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Product Details

  • Hardcover: 368 pages
  • Publisher: HarperBusiness (September 18, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0062122126
  • ISBN-13: 978-0062122124
  • Product Dimensions: 6 x 1.2 x 9 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (53 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #564,002 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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“White offers straight-shooting career advice to women at all stages of their professional lives…her advice is useful and delightfully no-nonsense. A smart, savvy guide for working women looking to climb the professional ladder and maintain positions of power.” (Kirkus Reviews)

“This is NOT your mother’s plodding, nose-to-the-grindstone, put-on-a-power-suit career guide. Kate White gives us her witty and wise secret sauce to fast-tracking your career, thinking big, having fun, getting the money you deserve--all while pursuing your passion.” (Claire Shipman, ABC News Correspondent and co-author of Womenomics)

“Kate’s fierce courage and determination make this book a witty, fun, and refreshingly blunt read for career women-teachers and CEOs alike!” (Mika Brzezinski, MSNBC's Morning Joe co-host and author of Knowing Your Value)

“I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This packs a powerful punch: Ms. White covers every possible topic the up-and-coming female executive will need to tuck into her Prada portfolio. This book should be on every career-minded woman’s bookshelf dog-eared and well read.” (New York Journal of Books)

I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This is packed with practical lessons she’s learned over a long tenure as a leader.” (Fast Company)

“It will come as no surprise that White, the editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan magazine, would write a career guide that’s lively, funny, and rife with quick-read tips. White’s enthusiasm and verve combine with tales of challenges and successes from a fascinating career....An energetic, inspiring career memoir.” (Publishers Weekly)

“White’s advice is smart and pithy-and maybe I shouldn’t be telling you this, but guys can get plenty from this book, too.” (Reader's Digest)

From the Back Cover

Kate White—New York Times bestselling author, editor in chief of Cosmopolitan for fourteen years, and motivational speaker—shares her gutsy secrets to success in this witty, straight-talking new career guide for women.

Whether you've just settled into your first work cubicle and have no clue how to go after the success you crave, or you've already got a sweet little office but you aren't sure how to take your career to the next level, I Shouldn't Be Telling You This gives you all the secrets you need to become a success, go big with it, and then savor every second. It is jam-packed with insider strategies, interviews with women at the top of their game, and Kate's advice from her own career running five major magazines (including one of the bestselling women's magazines in the world, Cosmopolitan). She hows you how to break out of the pack, master the learning curve, make bold moves, and, ultimately, have the career you've always lusted for!

Kate shares five secrets every woman needs to know—how to:

• Land a Job You're Truly Passionate About
• Use "Bitch Envy" to Your Advantage
• Radiate Confidence and Get Buzzed About (Without Worrying What Other People Think)
• Ask for the Money You Want—and Get It
• Manage Your Career and Not Just Your Job (It's a Whole Different Ball Game!)

But more than anything, Kate says, you have to go big or go home—do what's unexpected and always keep your career trajectory in mind. It might be tackling a project that no one else is taking on and nailing it—then making sure your boss knows it. Or it might be developing a "golden gut" that will help you to break the rules the right way, so you always end up shining. In I Shouldn't Be Telling You This, Kate White shares the kinds of secrets no boss is ever likely to spill—all with her irreverent wit and candid style. You'll come away with the know-how you need—and you'll feel as though you've just gotten up from a fabulously dishy lunch!

Customer Reviews

The book is also a very smooth and easy read.
A wonderful book for all women either just starting out or wanting to change careers.
Hanna DeBruhl
This is a great book that I wish I had read years ago.
Hannah M. Farley

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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful By valarie on October 11, 2013
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I am excited to review this book because of the direct impact it had on my situation.
I am a working mom which is challenging in it's own right but to make it even more so, I decided to go into the construction industry. I had the attitude Kate talks about in her book that "they" will see how hard I work and reward me, or I didnt want "them" to think I was greedy or not like me so I didnt ASK for a lot. I have been working in this field for the past 20 years with that attitude. I had read all of the staple books, "How to Win Friends and Influence People", Nice Girls Dont Get the Corner Office", "Lean In", Dale Carnegie and Stephen Covey books, and many many more. Some of the things I read made sense and some I even applied. After reading Kate's book I immediately went out and bought 3 more copies, one for each niece and one for my daughter in law. While I really hate to sound like a stalker fan, I have to admit that I have been listening to Kate's book on audio every morning, on my commute, for the past month. It is giving me insight on a daily basis and I am making some rewarding changes to my thinking! Love, love, love it! In fact I recently told my mom that no other book as had this big of an impact on me since the Bible (dramatic I know).
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20 of 24 people found the following review helpful By Jenny Foss on September 24, 2012
Format: Hardcover
As a career coach and job search strategist, I admittedly scrutinize career-oriented books with a critical eye. There's just so much fluff and rehashed info in the world of career-oriented non-fiction.

But I was actually quite delighted by what I found within the pages of Kate White's new book! It's not only be an easy, engaging (and fun) read, more importantly, the book is filled with relevant, useful strategies and original information that will ACTUALLY help professional women who aspire to make big, impressive career leaps.

