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She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

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My partner is the original John Wayne - to the core. And for him to read a "how to" book on anything just isn't going to happen. Well, he doesn't have a lot of experience in the art of pleasing a woman...you know, cowboys just get on and ride! Well, somehow, he heard about this book and has it ever made a difference. A difference in everything - our level of intimacy, our happiness, everything we do...we are now closer than ever before...and we're both in our 60's!

He first tried some of the techniques without telling me about the book. Well, it was wonderfully obvious to me that something had changed and for the better.

This past weekend, we sat together in bed and he showed me the book and we read exerpts that he had marked together. How wonderful is that! We've laughed and played and we have loved...and after all these years, I am now coming first - and for the first time! How glorious is that!

Thank you, Dr.Kerner!She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

I have a curious mind and always have, so when I came across yet another book about cunnilingus I could not resist. I was especially intrigued when I saw the author was male. `She Comes First' is without a shadow of doubt the best book on the subject today.

I especially loved how he organized his book after Strunk and White's `Elements of Style' so the book is easy to read, easy to follow, and exceptionally helpful in the elements of sexual style and usage. The chapters are short and sweet so if you are in a time crunch you certainly can devour a short chapter at any session.

I cannot exclaim enough how comprehensive this book is on the sexual response of women. The author spends a great deal of time explaining the importance of building sexual tension to bring about pleasure and actually gives step by step instructions to do so.

From the beginner to the experienced enthusiast, there is something in this book for everybody. I was pleasantly surprised by the routines for beginner, intermediate, and advanced sessions. Also the step-by-step guides are an eye opener.

Impeccably written, this book was a joy to read!

girldiver:)

I have always loved the act of pleasing a woman orally, ever since I had my firet experience at age sixteen. When a freind asked me to desribe "it" I described it as a kind of wild, exotic fruit, which was why I was first attracted to Mr. Kerner's book -- the cover; that was it, there on the cover of a book, 20 years later. But the when I opened the book, I was thankful for this coincidence, for Mr. Kerner not only describes the essential parts of a woman's sexual anatomy in great detail, he describes how they work, and how you, your tongue and your lover can team up for a dynamite experience. This book is about love and the senses and all that's brought to bear during sex -- sight, smell, taste, sound, touch -- expecially talk, language, the "grammar" of sex. Ultimately, what makes this book special, raising it head and shoulders above your average "sex manual" is Kerner's ability to focus on the obvious: that communication is the essence of sexual satisfaction, that while you use your fingers and tongue to physically stimulate, it is the combination of ears and tongue, listening to what she wants and needs, and telling her what you want and need, that is the foundation of great sex and great love. This book is a real winner.

My husband and I have been married for almost ten years, and I love him dearly, but I'm so glad that he picked up this book! He went from someone who had little confidence in the bedroom, so was often hurried and uncomfortable, to someone who honestly thinks he knows how to please me. And the best part is, he does!

I like Ian Kerner's approach, my husband is a very logical computer geek (said with all the love and respect in the world) and this is just what he needed.

Yes, I feel like Charlie in Willie Wonka. Finally someone has given us the golden ticket!!! Mr. Kerner's book is something that many of us have always wanted but could never ask for. He has invited us into a magical place where we can anonymously learn answers to the many questions we have had.

I especially like his quote about men knowing more about what goes on under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. Of course we do! There are books/manuals that tell us how to change the oil, replace the freon, etc. - or our fathers showed us what to do. Well, my father told me about the "Birds and the Bees" but when it came to sex that didn't do me much more good than learning how to fill the windshield wiper fluid! But now that has changed!!! Mr. Kerner has given those of us that have always wanted to become "oral masters" a definitive guide to help us towards our goal.

I highly recommend that everyone read this. Both men and women. I guarantee that everyone will learn from it. One example....do you know how many "parts" provide stimulation to the clitoris? If you guessed 18, you are the first person to do so correctly that I have asked...and since reading the book, I've asked many(it is a great conversation piece). Mr. Kerner will help you understand how to use the knowledge he teaches and apply it - this is the best homework assignment you will ever receive! And think of how good it will be for your "lab" partner!

An amazing book...thank you Mr. Kerner for giving your tongue a break and putting this all down on paper!!! You are the wise monk to my sexual grasshopper!!!

