Shift: What it Takes to Finally Reach Families Today [Paperback]

Brian Haynes (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: August 5, 2009

Whether you have a full-blown family ministry in place or you're just getting started, Shift gives you a practical, workable plan that equips parents to be faith influencers in their homes--and you won't have to reconfigure your entire ministry to make it happen! Shift gets you in gear with tools that make better use of seven rites of passage your church is most likely already celebrating...already marking as families move through their faith journey together.

The birth of a baby, faith commitment, preparing for adolescence, commitment to purity, passage to adulthood,
high school graduation, and life in Christ.

As you tap into the natural patterns of child development and family, you'll motivate parents when they're most open to shaping their children's faith. Shift puts family discipleship at church and at home on one simple, common path. One home at a time, you can move a fledgling family ministry effort to one that's firing on all 6 cylinders! This is a family ministry approach that's attainable and sustainable.

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About the Author

Brian Haynes is the associate pastor overseeing spiritual formation at Kingsland Baptist Church in Katy, Texas. He is the creator of the Legacy Milestones strategy that inseparably links church and home to equip the generations. Brian earned a Doctor of Ministry for his work in discipleship and family ministry. Learn more about Brian and the Legacy Milestones at legacymilestones.com.

Product Details

• Paperback: 139 pages
• Publisher: GROUP PUBLISHING INC. (August 5, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0764438980
• ISBN-13: 978-0764438981
• Product Dimensions: 6.5 x 0.4 x 9.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #131,347 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Brian Haynes (1973- )

Dr. Brian Haynes serves as Lead Pastor at Bay Area First Baptist Church in League City, Texas. Brian is the creator of the Legacy Milestones strategy designed to inseparably link church and home to equip the generations. Brian is married to his high school sweetheart Angela and they have three daughters, Hailey, Madelyn, and Eden. Brian is a graduate of Baylor University, Southwestern Seminary, and Liberty Theological Seminary where he earned a Doctor of Ministry for his work in discipleship and family ministry. To learn more about Brian visit http://legacymilestones.com or http://legacyblog.org

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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful

3.0 out of 5 stars Shift: Is the Picture Complete? October 1, 2009

By Elizabeth Perraud

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Brian Haynes' new book "Shift: What it takes to finally reach families today" was a book I really wanted to love. After reading it, I found that I loved the premise and the purpose but not so much the practice.

Haynes believes that God's plan for spiritual formation of generations is found in "the shema" (Deuteronomy 6:4-9):

"Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates."

I agree! And there's a chorus of voices agreeing as well...George Barna ("Transforming Children Into Spiritual Champions"), Ivy Beckwith ("Postmodern Children's Ministry"), Walt Mueller (Center for Parent/Youth Understanding), Mark DeVries ("Family-Based Youth Ministry"), Ben Freudenburg ("The Family Friendly Church"), Mark Holman (Faith@Home Movement), Kara Powell (Fuller Youth Institute), and Gene Roehlkepartain (Search Institute) to name just some. The voices seem to be getting louder and louder saying not just that parents need to teach their children how to love God but that the church must be charged with equipping parents to do so. Haynes puts it this way, "To equip the generations effectively, we [the church] must reach and equip parents." So simple...yet so hard!

The practice that he lays out in "Shift" involves equipping families through seven age-appropriate milestones "that every person growing in his or her relationship with Christ experiences and celebrates." The child or youth (or adult) must learn key truths to progress from one milestone to the next. The church teaches each milestone to the parents and the parents reinforce them through "faith talks" at home and resources that the church provides. There are church events that teach and celebrate each of the milestones and that connect parents with one another.

I see one gaping hole in the plan...the connection to community for the kids. As it should, "Shift" describes a structure of stability for the family and sets up an environment for the parents to learn and grow together. But without a strong system of relationships for the young people--in addition to those with their family--there is a lack of connectedness to the wider body of Christ. Children and youth in the church need plenty of opportunities to build and deepen relationships with one another and with mature Christian adults...in addition to their parents. Intergenerational relationships within the church community are critical for building disciples of Christ.

Kara Powell, executive director of the Fuller Youth Institute and a former youth pastor says in an interview in Christianity Today's Leadership Journal that the standard ratio in youth ministry is one adult for every five kids. "My colleague here at Fuller, Chap Clark, says we need to reverse the ratio and strive for having five adults build into one kid...I'm talking about five adults who care enough about a kid that they learn her name, ask her on Sunday how they can be praying for her and then the following Sunday ask her, `How did it go with that science test?' Our study shows that even these baby step connections can make a real difference."

