Sexual Intimacy in Marriage [Paperback]

William Cutrer (Author), Sandra Glahn (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 11, 2001

(Revised edition) Answers the most common questions that couples would like to ask but don't. Providing sound advice, this is not just another technical manual. (20040603)

Editorial Reviews

Review

. . . A wonderful gift for a newlywed couple or a couple soon to be married. (Teens4Jesus 20040603)

Cutrer and Glahn . . . cut through the fog of partial truths to help newlyweds, soon-to-weds, or couples who have been married for years. (Dallas/Fort Worth Heritage 20040603)

Ignorance is often the greatest enemy to happiness and satisfaction in the area of romance within marriage. Sexual Intimacy in Marriage goes a long way toward dealing with our need for information, helping couples to enjoy their sex life together to the fullest. If you want to be the 'lover' your mate desires and needs, you will be blessed by this book. (Daniel L. Akin Southern Baptist Theological Seminary 20040603)

Sexual Intimacy . . . Gives energy to travelers journeying into romance. . . . Full of challenges, surprises, and sound biblical principles. (CBA Marketplace 20040603)

Sexual Intimacy in Marriage is scientifically accurate, biblically based, intensely practical, and written with a large dose of humor. The book should be bought and read together by every Christian couple desiring to improve their marriage. (Dr. David Stevens Christian Medical and Dental Society 20040603)

Superbly witty and well-written, Sexual Intimacy in Marriage is a reliable, informative, and practical guide to human sexuality for married and soon-to-be-married couples. Authors Bill Cutrer and Sandra Glahn have developed an excellent resource that will help partners more fully understand God's intentions for the sexual relationship. (Carol B. Hanshew Christian Medical & Dental Associations 20040603)

This book provides knowledge on one of the most important yet least talked about aspects of marriage. It is practical and biblical author Bill Cutrer's medical expertise makes the book especially helpful. (Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott Seattle Pacific University 20040603)

This easy-to-read book has marvelously blended the glory of sex with the realities of life. It addresses real people in a real world without compromising God's wonderful design and purpose for His gift of sex . . . . There is no question that this groundbreaking work by Dr. William Cutrer and Sandi Glahn is the answer for those who wish to take the subject of sex out of the closet while keeping it out of the gutter. It will help those who read it address their actions and attitudes regarding sex in light of God's unique purpose for humankind. It will also provide hope, encouragement, and direction for those who are open and willing to bring their sexuality under the lordship of Jesus Christ. (Dr. Tony & Lois Evans Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship 20040603)

Very much needed, realistic, and Christ-honoring (Dr. Howard G. Hendricks )

From the Back Cover

“Has greatly benefited our own family and marriage relationship. . . . Marvelously blends the glory of sex with the reality of life.”

—Dr. Tony & Lois Evans

“This book provides knowledge on one of the most important yet least talked about aspects of marriage. It is practical and biblical.”

—Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

“Very much needed, realistic, and Christ-honoring.”

—Dr. Howard Hendricks

“Knowing how often married couples are facing challenges in their sexual relationship, I’m thankful to have a book I can recommend that will help them understand this good gift from God in all its dimensions. . . Every married couple can benefit from reading this book.”

—Bob Lepine
Cohost, FamilyLife Today

“This book is essential for anyone interested in cultivating the beauty of sexual expression within marriage.”

—Bibliotheca Sacra

“Sexual Intimacy in Marriage . . . gives energy to travelers journeying into romance. . . . Full of challenges, surprises, and sound biblical principles.”

—CBA Marketplace

“Scientifically accurate, biblically based, intensely practical, and written with a large dose of humor.”

—David Stevens
President, Christian Medical & Dental Association

“Cutrer and Glahn . . . cut through the fog of partial truths to help newlyweds, soon-to-weds, or couples who have been married for years.”

—The Dalls/Fort Worth Heritage

William Cutrer, M.D., (“Dr. Bill”) is a recognized expert in reproductive technology and medical ethics. A licensed obstetrician/gynecologist who specialized in the treatment of infertility for more than fifteen years, he also holds a graduate degree from Dallas Theological Seminary and is an ordained minister. Currently he is the Gheens Professor of Christian Ministry at The Southern Baptist Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky. He and his wife, Jane, have been married for thirty-four years and have three children and five grandchildren.

Sandra Glahn, Th.M., is an adjunct professor at Dallas Seminary, where she edits the award-winning magazine Kindred Spirit. She is the author of the Coffee Cup Bible Studies series for women and the coauthor of seven books about marriage and reproductive issues. Sandra also serves on the board of the Evangelical Press Association and the women’s executive committee for Bible.org. She and her husband, Gary, have been married for twenty-eight years and have one daughter. They make their home in Dallas, Texas.