I saw the author speak last night at a café in the East Village and he totally rocked! He did live sex therapy advice. It was great, because he's young and cute, not like that grandmother on the Oxygen channel. People in the audience wrote their sex questions down on index cards and then he read the questions out loud to the crowd and answered them. There were so many different questions about sex and relationships and he answered each one with expert experience and he was also very witty too and clear. As a woman who has only been able to experience orgasms through masturbation and also fakes it with her guy, I find the whole philosophy of She Comes First very exciting and liberating. I feel like I can give the book to my boyfriend and maybe he'll get the message without us having to have an uncomfortable conversation - even though Ian really talks about the importance of communication, which is a question that women kept asking about at the workshop: how to get guys to change their sexual approach without upsetting them. I really liked what Ian had to say about getting a guy to use oral sex to get a woman to the point of no return and then transitioning into the woman on top sex position and having multiple orgasms and a simultaneous one together. Reading some of the reviews, it seems like people think he's against sex, but he's really not - he's just trying to make a point about the type of stimulation women like. I'm really looking forward to not having to fake it anymore.

I love my husband of nine years very much but he just didn't quite get it when it came to right down to it. We had tried countless times with constant coaching on my part but every time we were intimate it was frustrating for both of us. It kills the mood when I'm constantly saying what he needs to do next.

I began my search for help thinking I would buy a "how to please your lady" on DVD. My search on Google lead me to "She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman" on Amazon's site. The customer reviews were so positive I decided to buy the book myself. The male customers said they liked the book since it was written by a man. The author wrote the book to help other men become masterful at going down on their sweethearts.

It's a perfect book for any man who wants to please his lady. My beloved husband sat down and read the book as soon as I gave it to him. He appreciated the title and so did I. My husband is a very smart man and I know it hurt him to know he wasn't pleasing me like he should.

I want to give a big thank you to Ian Kerner. You've helped my husband so much. He's very confident now when he goes down on me and confidence is sexy. Our love making is now a long, flowing, beautiful experience punctuated only by moans and cries of pleasure.

God Bless you Ian Kerner

Believe it or not, my boyfriend bought this book for me, not the other way around! Because I've always had hangups about my body and even though he's been enthusiastic about wanting to satisfy me with his mouth, I just don't want him to because it makes me feel too vulnerable and I worry about being overweight. I like sex under the blankets with the lights off, and I know a lot of other women feel this way too. And when it comes to oral sex, it's easier for a woman to give than receive I think because of all the hang-ups and the feeling that it takes too long and the guy is getting impatient or doesn't like it. So my boyfriend bought me this book to show me how enthusiastic he is and to show me what he wants to do and after I read a few pages, I couldn't wait it set my mind on fire! It was amazing, and now I want it all the time from him and I keep telling him about different techniques in the book, try this one and that one! It's a whole new approach to sex for me, and I never knew that guys could like it so much! So for any woman who is afraid for some reason of having a guy go down on him or just plain nervous about it, this is a great book to get into the male mind-set and also learn things about your own body that you never knew. The only reason I give it four stars is because the author has now turned me into a sex addict and I can't get enough. Also, it's very one-sided towards pleasuring the woman, and doesn't talk about what a woman can do to a guy and sex shouldn't be so one-sided, even though it's a great side to be on!

A few months ago I bought this book for my husband along with the amzazing "How to Be Her Best Lover Ever" by John Alexander.

My boyfriend at the time (now my husband) learned an immense amount from both books which are really a great complement to each other.

She Comes First is mostly a guide to cunnilingus. My husband doesn't have a lot of patience for long books, and Kerner's book is mercifully consise and easy to read.

As a woman, I'm a believer that males are actually the best sources of advice for guys on how to be great in bed (with the top two without a doubt being Kerner and Alexander). The reason, I think, is because they're able to analyze more dispassionately without the problem of their personal biases interfering.

Kerner explains thoroughly what gives a woman pleasure. What's important is to slowly build up a woman's arousal. A man should tease and tease again. Build the woman up to a point where she's BEGGING her man to give her release!

Guys, this book will show you how women are DIFFERENT from you. If you want your woman to have pleasure (which means YOU get pleasure too!), you need to learn how your woman's genitalia operate. Learn everything about your woman's anatomy and where her erogenous zones are; it's the most rewarding education you can have!

Even if you're a sexual virtuoso already, I believe you can still learn from She Comes First. But at the same time, there are detailed guides for even men who are very beginners when it comes to sex.

Get this book. You won't regret it.

Dear reader,

I believe my personal experience speaks for itself...

After reading She Comes First, I met a girl and we started dating. On our third date, she came home with me, and I decided to put the book to the test. Using the very simple techniques I had learned, I went down on her, and she had an explosive orgasm. Then, during sex, she had THREE MORE! At the end of the evening, before we fell asleep in each other's arms, she volunteered that she had never felt anything that incredible IN HER LIFE.

I am not a super-human, nor do I have worlds of experience (I am only 21-years-old). Before I read She Comes First, bringing a woman to orgasm was a lofty goal at best. Now, I find it easier (and more enjoyable) than I ever could have imagined.

This book single-handedly reshaped my sex-life. Read it and I promise you, it will reshape yours too.