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Should: How Habits of Language Shape Our Lives

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I was astonsished to realize how powerfully the things I say every day are creating undesirable outcomes in my life. It's amazing that something so simple, unconscious, and commonplace can be so powerful.

What I like best about this book is that the reader takes away a practice he or she can do for life. I love the idea of living the rest of my life completely free from the effects of should, have to, must, need, try, can't, and the rest.

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Although this book is brief, it is thorough, with expalnations and exercises and examples throughout. Basically, the book is about changing our language so that what we create with our words is very intentional---specifically, eliminating words and phrases like "should, have to, ought, try, need, have no choice, can't" and replacing them with "want to " or "desire". The author illustrates precisely how our negative and inaccurate words create a language of oppression (lack, limiation, impotence, obligation, inauthenticity) from some "unseen Other" instead of simply (or sometimes not so simply) taking responsiblity for our own words. The concept is explored in depth. Of course, we must change our thinking about these words/concepts first, and this is also addresssed in an equally straight-forward, practical manner.

If you are someone who cares about what you create with your words, you'll love this book. If, on the other hand, you don't care about what you create with your language, I doubt you'll find much of interest here; save your money and pursue other activities that interest you. If you never thought much about if or how you create with your words, you'll still get much from it.

Fantastic amount of information with extremely useful exercises covered in a succinct, interesting manner. I highly recommend it, especially to writers, psychologists, coaches, anyone who speaks publicly, or anyone who wants to be clear and intentional with their speech. Can be life-changing for those of us (like me) whose language choices are used daily in effecting personal transformation.
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Rebecca has identified the vital importance of shoulds, have tos, and must haves as an internal oppressor we can learn to root out to find our way to true desire. A really powerful, clear guide.

This book will teach you to speak to yourself and others in a positive manner. Learn now to choose your words to uplift YOUR spirit as well as the people around you.