--This text refers to an alternate Paperback edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 272 pages
• Publisher: Kregel Publications; 11th edition (July 11, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 082542366X
• ISBN-13: 978-0825423666
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #963,732 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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14 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Outstanding! Instructional in terms of sex and scripture!, June 3, 1998

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This review is from: Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Paperback)

As a practicing Ob/Gyn for the last 20 years as well as a Christian, I am familiar with the sensitive issues surrounding a happy fulfilling sex life in marriage. Dr. Cutrer handles these issues with expertise which is founded both in his experience as a gynecologist and his obvious thorough knowledge of the scriptures. I have strongly recommended this book for many of my patients, as well as members of my family. God wants us to fully enjoy our partners in marriage and do so mutually. This book goes a long way toward dispelling many myths, taboos and misconceptions about what God whould have us get out of our physical relationships! I can't recommend this book highly enough. As the author of two books myself, I can tell you that this text's organization, content and readability are critically excellent as well. Any married couple, Christian or otherwise, should get a copy of this book! J.M. Thurston, MD, FACOG

15 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A Book All Married Couples Should Read, December 15, 2004

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This review is from: Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Paperback)

The authors wanted to take the subject of sex "out of the closet while keeping it out of the gutter" (13). In the past, many publications on the topic of sex have been "overly spiritual" (ignoring "human realities") or were too medical (bypassing the "mental and emotional" aspects of sex). The answer to the dilemma was this "easy-to-read" book that blends the "glory of sex" with the "realities of life"(13). This book explains all aspects of sex, including male and female anatomy, sexual myths, and answering specific questions regarding sexual practice from a Christian point of view.

This book was very frank in explaining sexual issues. The authors said that the "number one" problem couples experienced was talking about sex, even though communication was the key to discovering the sexual desires of one's spouse (82). The book, containing sketches of male and female anatomy as well as the proper form for the "squeeze technique," could be used as an "ice breaker" for couples who find it difficult to openly communicate about sexual matters.

In the section entitled, "The Sexual Response Cycle," Dr. Cutrer shared, "God designed our genitals to become aroused" he continued by saying, "the enjoyment of beauty does not need to be wicked...we can appreciate the lovely form of biceps or breast without falling headlong into uncontrolled passion" (50). It seemed almost contradictory for him to write in the next paragraph, "arousal whets the sexual appetite...it gently or not-so-gently turns the mind toward sexual fulfillment...sometimes sight is enough" (50). Perhaps the wording was not clear, but it appeared that being sexually stimulated by others was acceptable. This seemed contrary to what Jesus said in Matthew 5:28- "I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

Overall, the book had several positive aspects. For instance, many people get married without ever realizing the magnitude of the commitment. The most helpful section of the book was entitled, "What is Marriage?" It described the "two things" involved with marriage-leaving one's parents and cleaving to the spouse (116). Instead of giving newlyweds an opportunity to come back when they are unhappy about their marriage, the authors insisted that parents ought to tell their child, "When you say `I do,' keep your commitment in sickness and health. We're renting out your room tomorrow. Drop by sometime for a visit" (117). This statement puts an emphasis on the importance of marital commitment and through "tough love" the parents demonstrate support for their child's marriage. The authors valiantly described the biblical roles of both husband and wife. This book fulfilled its goal of providing a "practical approach to many sexual problems and challenges that confront married couples" (14).

13 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Accurate, easily understood, witty, fun to read...., March 8, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Paperback)

In pondering the rapid maturity of our children, I often find myself scanning the shelves of the bookstore seeking aid for reliable guidance into their future experiences of adulthood. "Sexual Intimacy in Marriage", co-authored by Dr. William Cutrer and Sandra Glahn, was an encouraging find toward this purpose. The book was originally purchased, read and appreciated as a personal resource in understanding gender differences and how they can affect the marital relationship. It also has provided insight into God's Word in the matters of sexual relationships and marital promises. After reading this book, I realized not only is it an invaluable tool in my life, but also, what a priceless source of teaching and information this would be to the young adult who is fast approaching the years in which relational commitments are often made. I have, with great confidence, recommended this reading selection to each of my college-bound teens. My personal gain from this book has been a renewed desire and confidence to instill in my children the hope intended for the plan of marriage that God so beautifully designed. This is a great help for those who will soon begin, or have just begun to build a marriage, or for those who are dedicated to fortifying their marriage with strength from God's hand. This book is written with wisdom and heart. A great contribution to the lives of those you love and care for the most.