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Should I Stay or Should I Go?: A Guide to Knowing if Your Relationship Can--and Should--be Saved Paperback – November 1, 2011
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About the Author
JAC Patrissi is the founder and former director of the Vermont Victim Assistance Academy. She facilitates the Growing a New Heart Retreat series for women healing from destructive relationships.
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Top Customer Reviews
After 27 years of searching for a solution to my marriage problems, I finally found the help I needed to make sense of my own behavior and to give up trying to get him to be different. The insights I gained are tremendous. The book helped me see that his suggestion that I "approach him properly" was a hook that led to the bottom of the pond. When defending myself strongly against his unreasonable jealousy, his unfair demands, domestic underfunctioning, distortions and lies did NOT make me guilty of abusing him, as he so vehemently claimed. How his running me in verbal circles and blaming me for running him in circles was just a tactic to exhaust me. I needed and appreciated much needed empathy for how and why I didnt just simply "jump out" and leave.
It helped me understand why I was able to tolerate a final year of angry explosions, open raging, infidelity and systematic social humiliation. It helped me understand and cope with my failure to get support from friends and family. It encouraged me to try with family and friends in a different way. When I finally had an emotional break, I took myself to a local office of HAWC, completely beside myself. Me? Asking for help and support from woman's help center? I make donations to that charity.
They lent me Lundy Bancroft's book Why Does He Do That? That led me to this book.Read more ›
If you are a woman who knows your destructive relationship is over, but you feel unable to determine if you should leave or not, this book will help. Most likely, you don't need help realizing the relationship is destructive and you don't really need help knowing how to leave. (If you want to explore all the ways that your partner is destructive, then this book will help you sort out your partner's types of destructive behavior.Read more ›
Most Recent Customer Reviews
Re a lly helpful and makes it so clear you have problems in your relationship this is the book to read .you have your answer when you done reading.Published 7 days ago by regina johnson
Discriminatory and ignorant book and advice from a questionably qualified sourcePublished 12 days ago by Arvin
The weird new age garbage in the middle made me so disgusted that I never picked it up again. Can't believe Lundy put his name on this. Would like my money back.Published 23 days ago by Amazon Customer
Another excellent one from Lundy Bancroft. I liked his "Why Does He Do That?" book better, but probably only because I found it extremely informative concerning... Read morePublished 1 month ago by L. L. Adams
More drivel from Kindle, who are encouraging to write books and get rich.Published 1 month ago by Iris
Couldn't get past the first couple of chapters. But maybe it just wasn't relatable to my relationship.Published 1 month ago by AmazonJunkie
$13.99 for Kindle edition! Your concern for women is underwhelming. My friend is in distress and all of the digital editions of this book and others, supposedly helping abused... Read morePublished 2 months ago by M. P.
Much like all the other books Lundy has written/ co-authored, this one brought me tremendous insight and validated ever single thing I was thinking/ feeling. Read morePublished 3 months ago by yourfellowpinterestaddict