From the Publisher
"Sexy Mamas is every parent's indispensable guide to the hundreds of sexual issues the parenting books and classes don't mention. Filled with "ah-ha" insights and practical advice, and written with wit, wisdom, grace, and the experiences of hundreds of new parents, Sexy Mamas is more than informative. It's a revelation. Winks and Semans have performed a much-needed public service--and anyone who reads this book is sure to feel reassured. Two thumbs up." --Michael Castleman, author of Before You Call the Doctor and Great Sex
"Whenever I am consulted (frequently) about a woman's sudden drop in sexual desire (and /or desirability!) I ask about a possible recent birth. More often than not, yep, there it is - the sexless new mommy syndrome. Cathy Winks and Anne Semans with their usual thoroughness and compassion, have addressed all the ramifications of the problem from sleep deprivation to touch excess, from reconnecting to one's own sexuality to being receptive to one's partner's, in their wonderful new book Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids. Looking for a baby gift? Skip the onesies and rattles and present the family with a copy of this valuable book." --Isadora Alman, syndicated Ask Isadora columnist and author of Doing It: Real People Having Really Good Sex
"Sexy Mamas offers sound advice on how to nurture an interest in sex and make it a priority, despite the endless tasks of raising children. Becoming a mama clearly does not have to mean the end of sex or being sexy." --Annette F. Owens, MD PhD AASECT Certified Sex Counselor, Charlottesville Sexual Health & Wellness Clinic, Virginia
One of the best books on marriage, parenting and relationships that I've read. Powerful, practical and packed with passion! Blessed are the children and men who live with a Sexy Mama. --Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth About Love
"Finally a book on sex that understands a mother's dilema; we wish we wanted it, are worried why we don't want it, and if we really want it--feel something must be wrong with us! It's time we all throw out the idea that sexuality is defined by slim hips and firm breasts and get ready to embrace our new identities as sexy mamas. " --Sheila Ellison, author of 365 parenting series and The Courage to Be a Single Mother
"Give this to your favorite mom, and both she and her partner will thank you forever. Whether you're looking for a lost sex life, or trying to make time for intimacy, Cathy and Anne offer genuine insight, and remarkable practical advice. " --Susie Bright, author of Mommy's Little Girl
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WHY MOMS MAKE BETTER LOVERS
Sexy moms. Lets admit it, these two words dont exactly conjure up the same wealth of images as, say, "voluptuous vixens" or "smokin hotties." Sure, you may have qualified as one of the latter before becoming a parent, but your new identity as somebodys mom trumps every identity youve had before. Why are moms desexualized? The reasons are complexa cultural view of sex as dirty, a religious tradition that celebrates chaste motherhood, and a social system that demands maternal self-sacrifice. The irony that sex is what makes many women mothers in the first place probably isnt lost on you.
The looks I get if I walk into a store like Victorias Secret are hysterical! I feel like asking people if they know how my son got here in the first place. Im no less a sexual being now then I was before my child. In fact, I feel like more of a sexual being now that Im a mom. I mean, I created a whole other person in my body with the help of the person that I love! How much more sexual can you get?
This mother speaks for countless othersboth biological and nonbiologicalwho have found that becoming parents inspires them with a new sexual confidence and vitality. A renewed respect for their bodies, an increased capacity for love, a powerful connection to humanity: these are the reasons women cite most often for the improved self-image that unites the best of their maternal and sexual selves.