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She Still Calls Me Daddy: Building a New Relationship with Your Daughter After You Walk Her Down the Aisle

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If you are a father (actually it doesn't matter whether you are a father or mother), you know how difficult it is to anticipate your daughter growing up and leaving the immediate family unit.

It is even more difficult when the time finally arrives for her to walk down the isle and take the hand of a virtual stranger. You may feel you are losing her forever.

This book gives a father/parent the tools to cope with the inevitable feelings of loss and shows one how to go about the blending of two families--the one she is leaving and the one she is forming.

Families need not feel torn apart by marriages. As a father, with experience along these lines, the author gives positive steps toward acceptance and suggests ways fathers can go through the process of "giving away" one's daughter and growing into solid extended relationships.

We all know that adjustments, for all parties, is tricky business, but when you read this book and take the steps suggested by Robert Wolgemuth, you will have the means and grace by which to travel the prickly path.

You will no doubt find this Christian book comforting and inspirational.

The author has written many other books, including "She Calls Me Daddy."

As the father of an adult married daughter I was eager to read this follow-up by Wolgemuth of his earlier book - She Calls Me Daddy. With my daughter I lead the pre-marital counseling, gave her away, and conducted the ceremony! It's often difficult for Dad's to give their `princess' away to a young man who is practically a stranger! The potential exists for there to be tension, conflict, and misunderstanding. I greatly appreciated Wolgemuth's willingness to tackle these potential relational landmines between dad's and their married daughters and son-in-laws with clarity and humor. Chapter 6 "Discipline: The Hard Work of Letting Go" was especially helpful to me. It caused me to examine whether or not the gifts we give them come with strings attached. Most Dads will see themselves on these pages. You might wipe away a tear or two. You will definitely laugh - especially as the author describes Christmas in his childhood home!

I plan to have all of my "Dad's with daughters" colleagues read this book as their daughters draw ever closer to marriage. I no sooner finished the last page when my wife began to read the book for herself. She suggested that it might be good for our son-in-law to read it too, so that he might gain some insight into the father-daughter relationship.

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This was a delightful book dealing in a very touchy subject, how Daddy deals with his little girl after she is a wife. While she is still his daughter she is also an adult and she will look to her husband for the support she once depended on her father for. Robert Wolgemuth suggests using seven steps of protection, conversation, affection, discipline, laughter, faith, and conduct do deal with this new woman.
Wolgemuth tells that Dad needs to focus on building a new relationship with his daughter, one of support but not meddling. Dad needs to understand his daughter is an adult and she and her husband make the decisions. He is there to be supportive. Dad also needs to become a friend to the new husband, so the young man can feel comfortable trusting in him.
This book was wonderful because it gives simple, logical steps for Dad to follow. Also, I enjoyed reading it as a new bride. He hits on the things daughters want to tell Dad but don't know how. That they still love Dad, but they aren't a little girl anymore and they want his support and his trust in believing they know what to do

If this book applies to you --- as daughter or dad --- click and order it right now. This is not a book that will disappoint you later; you'll treasure this volume and read it often. Go ahead and make the purchase!

We've given away three of these (um, daughters, not books) and also performed all three wedding ceremonies. Like veterans of Disney theme parks, this is a roller-coaster ride we've learned to celebrate and enjoy --- not fear. Yes there are ups and downs to it; that's why seatbelts were invented. Buckle up.

Wolgemuth captures the father's perspective very clearly. Despite differences of temperament and personality, dads are dads. Here the author nails the emotional state of the father at this proud, frightening, life-changing moment. Very well done.

He's also good at helping us with the daughter's perspective. You'll value his wisdom here if you're a dad. If you're a daughter, you'll appreciate him for getting a lot of things out in the open; things you may have wanted to say yourself.

Did we mention? This is not a book that will disappoint you. Daughters, buy one for your dad. Wives, buy one for your husband. This is a book you'll return to at various times during the coaster ride, so keep it nearby.

Five stars for a well-written treasure.

Dr. David Frisbie
The Center for Marriage & Family Studies
Author of "The Soul-Mate Marriage" and 10 other books
Three-Time Rookie Father of the Bride

My husband was given this book as a gift when our daughter got married last year. He found it very enlightening and helpful, so much that he gave his copy to a father whose daughter was soon to be married & we ordered three more copies as he has already given away another. If you have a daughter who is engaged or married, get this book for insights into how your relationship should change and how you can support her marriage.

