Sheep in Wolves' Clothing: How Unseen Need Destroys Friendship and Community and What to Do about It [Paperback]

Valerie J. McIntyre (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 080105883X | ISBN-13: 978-0801058837 | Publication Date: May 1, 1999 | Edition: 2

Many disputes that divide churches are related to the unrecognized dynamics of transference, the confusing effect of a person transferring unresolved memories and feelings from the past to someone in the present.

Sheep in Wolves' Clothing contains helpful anecdotes that illustrate the clearly defined terms and concepts. Checklists help readers identify if they are transferring or are being transferred upon, and shows them what they can do.

Editorial Reviews

Review

This keenly insightful book pulls back the disguises and self-deceptions that keep transference invisible to others and to ourselves. In so doing, it helps us heal our most precious relationships, and points us toward God, the true object of our deepest longings. -- Jeffrey Satinover, MD, psychiatrist and author

About the Author

Valerie J. McIntyre is an associate of Leanne Payne and a member of her Pastoral Care Ministries' team. She is actively involved in the ministry of her local church and serves as the administrator of the Pastoral Care Ministry schools held in the United States and abroad.

Product Details

• Paperback: 158 pages
• Publisher: Baker Books; 2 edition (May 1, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 080105883X
• ISBN-13: 978-0801058837
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.9 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.1 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #839,056 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Protective Armor for the Flock, July 23, 2000

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This review is from: Sheep in Wolves' Clothing: How Unseen Need Destroys Friendship and Community and What to Do about It (Paperback)

McIntyre's book is an absolute MUST read for the lay or professional pastoral worker/counselor. Her insights regarding the dynamic of transference are penetrating and relevant to a proper understanding of the subject. Whether you are being transferred onto, or have engaged in this behavior yourself, McIntyre's book illimunates the subject in such a way as to enlighten the reader to the harmful effects of pressing transferences, the appropriate measures and precautions to take when we're the object of transference, as well as what to do if we're the one in transference. A much needed and useful tool in spiritual and emotional warfare.

10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful for a broad audience, November 12, 2002

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This review is from: Sheep in Wolves' Clothing: How Unseen Need Destroys Friendship and Community and What to Do about It (Paperback)

McIntyre's book is an incredible testimony of personal experience in emotional enmeshment and the underlying spiritual and psychological issues that accompany it. It is also an incredible explication of how this common emotional condition is connected to christian concepts of idolatry. For those who have been caught up in the emotional turmoil and conflict that is common in these kinds of experiences, especially when they come out in a church, counseling or ministry context as well as interpersonal relationships, this book can bring insight and clarity to the spiritual and emotional underpinnings of this common condition. Contrary to some interpretations, this book does not label "transference" as "sin", but rather points out from a testimonial and pastoral perspective how the dynamics of transference play an integral part in emotional enmeshment, emotional dependence and emotional idolatry in present relationships. It also covers well how to deal with it outside the therapy office in the contexts in which it can occurr. It is not a substitute for more in-depth psychological understanding of the concepts presented, or for therapy where it is needed. It is a great book for gaining insight and initial understanding on a pastoral level about issues that are tumultuous and confusing in nature.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Protective Armor for the Flock, July 23, 2000

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This review is from: Sheep in Wolves' Clothing: How Unseen Need Destroys Friendship and Community and What to Do about It (Paperback)

McIntyre's book is an absolute MUST read for the lay or professional pastoral worker/counselor. Her insights regarding the dynamic of transference are penetrating and relevant to a proper understanding of the subject. Whether you are being transferred onto, or have engaged in this behavior yourself, McIntyre's book illimunates the subject in such a way as to enlighten the reader to the harmful effects of pressing transferences, the appropriate measures and precautions to take when we're the object of transference, as well as what to do if we're the one in transference. A much needed and useful tool in spiritual and emotional warfare.