I am an author, journalist, speaker, relationship coach, and mother.
As the 28-year-old newly-single-mom of a seven-month-old baby, the thought of dating again gave me cold feet.
But eventually, I got back out there... and so can you!
The only thing that kept me sane while mothering and dating in unison was writing about it.
Single Mom Seeking is my first book.
My writing has also appeared in Family Circle, Parenting, BabyCenter.com, American Baby, Family Circle, Washington Post.com, and more.
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The racy adventures chronicled in Sarah's new and collected essays (some from her column of the same name on literarymama.com) initially make for breezy reading, a west coast Sex in the City roundup of romantic escapades and frustrated desires for the Pampers (as opposed to the pampered) set. Unfortunately, Sarah's tales lack both insight and momentum. Throughout the five years covered here, Sarah never comes up with a more compelling reason for pursuing the "thorny," "chaotic" life of a single-mom "serial dater" than her up-front admission, "I missed having a man." Two hundred pages in, talking plans with her next disastrous date despite "red flag" warnings, "in big, bold letters, 'I'M UNAVAILABLE,' " Sarah ponders the obvious: "So, why don't I call it off right now?" She doesn't seem to know (lamely offering, "it' s my pattern"), and neither will readers-making it difficult to muster enthusiasm for yet another mismatch. Readers will also wish for more of Sarah's daughter, Mae, often mentioned but rarely seen; calling "Something's coming down the pike!" on her way to the potty, she's a natural-born scene-stealer. Sarah's ability to communicate her longing and lust is the best reason to read this book; unfortunately, it's also the reason why some readers will lose interest long before the "Where are they now?" postscript.
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"Rachel Sarah offers a sexy, edgy, honest expose of single parenthood." -- Susan Shapiro, author of "Secrets of a Fix-Up Fanatic" and "Five Men Who Broke My Heart"
"A great middle-of-the-night phone conversation with a best friend. Rachel Sarah is charming, intelligent, and vulnerable." -- Ellen Sussman, author of "On a Night Like This" --- Ellen Sussman, author of "On a Night Like This."
"Surely the first book about single parenthood that will be described as 'hot.'" -- Marion Winik, author of "Lunchbox Chronicles"
"A great middle-of-the-night phone conversation with a best friend. Rachel Sarah is charming, intelligent, and vulnerable." -- Ellen Sussman, author of "On a Night Like This" --- Ellen Sussman, author of "On a Night Like This."
"Surely the first book about single parenthood that will be described as 'hot.'" -- Marion Winik, author of "Lunchbox Chronicles"
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
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From the title of the book, I knew I would be about a single mother trying to balance dating and being a single mother at the same time but, whoa, Rachel is so candid, I felt like one of my girlfriends told me about their dating experience.
I absolutely LOVED every page of this book! I completed it in about two days. It was such a fantastic read. I am so grateful for Rachel because along the way, I totally saw myself during parts of her journey. I would definitely recommend this book to other single mothers trying to get back into the dating scene because Rachel keeps it so real, you can't help but feel like you're not alone anymore in navigating the dating scence. If you don't have any female friends you can talk to about dating, AND you're a single mother, then this book is excellent for you too.
She's gone through lots of the online dating "pitfalls" and she takes the reader through all of it. Plus, Rachel is from the Bay Area. When she would describe all the places she went on dates like Zachary's Pizza in Berkeley, I knew exactly what she was talking about so that was fun too because I'm from the Bay also.
I can't say enough good things about this book. I enjoyed it thoroughly~
I absolutely LOVED every page of this book! I completed it in about two days. It was such a fantastic read. I am so grateful for Rachel because along the way, I totally saw myself during parts of her journey. I would definitely recommend this book to other single mothers trying to get back into the dating scene because Rachel keeps it so real, you can't help but feel like you're not alone anymore in navigating the dating scence. If you don't have any female friends you can talk to about dating, AND you're a single mother, then this book is excellent for you too.
She's gone through lots of the online dating "pitfalls" and she takes the reader through all of it. Plus, Rachel is from the Bay Area. When she would describe all the places she went on dates like Zachary's Pizza in Berkeley, I knew exactly what she was talking about so that was fun too because I'm from the Bay also.
I can't say enough good things about this book. I enjoyed it thoroughly~
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
By Kara
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Within days of getting and reading this book, I got asked on a date by one dad and had my first smooches with another. Thank you Rachel! I think through reading it, I actually just started remembering and projecting the confident sexy woman I had forgotten. I recommend this read for all single moms needing to remember the woman within and looking for love and/ or a little loving. :)
5 of 7 people found the following review helpful
Format:Paperback
I am a single mom about to re-enter the dating world. I bought this book hoping for some great insight into what I had in store, maybe some practical advice and tips for single parent dating. Instead what I got was a collection of thoughts from an obvious love addict (yes, they do exist) who makes very bad choices in men and seems to always be looking for how to get laid. No disrespect to Rachel Sarah, she seems like a nice person and a great mom, but I found her book useless and very uninspiring. It made single moms look desperate, needy and easy. In fact, I'm surprised there were so many glowing reviews about this book!
Save your money, do not buy this book. Read her blog, rent her book (for free) from the library, maybe borrow a friend's copy if you must have it, but I would not advise buying this book. It will offer you no insight whatsoever that you can use when it comes to dating. The only positive thing I will say about this book is that it did make me laugh. There are some parts where she discusses her daughter where I totally understood where she was coming from. However overall, this fell far short of expectations.
