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The Shame of Me, One Man's Journey to Depression and Back Hardcover – October 15, 2009
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About the Author
Jeffrey Flanagan, also a graduate of the University of Minnesota, was an award-winning reporter and sports columnist at The Kansas City Star for 19 years, covering the Kansas City Royals and the Kansas City Chiefs. He also was a reporter with the Arizona Republic and the Decatur (Illinois) Herald and Review. Jeffrey also authored a baseball instructional book Lau's Laws on Hitting.
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The first part of the book lets Ryan tell the events that led up to the day he lost it, and the last few pages provide wonderful insight about how a person can help himself when he's depressed.
Ryan touches on the four essential forms of intimacy and compares them to an Italian chef balancing four pizzas at once. This analogy, and others, help clarify the balance needed in life.
One of the key lines in the book is this one: "I learned in 2005 that I needed to establish several relationships with people with whom I could share my feelings without shame."
And another carries tremendous weight: "Being a good friend by providing a shoulder to cry on is a noble thing. But being the never-ending shoulder to cry on doesn't work in the long run."
For men, in particular, this book is a must read!
As a woman I found it helpful in understanding a friends similar circumstance. It was not only
brave of this man to share his story but so helpful to others. Very well written also.
I live in Minnesota and one workday there was a big snowstorm during morning rush hour. This meant that my commute to work just became AT LEAST 3 1/2 hours long. Just to get to the office. Having experienced this before, I opted to work from home. Since I was working at home I indulged in streaming a little sports talk radio on my computer. On this particular day Ryan Lefebvre happened to be in the Twin Cities and on a local sports talk show with whom he was friends with the host, amongst others at the station. After reminiscing and paying each other respects on air that most male friends wouldn't do in person, Ryan was goaded into talking about this book. And I'm glad he was.
That conversation led me to purchase this book online and to fervently read it once it arrived at my house. I am the same age as Ryan Lefebvre and I too have suffered the depths of depression that he has and in a remarkably similar fashion. But that isn't what this review is about.
I wanted to relay to you, gentle reader, this story:
I bought tickets to a Twins game from a friend for my oldest child and I to attend a Twins game. A couple of weeks after this purchase and a couple weeks before THAT game, I won a radio contest for Twins tickets good for a sectioned of seating area the day before the game I bought those tickets for. Both games were against the Kansas City Royals, the team for whom Ryan Lefebvre is the radio play-by-play announcer.Read more ›
One of the things Lefebvre pointed out was that he was so focused on what he didn't have that he couldn't appreciate what he did. He also appeared to look at the happiness of others as a punishment to him. When he first joined the Royals in 1999 I will admit I was among the legion of fans that disliked him. I mean after all, the guy's name is nearly impossible to spell, he came from Minnesota and he took the job which had been held by a longtime broadcaster who was almost like part of the family. But he plugged away and did things his way and I now tune in to hear what he has to say and how he says it, not because I have any delusions about the success of the team, but because he keeps it entertaining.
I appreciate the fact he took the time to write the book. I am sure had he been doing it for the money, a humorous tome of baseball zaniness would have been easier to write and equally as profitable. But what he did was allow us to peak into his mind and I think we can all take strength from it.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Great book! My husband loved it and said it was very helpful. Plan to pass it on to a friend who struggles with depression.Published on November 25, 2013 by Kristy Y.
Fantastic book and so valuable for anyone dealing with depression or having a child or loved one dealing with this challenge.Published on November 2, 2013 by Steve Physioc
Not every depression ends so well and so quickly but it can give hope to thoses suffering from the disease.Published on October 2, 2013 by JOHN BRODRICK
This book was great and simply heartwarming. I understand the depths in which serious depression can take you. Mr. Read morePublished on October 12, 2012 by Brett Matthew Algaier
The Shame of Me from Amazon is an incredible book on the deep disabling pain of depression - I ordered 3 books for my 3 sons who have had a lot of tragedies in their lives and also... Read morePublished on April 8, 2012 by Morag Connelly
This book would carry more weight if not for the disingenuous author. Lefebvre a baseball anouncer for the Royals (and not a very good one) routinely makes costic remarks about... Read morePublished on April 26, 2010 by Bart Ewing
This is a great book for anyone who has felt any level of depression, which takes in about everyone that I have ever met. Read morePublished on March 3, 2010 by J. Edlin