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Should I Get Married?

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When I was having difficulty deciding if my now-husband was the "right" person for me, I searched for answers from family, friends, and prayer. I believe that prayer and my persistence led me to M. Blaine Smith's books. Even though his "Yes Anxiety" title covers making wise decisions in several different areas, his insight into relationships is remarkable. I read "Should I get married?" after it. During courtship and engagement, I held onto these two titles and referred to them constantly. I learned so much about myself and what love and long-lasting marriage should be! I had been ambivalent and at times unsure as to what I should do about the prospect of marriage, even after I became engaged, and I spent many hours pouring over these two books. The most important thing that I learned is that NO ONE can be absolutely sure about any decision they make - with the help of family, friends, and reliance on God and belief that He wants the very best for you, you can make a decision and stick to it. I was able to make one of the most important decisions in my life because of the important lessons I learned from Smith's knowledge. As some people have mentioned in their reviews, yes, these books are written from a CHRISTIAN perspective, and the author is clear about that. If you are not a Christian, you may not find much here unless you open your mind to the many truths stated. For Christian singles - please read the two books that I've mentioned in this review. I truly believe that they will be of as much benefit to you as they have been to me. Thank you, Mr. Smith, for helping a very confused young lady make a change in her life - marriage to a man who is not only her husband, but her very, very best friend!

I've just finished reading the book "Should I Get Married" by M. Blaine Smith. It's by far the best book I've ever read on the subject of serious dating relationships. With an approach appealing to both character and commonsense, Smith walks you through question after question, fear after fear, and helps put things in their proper perspective.

Contemplating marriage but unable to make a final decision? Sick of the on-again, off-again syndrome? Wondering why you just can't seem to make relationships stick? Think you'll never ever find Miss or Mr. Right? Or want to help someone suffering in any of these situations? Then don't delay; grab a copy of this powerful book today!

I was considering marriage to my girlfriend, but was still unsure about the prospect of getting married. I read other books about picking the right partner, etc... but Blaine Smith's book was exactly what I was looking for. It helped me understand the myths in society about who's the right person. The book helped me to understand what is really important in picking a marriage partner. As I continued to read his book, I realized what I thought was important for a relationship was really not that important and that I was missing the important compatility issues. It helped me to clear my thinking in deciding what factors represent a healthy relationship. For example, having the romance in a relationship "That Spark" is nice, but it isn't the most important thing in sustaining a long-term relationship like marriage. I struggled with my moderate romantic feelings with my girlfriend, but came to understand that this is okay since I had deep feelings of compassion for her which is a far greater value in a relationship than sexual arousal. The book covers key compatibility factors to help you decide if the relationship you are in is prepared for marriage. Plus, it also talks about what to look for if you are single and what you can do to find that potential mate. I highly suggest this book to anyone.

If you trust your life is in the hand of God, you must read this book. If you do not trust there is a God, you will not like this book. I like this book because I clearly know that there is a God and He has a perfect plan for my life. I think this is a must read for all single Christians.

Written from a Christian perspective, this little gem is chock-full of great tips for making the BIG decisions about whether to get married and if so, how to know to whom we should get married and when. Blaine Smith gives good illustrations from his own life and ministry, to show faith steps you can take in the process of this decision. He sets specific criteria to be considered, shows ways God guides your choices, and how to tell if you're at the place in the relationship where you can make an informed decision. The steps he sets out in this book are so helpful when considering one of the most important decisions we make in this life.

The best advice I found was to "get council" from 3 respected sources and to "take a personal retreat". (There are even instructions about how to pray during this time away.) Smith gives wise council about keeping your relationship with Jesus strong while earnestly praying that He'd show you who is the spouse He desires for you.

I found this book very encouraging as I processed this information in light of the relationships I know about! The Lord put Should I get Married? in my hands for such a time as this.

Should I Get Married is an awesome Christian resource on the topic of getting married, and how to choose that someone that is right for you. M. Blaine Smith uses great down to earth examples from his personal experience as a Christian counselor, and his insight will help guide you through the web of intellectual bombardment that can sometimes burden one like me who is looking to get married. I'm getting another for a friend!

I have read this book and it has helped me a lot to untangle the confusion in my head about love, marriage and commitment. I would recommend it highly to anyone who is dating whether seriously or not.

I've read several books on relationships and this is the best. Incisive, practical and pertinent. Makes me wish I could ask B.Smith a question or two about my own situation... he's insightful. I bought 2 extra copies after reading it to give to friends who are considering marriage. Highly recommend.

Although I was very near making a decision to say, "Yes!", I'm glad I was able to read this book first. It confirmed my feelings of going forward with marrying this man. It addressed those issues I was struggling with and helped me realize I was not unique or extreme in my fears. What a relief!

I offered this book to him to read, too, and he had a similar reaction. What is very interesting and a testament to Blaine Smith's ability to clearly address the topic is that while my fiance and I are seniors and have been both widowed, the advice and information was as relevant to us as to the "first-timers".

Gentle though it's approach, this book can bring a dose of realism to your choice to marry.

I saw this book mentioned by another reviewer of a different book. I'm glad I bought! Biblical and basic common sense on the issues of finding a compatible spouse, some of the pitfalls and erroneous thinking in choosing a spouse, and whether you should indeed get married. I highly recommend this book to anyone confused about God's will for your life regarding marriage.