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She Looks Just Like You: A Memoir of (Nonbiological Lesbian) Motherhood Paperback – March 15, 2011
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“An introspective work that lays open the inner workings of lesbian parenthood while effectively demystifying parenthood in general.”—Kirkus Reviews
“Mothers as well as fathers will recognize themselves in Miller’s brave, poignant, and funny memoir about parenthood. Both unique and universal, Miller’s honest and hopeful voice shines a bright light on the adventures of creating a family in the twenty-first century.”—Jennifer Finney Boylan, author of She’s Not There and I’m Looking Through You
“Take one big heart, a heap of talent, and a whole lot of courage and you get Amie Miller’s She Looks Just Like You. Miller is a graceful, witty, compassionate guide along the journey that is lesbian parenting."—Harlyn Aizley, editor of Confessions of the Other Mother: Nonbiological Lesbian Moms Tell All
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The author is honest and real about her experience, and that is valuable. If you're looking for a book that will confirm that your struggles aren't unique, then this may be a great book to read. But if you're looking for a book that will comfort you and tell you that being a lesbian, non-biological mom doesn't have to be quite as hard as you've been thinking, then avoid this book. I appreciate the author's honesty, but I wish that she had built in more hope. Simply saying that her daughter is amazing and that she doesn't regret anything didn't quite cut it for me. Maybe I can't understand, as I'm not a mom yet, but as of right now, I wouldn't recommend this book to any prospective parent (lesbian or otherwise).
It seems that Amie would like us to think that lesbian parenthood is somehow unique but their child-rearing experience seems not all that different from those of traditional male/female parents. Still, it's a good read for new parents and grandparents to help them understand that these struggles apply to everyone.
by Susan M. Andrus
for Story Circle Book Reviews
reviewing books by, for, and about women
After reading this book by the author I found her website and blog.
The most powerful message I gained from this experience was the following:
“One morning before school, you wake unusually early. You call me in to cuddle with you. Jane is getting ready for work, in her long blue bathrobe, her wet hair wrapped in a towel. You call her in. “Come snuggle with us,” you say. She lies down on the other side of you. “Where would we be without family?” you say.” ([...])
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Very informative and helpful book for a non-bio mom. Shows the ins and outs of the journey that so many of us go through.Published 7 months ago by Tanya Dodd-Hise
I found this book interesting but tedious. I especially liked the description of a lesbian relationship and the author's social relationships. Read morePublished 10 months ago by marieh
As a lesbian who is in the process of trying to get pregnant I have been devouring pregnancy books. This one has been one of the most enjoyable to read and learn from. Read morePublished 18 months ago by lilylane
I loved this book because I could relate to so much of it. maybe, as other as said, it shouldnt be a book you read to "get inspiration" to plan bringing a child into the world,... Read morePublished on November 9, 2012 by Theresa M. Ewadinger
This is an informative and enjoyable book!! Written from the heart with great details on how things actually go when ttc. Buy it, you'll love it!!Published on April 17, 2012 by Mumzy
I find this author both self-congratulatory and mopey. She pats herself on the back over and over again for being a gay mom. ("I'm just like everyone else, but soooo not. Read morePublished on January 18, 2011 by A. Barclay