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Honest and real, but ultimately depressing
on April 23, 2012
As a prospective non-biological lesbian mom, here is what I got from this book: The process of getting pregnant will be stressful and emotional, bringing up lots of doubts and fears. You will feel disconnected from your partner. You will feel left out as the non-biological parent. Then when your child is born, your relationship, which had previously been your rock, will become fraught and troubled.
The author is honest and real about her experience, and that is valuable. If you're looking for a book that will confirm that your struggles aren't unique, then this may be a great book to read. But if you're looking for a book that will comfort you and tell you that being a lesbian, non-biological mom doesn't have to be quite as hard as you've been thinking, then avoid this book. I appreciate the author's honesty, but I wish that she had built in more hope. Simply saying that her daughter is amazing and that she doesn't regret anything didn't quite cut it for me. Maybe I can't understand, as I'm not a mom yet, but as of right now, I wouldn't recommend this book to any prospective parent (lesbian or otherwise).