Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids [Paperback]

Cathy Winks (Author), Anne Semans (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 11, 2004

While parenting books rarely broach the subject, most mothers can testify that sexual desire doesn't disappear when they have children; it simply gets buried under an avalanche of conflicting demands on their time and attention. Sexy Mamas, by the authors of The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex, reaches out to women who want to integrate the pleasures of a satisfying sex life with the joys of motherhood. The book offers tips, anecdotes, and practical information about sex, supported by advice from medical experts, sex experts, and the most knowledgeable experts in this area — other mothers. Candid anecdotes and suggestions from hundreds of survey respondents support, encourage, and inspire readers to embrace a more powerful maternal sexuality. Topics include what hormonal, psychological, and environmental factors affect the sex drive, rekindling relationships, the best sex, parenting resources, and more. Sexy Mamas is a practical, informed guide for all mothers.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

"Sexy Mamas is every parent's indispensable guide to the hundreds of sexual issues the parenting books and classes don't mention. Filled with "ah-ha" insights and practical advice, and written with wit, wisdom, grace, and the experiences of hundreds of new parents, Sexy Mamas is more than informative. It's a revelation. Winks and Semans have performed a much-needed public service--and anyone who reads this book is sure to feel reassured. Two thumbs up." --Michael Castleman, author of Before You Call the Doctor and Great Sex

"Whenever I am consulted (frequently) about a woman's sudden drop in sexual desire (and /or desirability!) I ask about a possible recent birth. More often than not, yep, there it is - the sexless new mommy syndrome. Cathy Winks and Anne Semans with their usual thoroughness and compassion, have addressed all the ramifications of the problem from sleep deprivation to touch excess, from reconnecting to one's own sexuality to being receptive to one's partner's, in their wonderful new book Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids. Looking for a baby gift? Skip the onesies and rattles and present the family with a copy of this valuable book." --Isadora Alman, syndicated Ask Isadora columnist and author of Doing It: Real People Having Really Good Sex

"Sexy Mamas offers sound advice on how to nurture an interest in sex and make it a priority, despite the endless tasks of raising children. Becoming a mama clearly does not have to mean the end of sex or being sexy." --Annette F. Owens, MD PhD AASECT Certified Sex Counselor, Charlottesville Sexual Health & Wellness Clinic, Virginia

One of the best books on marriage, parenting and relationships that I've read. Powerful, practical and packed with passion! Blessed are the children and men who live with a Sexy Mama. --Pat Love, Ed.D., author of The Truth About Love

"Finally a book on sex that understands a mother's dilema; we wish we wanted it, are worried why we don't want it, and if we really want it--feel something must be wrong with us! It's time we all throw out the idea that sexuality is defined by slim hips and firm breasts and get ready to embrace our new identities as sexy mamas. " --Sheila Ellison, author of 365 parenting series and The Courage to Be a Single Mother

"Give this to your favorite mom, and both she and her partner will thank you forever. Whether you're looking for a lost sex life, or trying to make time for intimacy, Cathy and Anne offer genuine insight, and remarkable practical advice. " --Susie Bright, author of Mommy's Little Girl

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WHY MOMS MAKE BETTER LOVERS

Sexy moms. Let’s admit it, these two words don’t exactly conjure up the same wealth of images as, say, "voluptuous vixens" or "smokin’ hotties." Sure, you may have qualified as one of the latter before becoming a parent, but your new identity as somebody’s mom trumps every identity you’ve had before. Why are moms desexualized? The reasons are complex—a cultural view of sex as dirty, a religious tradition that celebrates chaste motherhood, and a social system that demands maternal self-sacrifice. The irony that sex is what makes many women mothers in the first place probably isn’t lost on you.

The looks I get if I walk into a store like Victoria’s Secret are hysterical! I feel like asking people if they know how my son got here in the first place. I’m no less a sexual being now then I was before my child. In fact, I feel like more of a sexual being now that I’m a mom. I mean, I created a whole other person in my body with the help of the person that I love! How much more sexual can you get?

This mother speaks for countless others—both biological and nonbiological—who have found that becoming parents inspires them with a new sexual confidence and vitality. A renewed respect for their bodies, an increased capacity for love, a powerful connection to humanity: these are the reasons women cite most often for the improved self-image that unites the best of their maternal and sexual selves.

Product Details

• Paperback: 224 pages
• Publisher: New World Library; 2nd edition (March 11, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1930722273
• ISBN-13: 978-1930722279
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 7 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #479,248 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars What Every Mom Needs, April 26, 2004

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This review is from: Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids (Paperback)

So many of my family and friends who have children are also having problems with their husbands...the husbands feel left out. This book has great suggestions for keeping intimacy on track, whether with just a simple back rub or a night for just the two of you, and what to do when you just don't feel like it.

I've recommended it to everyone I know who has kids, and highly recommend it here!

28 of 42 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Sexy and smutty are not one in the same, May 5, 2005

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Informed mom (Western USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids (Paperback)

I was disappointed in this book. Given the editorial reviews and other reader reviews, I thought it might be a humorous look at sex and the lack of sex in the post-baby relationship as well as ways to rekindle the romance. What I read was much different. There was information on how the sex life changes (hence the 1 star), but I was turned off by a lot of the recommendations. For example, women who are suffering from post-baby negative body image probably wouldn't find the tip to rent a pornographic movie or let her husband read pornographic magazines helpful. Nothing like comparing that body to the idylic ones in the magazine pages...Also there were sections called "hide your smut" and instructions on how to handle when your children find your "treasure chest" of adult materials. Not exactly what I had in mind.

5.0 out of 5 stars Much-Needed Support, Inspiration, and Sexual Self-Esteem, August 23, 2004

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This review is from: Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids (Paperback)

I have been searching for ways to rekindle my sex life with my husband in between work, family life, etc.. This book, by the authors of the Good Vibrations Guide to Sex (which I also recommend), is excellent. It deals with very real issues (body image, going from mother to sexual goddess) and also has creative, funny, sexy ideas to jumpstart your sex drive. It's for real moms who want to discover the sexy mamas within!