I agree with Haynes that each milestone is critical, each should be taught, each should be celebrated and that the parents should be at the helm. But despite the church-based events proscribed for each milestone, we create individual "silos" around each family when we don't intentionally bring families together to live out experiences of community. He lays out a great plan where the church and family are supported in traveling one common path (and rightly so) but not connecting with one another. Maybe I missed that or it was implied? Where are the children while the parents are in each preparation seminar?

And okay...there's something else that concerns me. As I read about each family's faith talks and the celebrations (simple or grandiose) around the passing of every milestone, I imagine the "perfect" or "good" church families participating. I'm sure there might be stories to prove me wrong but I struggle to see the plan drawing in the adults and/or the children who are troubled or confused about their faith or life in general. I'm all for setting the bar high and creating high expectations to grow the faith but again think the relational context needs to be there in order to help many of our families step into the process. Does this work on those "marginal" families or those "marginal" children within our church families? Does it draw in those from the community--a non-churched population that is growing larger and larger?

Brian Haynes is wise in counseling his reader (the church leader) to rethink how to engage families and change the culture within each church's own context and culture. And I love the question that he encourages each church leader to ask, "How would our ministry paradigm need to shift to integrate church and family for the spiritual formation of the next generation?" It's a critical question that too many avoid. Kudos to him for bringing it to our attention. But let's complete the picture with intergenerational connectedness within the body of Christ.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful

5.0 out of 5 stars Great Ideas to Implement in My Own Church! October 16, 2009

By L. Surran

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I recently was privileged to hear Brian Haynes speak at the D6 Conference in Frisco, Texas, and his brief discussion really convinced me to buy his book and discover what worked for him and his church. I shared this with my senior pastor, and we're totally on board with implementing this strategy with our own church. We have been doing a number of the "milestones" already, but we never were very intentional about addressing them in partnership with the parents. SHIFT gave us a great framework to plug our existing programs into, and it has given us ideas on how to deepen what we're already doing as well as add what we haven't been doing. I appreciated his emphasis that the strategy he outlined is what has been tweaked and put together for HIS church. Each of us, in our own respective churches, needs to determine what God is calling us to and how He is calling us to implement it. I'm in Northern Maine, so how we "do" church and the members of our congregation will be unique to those in Texas.

All in all, a very good catalyst to get us well on our way to partnering with parents!

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful

4.0 out of 5 stars Disarmed October 5, 2009

By Timothy Inman

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Since I like reading and love learning, why don't I enjoy reading more ministry manuals? Whenever I open one I tend go into full-throttle-analytic-assault mode and start challenging the author's claims. When someone suggests that their strategy or method is the key to success, I'm dubious. I have a strongly held core-belief that ministry is about building loving relationships. I worry that the method and strategy books oversimplify things and risk advocating ministry that is less than authentic and less than loving.

Recently, I was invited to read and review "Shift", by Brian Haynes. I didn't know how I'd like it, but I was at least a little bit excited to hear the experiences of a fellow children's minister.

In his new book, Brian Haynes encourages ministry leaders to 'shift' their current strategy to 'family ministry'. Too many parents look to the church (instead of to themselves) to spiritually nurture their children, and too many ministers pour so much energy into church programs that they neglect the spiritual formation of their own kids (a contention which he backs up with personal experience).

The antidote, according to Brian, is having the courage to adjust our lives according to the Old Testament blueprint for Spiritual development. Specifically: encouraging and empowering parents to be primary spiritual influencers in their children's lives. His plan incorporates planned 'faith talks', and impromptu 'God sightings'. He also uses core-competencies to keep track of progress and seven milestones 'that every person growing in his or her relationship with Christ experiences and celebrates.' Each milestone has church and family components, and the church provides a lot of support to parents in the way of events, seminars, and conferences.

Me: "OK you're starting to win me over with your emphasis on family relationships, but isn't this just another strategy? What if your milestones and celebrations aren't as meaningful in my context?"

Brian: (p. 42) "Cookie cutters are for cookies. What I am about to show you is a strategy designed specifically for Kingsland Baptist Church in suburban Houston, Texas. The principles behind this strategy are universal... You're the expert regarding your church and your ministry."

Me: "I get it. I should get ideas from your plan and let this overarching philosophy guide me as I develop a plan for the people in my life."

I admit it, this book disarmed the critical-thinking ninja in me just long enough to get through to my heart. Hey, I think I just enjoyed reading a ministry book!