Save your money, do not buy this book. Read her blog, rent her book (for free) from the library, maybe borrow a friend's copy if you must have it, but I would not advise buying this book. It will offer you no insight whatsoever that you can use when it comes to dating. The only positive thing I will say about this book is that it did make me laugh. There are some parts where she discusses her daughter where I totally understood where she was coming from. However overall, this fell far short of expectations.
2 of 3 people found the following review helpful
By J. A. Britt
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I ordered Single Mom Seeking after finding myself on [...] When it arrived in the mail, I had no idea how much I would love Rachel's story and laughed out loud at many of the embarrassing occasions she shared in great detail. Situations she found herself in which I am all too familiar with as a single mom of two. You will feel that Rachel is one of your girlfriends phoning you about her latest exploits, which were hysterical. I happily read along as she takes her little one from east coast to west coast in search of roots, and cheered her on as she began to find herself. I would recommend this book to any single mom but also to mothers in general who will also love her journey and understand and relate to this incredibly brave woman.
2 of 3 people found the following review helpful
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Thank you Rachel for writing this fabulous book...I can totally relate to your story and I loved reading it. It is bringing more courage to the single mom population which is important, there are a lot of women who feel 'guilty' about taking care of themselves...when in reality, taking care of ourselves is the most effective way to make sure our children learn that it is important to take care of themselves too, it really does keep everyone more stable and secure. FABULOUS BOOK BY A FABULOUS WOMAN!!! -Kristin
By MellMom
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Thank you Rachel Sarah for putting into words what so many of us have felt. I have been a single mother since my daughter took her first breath and that was 2 1/2 years ago. While reading this book I found myself nodding my head in agreement and giving those "I've been there" eyebrow raises. It was even comical at one point how similar it was when I read her daughter's father called her his "Shelter from the storm". My daughter's father used to sing and play that Bob Dylan song for me stating the same thing. I guess women who like to save and fix people like to hear that, and those who need fixing know that. This book was a breath of fresh air!
By betsy
Format:Paperback
I don't remember now how I stumbled upon your book, but I am so grateful I did. I think I read it in two days, leaving myself sleep deprived for work, but I just couldn't put it down. Your honesty about wanting someone to love you and your daughter was so raw.
Feeling torn between overflowing gratitude and embarrassment for your father's assistance is another one I struggle with (my daughter and I still live at home with my parents). Sometimes I am ashamed to say out loud that I want someone to share this life with. It is so infinitely lonely to be a single mom sometimes. My daughter's biological father was never in her life and died when she was three months old.
I'm planning on making a huge move next year and I had a lot of fear of making this move but after reading your book, it reinforced in me that I absolutely can do this, if I put my heart to it. That the God of my understanding will put people in my life right when I need them and last week, by way of your book, that was you. I am still wondering if I'll ever be able to go to a yoga class again, or have a moment of peace to myself, but I feel that incredibly normal. I just had to write to you and thank you for your wonderful words.
Feeling torn between overflowing gratitude and embarrassment for your father's assistance is another one I struggle with (my daughter and I still live at home with my parents). Sometimes I am ashamed to say out loud that I want someone to share this life with. It is so infinitely lonely to be a single mom sometimes. My daughter's biological father was never in her life and died when she was three months old.
I'm planning on making a huge move next year and I had a lot of fear of making this move but after reading your book, it reinforced in me that I absolutely can do this, if I put my heart to it. That the God of my understanding will put people in my life right when I need them and last week, by way of your book, that was you. I am still wondering if I'll ever be able to go to a yoga class again, or have a moment of peace to myself, but I feel that incredibly normal. I just had to write to you and thank you for your wonderful words.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
5.0 out of 5 stars
Heleped me see the future
I was in a pretty crappy place, 9 months pregnant and single, thinking I would be alone, just me and my baby FOREVER! I got this book, and LAUGHED my butt off! Read more
Published on October 1, 2010 by CaseyGwynn
5.0 out of 5 stars
Right on Target...worth the buy & worth the read!
This book was right on track with my dating life!! I got this in the mail today and read it cover to cover (it's a Saturday) by 9:30pm lol! She is real, honest, & funny! Read more
Published on November 7, 2009 by Tamara L. Powers
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Truly Worth Reading
I was uncertain this was a book to keep on my bookshelf forever so I requested my local library purchase it. Read more
Published on August 17, 2008 by UrbanYogini
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Thanks!
I bought this (autographed copy!) book off of a girl at work and it came at just the right time. I have a nine month old son, I am breastfeeding, working full time, going to... Read more
Published on July 25, 2008 by Michelle16
5.0 out of 5 stars
It doesn't get any more truthful than this!
Rachel,
I just finished your book and you have hit the nail on the head.
Three years into dating for this 33 year old single, white collar, mother of two. Read more
I just finished your book and you have hit the nail on the head.
Three years into dating for this 33 year old single, white collar, mother of two. Read more
Published on July 23, 2008 by Robin D. Dorner
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Great Read!!
I saw this book at the library and thought I would give it a read. I read it in one night, I couldn't put it down! Read more
Published on December 17, 2007 by fatcatprincess
5.0 out of 5 stars
A must-read for any single mom...
Dating as a single mother is quite possibly one of the most challenging adventures I've ever been on. Read more
Published on October 22, 2007 by A. Shearer
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