one" in our marriages.

One of my favorite chapters was actually the first chapter because it covered the differences between men and women and how we think. I couldn't believe how accurate it was! I guess I shouldn't have been too surprised since this is written from a husband and wife team that have been married for over 30 years, but it still amazed me.

I think that this book would be very helpful for any marriage. Even if you have a solid marriage - it will help to solidify your marriage. If your marriage seems to be shaky - it can help you to get it back on track. This book even has a section at the end of each chapter called "Action Steps" for couples that are reading this together and are getting ready to embark on the "Sexperiment". While this book is written for married couples, it also has a section at the end of the chapter called "Before You Do" for engaged couples and "The Yoke is Not a Joke" for those that are still dating. I really appreciated the fact that over and over in these sections they made a point to say that this experiment is only for you once you are married, but there are things that you can consider before you are in that situation.

I received this book for free from FaithWords in exchange for an honest review. I was not required to give a positive review. All words and thoughts in this review are my own.

3 of 4 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars The three letter church Swear Word "SEX" March 19, 2012

By Curtis A. Cecil

Format:Hardcover

As a guy, I fall into the stereotypical GUY column of "why on earth would I ever read a Marriage book"...

This book was written for me. First off it catches the attention of the guys out there with the title! Like they say, sex sells... Then it is written primarily to the men by Ed Young, with sections to the women as well.

All through the first couple chapters you can catch yourself going 'oh that applies' preach it! And then it hits home.

Having been married for 11 years now and having 4 kids, so many of the 'sexcuses' that are mentioned in this book apply to our marriage. I read this book thinking of so many things that I wanted to put into play that would bring our marriage better strength and intimacy that would last as we move forward with God's plan for our lives (Adopting 2 special needs children from China).

After reading this book I want to buy cases of them and give them away to all the married couples in our church. No one tells you that your marriage may grow cold, or monotonous. Could that be why so many people are getting divorces, especially in the church? When a bump comes they question their entire marriage?

This book will bring you closer together (IF you follow through with what steps are mentioned); and it will bring you more intimacy as you learn to "become one flesh" or one person. It is hard to love your spouse as you love your self when you think of them as a separate person and not an extension of yourself... yet this book teaches us to work towards being ONE...

This book will change your life. And it's not just for married couple either. It gives advise to those who are engaged or even unequally yoked. (And rightfully so they set the guidelines that the intimacy part is designed by God ONLY for married couples!)

Here is what the publisher had to say about this book.
The predominant message in our culture is that it's okay to have sex whenever, wherever, and however we want. Sex has become just sex. But while society has taken sex too far, the church hasn't taken it far enough.
God wants couples to make love in marriage-with passion, with purpose, and with pleasure. Marriages aren't experiencing all the benefits that come from a healthy sex life. Couples are facing a barrage of influences that keep them from connecting with each other regularly-the kids, the career, the house, the errands, etc.
SEXPERIMENT shows people that sex in marriage is more than just sex, and it's more than a chore. The Youngs believe it's time to get back to understanding the context of sex in marriage and that it's time for couples to break the barriers keeping them from a healthy sexual relationship. Couples ought to experience the benefits of having sex regularly, intentionally, and creatively. SEXPERIMENT will allow couples to discover that the intersection of God and sex can lead to a life punctuated by exclamation marks!

Pick up a COPY or 2. You won't regret it!