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Sexual Coercion in Dating Relationships

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If you think you told him clearly that you are not ready and he didn't seem to hear, you are not crazy. He didn't hear you. So take care of yourself. This book is researched on college age men and women. However much men may mature, many are clearly starting at a disadvantage. This book describes many test situations wherein a majority of men did not hear a woman's clear communication that she did not want sex. One way to find the men who are truly deserving to be intimate with you is to weed out those who are just not listening.

In our society it is unfortunate that men are taught that the only form of inapropriate coercion is through physical force. Practically speaking, this is all that our courts can try to enforce. Unfortunately, psychological coercion or "white" lies that lead to unwanted sex can often cause as much psychological harm as rape. I had a man say to me after such an experience, "I am sorry I did not head your request for restraint. But your body language gave you away." Although he did not physically force me, he clearly reveals the attitude of a rapist. This book clarifies the full gamut of sexual coercion beyond the obvious physical force.

This book will help you feel confident about taking the time to get to know a man before being alone with him in a private place, about communicating with him very clearly, and about believing it when he seems not to be hearing you. Any woman dating, parents and educators of young women and men, and men who love women should read this book.