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The Sexual Man

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Being female, I had no idea what goes on in the minds of men when it comes to this subject. I read this book to better understand my husband and his struggles with sexual issues. It really opened up my eyes to the "sexual man" and his needs, his desires, and his hurts. As I read this book, question after question came to mind. I asked my husband these things, and it opened up great conversation and has really improved our relationship and deepened our understanding of eachother. This is a great eye-opener for females, a wonderful aide to break through misunderstandings and preconceptions about male sexuality. I would encourage you to read with your spouse, having open and honest discussion as issues come up. You will build a firmer foundation as you grow together in love and sexual intimacy.

I highly recommend this book to anyone who feels that male sexuality, as it is typically expressed today, needs improving. While this book is directed at men, it should be read by women to help them help their spouses, and it should be used by parents to help them guide their sons' development.

One reader lamented the lack of scientific method, however I found myself in nearly complete agreement with everything the author wrote. The experiences of my life certainly conformed with the author's conclusions. Sometimes a lifetime of experience is much more informative than science.

The author shows how male sexuality has become warped and then suggests ways to achieve healthy sexuality. If you follow his suggestions, you will have a much happier marriage and will raise much healthier sons.

As a therapists I am constantly called upon to recommend resources for various needs. As a result of working with men over the past 26 years, I wholeheartedly endorse Dr. Hart's exceptional book. The research is fresh and the book is based in the solid ground of Scripture. This book will help men understand their sexuality from "faith-based" perspective.

I would also recommend it for women to read.

"The Sexual Man" is an excellent book for both men and women, whether you're reading it for your own information, or currently in a relationship or hope to be in one in the future. It's a no-nonsense, thoughtful and thought provoking, insightful book on male sexual arousal, drive, and viewpoints. I highly recommend it for both men and women, especially if you want to achieve a better understanding and intimacy in your relationship. There are also graphs in each chapter that help illustate the responses of men in the nationwide research surveys used in the book. Very easily read; the information is in "layman's terms", and covers a wide variety of topics relating to male sexuality.

While this book is admittedly a bit heavy on statistics, graphs and charts, Hart's findings are incredibly insightful into the mysteries, blessings, joys, temptations and struggles of male sexuality. He covers a variety of relevant topics for men and does a good job of keeping his research palatable. There is something beneficial here for men, women, singles and couples.

Dr. Hart has an amazing way of bringing out the innerant makeup of man. It is the way God created us, we are sexual creatures by nature. He delves into the abuses that society and the church have put on men and boys by not discussing or discouraging the discussion of male sexuality. This is an excellent resource for - any man who struggles with his own sexuality, a father wanting to talk to his son about sexuality, for young men entering adolescence through adulthood and for women who seek to understand the sexual nature of men. There is a freedom to be found when we find out that we are created this way, of course there are abuses of this and guidelines of morality that we should follow. This is a must read for anyone interested in the subject and provides a great source of strength for those struggling with there own sexuality.

Dr. Archibald Hart's book, "The Sexual Man", is written for (primarily religious) men who want to know what "normal" male sexual behavior is. He posits (quite accurately) that men wonder all the time if what they desire and practice is normal in regards to sex. Dr. Hart's original research on male sexuality draws data from his extensive interviews with men of religious faith as a psychotherapist, his interviews with seminary students, and more than 600 male responders on a specific survey on sexual practices. All the men in his study consider themselves to be religious and of high moral standing. He does not claim to be writing a book about the sexual practices of the average American male, on the contrary, his data paints a picture of one end of the male spectrum - men who are moral, good, and are trying to live honorable lives. I find it surprising, and somewhat comforting, to know that so many men who are trying to be honorable have doubts, fears, secrets, shame, guilt, and a host of other emotions revolving around their sexual lives. Dr. Hart details these emotional responses in this book. The chapter names are as good a description of the book as any:

1. Male Sexuality - The Untold Story
2. Am I Normal? (Why men question their own sexuality)
3. Why MAle Sexuality Goes Wrong (he comes up with a surprising answer).
4. How Men Think About Sex (Surprising answers considering the mostly religious males being surveyed)
5. What Men Really Want From Sex (And how this differs from what women want from sex)
6. Why Men Love/Hate Pornography (The effect of viewing pornography on the male brain and resulting sexual behavior)
7. Teenage Sexuality (how to talk to your teen about sex)
8. Sex and the Married Man (Sexual problems and norms in the context of marriage)
9. Men, Sex, and the Workplace (Especially in regard to temptation and sexual harassment)
10. Religion and Sex (How does one's religious training and faith impact sexual practices?)
11. Creating a Healthy Sexuality (Dr. Hart speaks frankly to his readers on how to develop a healthy sexual outlook)

He also includes an appendix on the heterosexual male experience, and where to get help for sexual problems.

The reading and information is intensely interesting. His conclusions and advice are practical, and are more biblically based rather than humanistic.

This is a book for all males to read, but expecially targeted for the male who is religious and desires to live an honorable and responsible sexual life. Since males generally do not talk to other males about the details of their sexual lives, this book is a revelation on how religious men think and behave in regards to this highly secretive subject. This is what makes the book so unique and valuable.

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Can we as christian men and women be honest with ourselves for just one moment please? The stories of sexual guilt within the five fold ministries and layman alike are real and mass produced by the hour. The Sexual Man book reviewed with the Holy bible has echos of healing.

The survey hits direct and the anwsers are sobering. Parents should read and discuss this book to better understand the changes in their children from the inside out.The sexual man also deals with real life solutions to many mythical and often misunderstood sexual basics dealing with males.

In closing, there are as many sex books on the market as there are grains of sand on the collective beaches globaly, so let's not fool ourselves here ok? For this sexual male there are only 2 books that are to be trusted. One is the Bible and the other is Dr. Archibalds experiance brought to life application book The Sexual Man.

This book is a must read for all Christian men who are burdenend with guilt due to lust. Just living in this sexually explicit society is so difficult. This book will help you to know that you are indeed "normal". I have recommended this book to many friends and explained that it will indeed unburden their soul. It will set you free.

A MUST read for all married and unmarried men. Also highly recommended for any wife who cares about the man she committed herself to. If you love him, read this book and understand this part of his that he finds most difficult to discuss because of negative conditioning in his upbringing.

Why is it okay for wives to insist their husbands love and serve them but not okay for the men to insist their wives enjoy sex with them? Why the double standard? Why is sex somehow inferior to service? This book may make you angry at our double standards in culture, especially in the church.

This book needs to be required reading for all premarital counseling.

Another reason to read this book - if you have male children. To guide and correct and teach the healthiest attitudes toward their own sexuality before the culture corrupts them, leaving them floundering as you did.