The Shy Man's Guide to Success With Women [Paperback]

Terry A. Heggy (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 1994

A Handbook for Overcoming Fears and Learning Skills for Success in Dating and Relationships. A step-by-step program that shows exactly how any man can improve his confidence, conversation skills, and dating techniques to find exactly what he is looking for in a relationship. Rather than simply listing a generic set of ideas that might not be effective for everyone, this book shows you how to maximize your own potential. It doesn't tell you to act like (or become) someone else it shows you instead how to be effective at achieving the results YOU want. With this program, you're still the same person you always were; but now you can truly have the satisfaction that you've always wanted. This program is based on proven scientific principles enhanced by the author's own research and experience. Easy to read and understand, The Shy Man's Guide to Success with Women contains instructions for how to find the right woman, how to develop the courage to talk to her, and how to be relaxed and confident in conversations with women you're attracted to. It also includes Terry Heggy's hints on how to craft and deliver a "dynamite date proposal" that she'll easily say "yes" to, as well as a guide for planning dates that accomplish exactly what you want them to. There are even hints on how to turn a friendship into romance, and how to naturally ease into intimacy. There are 30 self-paced exercises that help you put the ideas into action. In addition, there are 9 Appendices that contain ideas on everything from how to assess and improve your own attractiveness to where to meet women and what to do on dates. It's a complete package that'll help you gain control over your love life.

Editorial Reviews

About the Author

TERRY HEGGY knows about shyness. In high school he watched silently as his friends danced with and dated the girls he wished he had the nerve to talk to. Even though he did well in school, he couldnt figure out what it took to be popular with the women. Even his status as a National Merit honor student, a swimming letterman, and a published poet did nothing to bring him closer to the dating success he desired. Even the thought of talking to a desirable woman brought on a cold sweat, butterflies in the stomach, and a depressing foreboding of certain rejection. He felt that shyness was a curse he was burdened to bear forever.

After graduating from the University of Kansas with honors and a degree in Journalism, the still-dateless Heggy was desperate for answers. Knowing that one of his strengths was his ability to find information and absorb it, he began to search for the answers to help him overcome his shyness. As his research began to pay off, this shy boy became more confident. His love life blossomed. He found the answers hed wanted. He used what he learned to create a plan that anyone can follow to fully enjoy the benefits of fulfilling relationships.

As Heggy began to enjoy all the facets of his new non-shy life, he expanded his horizons to gain experience in numerous areas. He has spent time as a Disk Jockey, a minister, a vacuum cleaner salesman, an aerospace engineer, and a computer instructor. He has entertained as a magician, musician, and filmmaker. He continues to swim, and was named Colorado Masters Swim Coach of the Year in 1992. He lives with his wife and 10-year-old son in Lakewood, Colorado.

Product Details

• Paperback: 218 pages
• Publisher: Performance Pr (July 1994)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 096405440X
• ISBN-13: 978-0964054400
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,979,673 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Overly idealistic, November 6, 2000

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This review is from: The Shy Man's Guide to Success With Women (Paperback)

The author certainly has a lot of good ideas which really seem like they should work, but the truth is that most of the results he speaks of come naturally. A lot of the exercises and techniques Heggy maps out to overcome shyness do little more than to cloud your mind and get you thinking too much. In a social situation it's always better to just "relax", rather than overload yourself with 50 different techniques, resulting in choking.

This book makes a lot of generalizations which don't really help in the practical world of meeting women. At one point he states that the majority of women approached and asked out will say yes. Well I know ffrom personal experiance that for a woman to go on a date, she usually has to know the guy at least a little.

This book was m bible all through high school, and I can honestly say it would work on some people. However I think if anything it made me think too much and stress over the unimportant things. Some of us shy guys are doomed to fight our own battles, and it takes more than a book to overcome them.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A Woman's Review of a Man's Book, December 12, 1999

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This review is from: The Shy Man's Guide to Success With Women (Paperback)

After reading this book I now understand why I can't find any good men- they've all been looking in the wrong places. If they read this book they'd have no trouble finding the woman of their dreams.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Get it!! and I guarntee you won't regret it!!!, September 24, 2006

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This review is from: The Shy Man's Guide to Success With Women (Paperback)

I was a very shy child growing up and I'm still shy today, however I can still talk to women and date w/o really feeling all that nervous. When I bought this book I was skeptical, but what did I have to lose? $12.95? I tried it and gave it all I got and withing a short period of time I got results. You need discipline and commitment to this program, in order for you to be successful. Some mixed reviews, you won't know if it'll work or not if you don't at least give it try, I am so glad that I did.