It was funny because, as I'm reading along ... nodding, nodding, agreeing, agreeing .... It occurred to me:

GOSH, I could have used this book 10 years ago! :) Any which way, it's a great read for anyone working to move up in business, but spot-on for women in their late '20s and early '30s who are ready to blossom in big ways.
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Cathy Reisenwitz on December 19, 2012
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It's a little focused on the magazine world, but I still found it pretty applicable. I'd recommend it mostly for interns and people just graduating college.
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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Kate E. Stephenson on May 1, 2013
Format: Hardcover
Kate White proves that her 14-year reign as editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan magazine was earned through her practical approach to business and life--and not just her beautiful blond looks. White crafts this book cunningly, packing the foundations of a successful career succinctly into 368 pages. A queen of sound bites, you can open randomly to any page and find such sage advice as:

"Just shut up" in reference to how to recognize your gut feelings but great advice generally
"Find your idea zone" in terms of making a creativity-generating space for yourself, and
"See the sexy side of change"... what a twist on that usually dreaded event.

While some of her commentary is undeniably superficial and perhaps on some levels unpractical for some (sorry, Ms. White, I still can't afford a Coach bag--little thing called student loans take priority), even those moments when White slips into couture speak, she opens the window wide into the world that many young professionals aspire to, allowing us to poke our heads in and maybe even snatch out a few things per her advice: "Remember: just because no one has invited you to take something, doesn't mean you can't." And there's plenty here to take.

At the heart of I Shouldn't Be Telling You This is one idea: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Here we find out what it means to Kate White. The common thread through all the chapters returns to a three-pronged idea: Respect others (especially your elders), respect yourself, and respect your goals. With these tenets securely in place, the negativity sometimes associated with ballsy women is negated, and instead of brash and brassy, tenacious and titillating become the words associated with the gutsy girl.

While I don't subscribe to all of Ms.
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24 of 32 people found the following review helpful By Reader1 on November 21, 2012
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This book is great if you want to know how Ms. White achieved success. She is certainly not shy about telling all of us how wonderful she is. I found the writing style too informal- it felt like reading a too-long magazine article... probably a result of her profession. It all sounded so condescending. The reader has to try very hard to glean any useful information between the egotistical rantings, which are only thinly veiled as well-meaning advice.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By A Reader on September 8, 2013
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Kate White is one of my favorite writers, of both fiction and nonfiction. I've read every one of her books. My favorite remains "Why Good Girls Don't Get Ahead... But Gutsy Girls Do," which was written back in the mid 1990s. Even today, nearly 20 years after it was published, I still find myself referring back to this classic career guide for women.

Kate's most recent career advice book, "I Shouldn't Be Telling You This," is sort of a follow-up to her earlier one, but not quite. While her first career book was written mainly for women in the early stages of their careers, "I Shouldn't Be Telling You This" is supposedly geared to women of all ages--from someone just out of school who's just starting her first job, to a mid-career professional who wants to climb the corporate ladder of success or perhaps reinvent herself, to someone who has already achieved a certain measure of success but doesn't want to be a slave to her job. The book is divided into three "Success" sections: How to Get It; How to Go Big With It; and How to Savor It. While there are some good tips in here, I found a lot of them to be rather shallow. The chapters are short and easy to read--but that's part of the problem. Each chapter is too short and nothing is covered in real depth. The strongest section is the first one, focusing on the early years of one's career. The second section is OK. But the final section, dealing with how to successfully juggle your job and your personal life, is the weakest link, in my opinion. The tips at the end are not particularly clever or unique, and the book ends quite abruptly. In fact, I was puzzled when I got to the last page. The book just ends, leaving me to wonder if a concluding chapter or something was edited out.

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More About the Author

Kate White is the New York Times bestselling author of ten works of fiction--six Bailey Weggins mysteries (including So Pretty It Hurts and If Looks Could Kill), and four suspense novels: Eyes on You, The Sixes, Hush, and the upcoming The Wrong Man (June 2015). She is also the editor of The Mystery Writers of America Cookbook, which will be published in March of this year.

You can get monthly updates from Kate by signing up for her newsletter on her website http://katewhite.com/

Kate's writer's eye has been described by the New York Times as "scathingly observant." The Los Angeles Times says of Kate's work: "It's like devouring a box of chocolates!" Publisher's Weekly recent review of her most recent book, Eyes on You, called it "timely and engaging," adding that "it's [White's] devious mind that puts the thrill in this thriller." Her books have been published in 18 countries. Romantic Times said: "The surprise begins almost instantaneously. Not only is the lead character immensely relatable, but the mystery surrounding whoever is trying to sabotage her holds up until the very end and the culprit is a complete surprise."

For 14 years, Kate was the editor in chief of Cosmopolitan magazine, taking it to number one on newsstands and keeping it there. Though she loved the job (and the Cosmo beauty closet!), she decided to leave in late 2013 to work full time as an author, a long-time dream of hers.

Like many mystery writers, Kate fell in love with the genre after reading her first Nancy Drew book, The Secret of Redgate Farm, and she still admires those cliffhanger endings created by "Carolyn Keene."

She is married and the mother of two children. She once had her young daughter stalk her through the woods so she could better describe the sounds of someone being followed.

Kate is also the author of several hugely popular career books, including I Shouldn't Be Telling You This: How to Ask for the Money, Snag the Promotion, and Create the Career You Deserve, and Why Good Girls Don't Get Ahead but Gutsy Girls Do.

Find out more about her suspense novels on katewhite.com and her career books on katewhitespeaks.com, where she offers career advice through KateTV.

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