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So this book may seem like an odd choice for a 25 year old living overseas. However, this was an interesting perspective of life changes coming from the other person's eyes.

As a 25 year old female, there were a few things that I did not like. I felt like, in his attempt to be honest, he came across as a bit whiny. Maybe that's because I am a Myers-Briggs Thinker rather than a feeler, but it did not endear him to me as a human being.

Where he got me was in practicality. As a daughter who recently underwent a separation from family (not marriage, but moving to the other side of the world), it was good to see some of the other side; to know a little bit about what could be going through my father's mind as I left.

A daughter thinks of her father as being that person who can be turned to anytime, the one who kills spiders, who checks under the bed for monsters, or helps her learn how to ride a bicycle the first time. The transition from child to adult is a hard one - and not just for the child. The father must learn how to step back and watch the child he has helped raise for 18 or so years take those steps of utter independence and not rush in to fix any problems.

However, coming into adulthood means that everything changes - especially once the daughter is married. Daddy takes a different role - and how can both come into that with ease, helping the other make the transition?

Wolgemuth attempts to guide readers through some of the murky waters with his own experiences, as he watched his daughters grow and wed.

Overall, the book was good. It was a simple read, with an easy writing style. However, this book is not destined to become a classic on every family's bookshelf to turn to again and again.

Good book to make dads aware of his new relationship with his newly married daughter and son-in-law. Very enjoyable writing style with down home stories and real emotions. Humanizes and normalizes the emotions dads feel when their "little girl" becomes someone's wife. Also provides insights on how to develop relationship with dad's new son-in-law. Rare book to cover this kind of topic. My daughter just got married and someone suggested this book and it helped me to deal and understand the emotions I was experiencing. Appreciate author sharing his experience and helping other dads to process their emotions.

What I Liked: I'm a mom of a 3yo, so I was amazed at how much I personally enjoyed this book. Full of practical advice, it made me not only think about my dad's role in my life and my husband's role in our daughter's life, but also about my own role in life.

Take the New Normals for Everyone chapter. I definitely came with a different set of normals than my husband. Do I need to relook at that and adjust some of them? Normal isn't necessarily right, you know.

And the subject of remodeling our identity. Well, I'm still trying to remodel my identity as a mom - knowing that it'll change again and keep changing as my girl grows up. It was interesting to see the divorce statistics for people whose children are grown. Lots of good advice in that chapter.

I appreciated the advice for parents to encourage their children to keep their problems to themselves. I have seen so many family issues result from people complaining about their spouses to their families. The marriage recovers, but the family relationships may never recover.

Definitely a recommended read for dads at all stages...

What I Didn't Like: Nothing. It's well-written, organized, full of examples, and lots of good advice. I have no reservations in recommending this to fathers of brides.

One thing that is not in the book, though, is what to do when the marriage fails. The dad's responsibility is to uphold and safeguard his daughter's marriage, but she DOES make her own choices. What if she makes a bad choice? Perhaps the topic of another book...

As a woman who married over a dozen years ago, I wondered if this would be a helpful book for me. It is book dealing in a very touchy subject, how Daddy deals with his little girl after she is a wife. I was an independent woman before I getting married, but one with a strong connection to my family that still exists today. Robert Wolgemuth suggests using seven steps of protection, conversation, affection, discipline, laughter, faith, and conduct do deal with this new woman.

Wolgemuth tells that Dad needs to focus on building a new relationship with his daughter. There needs to be a relationship of support for her marriage and her new family. Dad needs to understand that the little girl is now a grown woman who is an adult. Together with her husband, she will make the decisions that will affect her. Dad can be there to be supportive, but not expect to be the primary male in her life.

This book gives simple, logical steps for Dad to follow. I was a bit concerned about the book, but found he did have some common sense ideas for all families on how to function when someone joins the family.

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She Still Calls Me Daddy by Robert Wolgemuth

Robert writes about being a father and a parent to your child, specifically your daughter after she is a married woman. He goes through the different aspects of that relationship, from giving advice to her to how as her parent's, the father and mother should be setting a godly example for her and her husband.
I LOVE THIS BOOK!!! I know this was written from a father's perspective to his daughter(s). I know this was written for fathers to read. But as a daughter who is married and has children of my own, it was a very informative and enlightening and inspirational book. Robert Wolgemuth brought in a very strong Biblical basis, while incorporating his own life experiences. I would definitely recommend this book to all parents out there with older children, little children, grandchildren. I would love to read his first book, "She Calls Me Daddy."