Sixtyfive Roses: A Sister's Memoir (Hardcover)

~ Heather Summerhayes Cariou (Author)

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

An honest, chilling tale of a family dealing with chronic illness, this memoir's subject is Cariou's sister, Pam, who at the age of four was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis, a terminal disease of the lungs and pancreas marked by severe coughing and malnutrition; unable to pronounce her condition, young Pam dubs it instead "Sixtyfive Roses." What follows is no heartwarming tearjerker; early on, Cariou cagily warns that "the world of chronic-terminal illness is, in many ways, akin to the world of war." Written to fulfill a deathbed promise Cariou made to write "our" story, and a promise to her mother to tell the truth, the result frequently is not pretty. Initially given no more than six years to live, Pam was among the first wave of Cystics to reach adulthood (she died at 25), but her life is a daily struggle, crammed with treatments, hospitalizations, false starts and faint hope, setbacks and unfulfilled dreams. Cariou keeps readers distanced with an unemotional account that invites more wary ambivalence than sympathy, a risky technique that may put off some readers, but communicates well the complicated feelings that long-term illness can breed in families.
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Review

Read this book: your life will never be the same. -- Storycircle Book Review, December 13, 2007

Globe and Mail Best 100 Books of 2006

"Cariou is a deft emotional cartographer...Sixtyfive Roses is a love letter, a thank-you note, a defence, a plea, a setting straight, a reaching out. " - Paula Todd, Globe and Mail book review -- Globe and Mail, November 18th, 2006

Sixty-Five Roses is truly a heart-wrenching, yet beautiful account of two sister's love for one another as one sister, Pam, battles daily for her life with cystic fibrosis. This memoir cast an even wider net of love encompassing and making transparent the lives of the entire family on this journey about love, understanding, illness, heartaches, and accomplishments. A lifetime story that leaves no emotion in a safe harbor. This memoir is told with complete honesty and with a soft conscience. Get ready to be inspired. -- Web Newsletter of the National Association of Babyboomer Women, 2007

Sixtyfive Roses: A Sister's Memoir by Heather Summerhayes Cariou is one of the most moving memoirs I have ever read. Every page holds your interest and leaves you wanting to never stop reading. This book also reads smoothly like a novel, as you care about the characters and the story is fascinating from beginning to end. Heather write so lovingly of her sister Pam, who suffers from cystic fibrosis--together they and the entire family struggle and learn and fight and love and live and laugh and triumph in so many ways. What a journey. You will be happy to have gone with them. -- Village Book Staff Pick, January 15, 2008 --This text refers to the Paperback edition.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 436 pages
• Publisher: McArthur & Company Publishing, Ltd. (January 25, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1552786110
• ISBN-13: 978-1552786116
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.1 x 1.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.6 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (24 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #112,515 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Great Memoir Very Moving, June 29, 2007

By	Steven R. McEvoy "MCWPP" (Canada) - See all my reviews (TOP 500 REVIEWER)    (REAL NAME)

When reading a biography, the hard part is often if you know the end of the story. This book is a powerful take of life, service, and a family that stood and faced a terrible disease and the medical community, and changed the odds, not only for their family member, but also for all families that deal with Cystic Fibrosis. This is a chronicle of a family's struggle against CF for 22 years. Our narrator, Heather Summerhayes, was 6 when her 4-year-old sister was diagnosed with CF, a disease that, at the time, her sister Pam pronounced as 'Sixtyfive Roses'.

At the time of Pam's diagnoses she was only given months to live. Yet the family believed differently and fought against it. Their mother promised that they would do all they could for sick little Pam and they did. The Summerhayes helped to create the Canadian Cystic Fibrosis Foundation with the assistance of the U.S. association and the Sick Kids hospital in Toronto. They set up a Financial Advisory Board as well as a Medical Advisory Board to help families deal with this disease and to raise funds for research for a cure for this illness.

This is a story of true Canadian strength - a story of hope, love and charity. This book, which spans years in a the Summerhayes' family life, will draw you into their struggle with prevailing opinions, medical advances, and always a struggle to love Pam, and seek what is best for her. Pam became one of a first wave of children diagnosed with this disease who lived into adulthood. Now the family and the medical staff were in new territory and 'all bets were off'.

Heather does an amazing job of recalling her family's life, living and dying with CF. She reflects in a sober way on the hard moments and celebrates the victories. The story is told in a well balanced way, not focusing just on the difficulties of living with a terminal disease. Heather tells the story of her cherished sister's life. A life lived to the full.

This book is a powerful story that will give you courage and faith to face the trials in your own life and the lives of the people who are dear to you. Celine Dion writes a moving forward.

The hard part of reading biographies is that you know where the story is going - yet with this one, the journey to get there is so moving and powerful, it will be great read.

(First Published in Imprint 2007-06-29 as in the book review column.)

5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Took my breath away..., January 7, 2008

By	P. J. Woodhouse (Sparta, MI United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Sixtyfive Roses: A Sister's Memoir (Paperback)

As a parent to a child with Cystic Fibrosis, I'm always hesitant to read something when the title already tells me how it ends... but I heard from a friend with CF that it was amazing, so I dove in right after I got my hands on a copy of the book... and am I glad that I did!

Heather writes with amazing clarity and has a beautiful talent for drawing the reader into the situation in a way that makes you feel as if you are truly there. The honesty of Heather's portrayal of the family's struggles strikes a deep chord for those who have walked in similar shoes, and while the book is about their specific journey with CF, the lessons to be taken from this book would easily apply to other chronically ill families as well.

I'm especially grateful for Heather's intense and gruelingly honest feelings about growing up as Pam's older sister. The way she captures her mother's feelings and weaves them all together is nothing short of magical. The perspective I've gained from reading this book for the first time has left me earnestly more aware of the potential struggles my oldest child might face while she grows up with her little sister with CF.

I would highly recommend this book to anyone dealing with chronic illness ~ families, as well as care providers.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Bonds between sisters can be deeply profound, January 21, 2008

By	Heather Froeschl (Callaway, Virginia) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This review is from: Sixtyfive Roses: A Sister's Memoir (Paperback)

Bonds between sisters can be deeply profound. Life changing, life sustaining relationships with our sisters prove this. Heather Summerhayes Cariou's memoir, "Sixtyfive Roses" demonstrates the bond of sisterhood in a way that readers will never forget. When your sibling, your best friend, is given months to survive, and you vow to die along with her, life becomes a struggle to live.

When Pam was just four years old, and Heather was six, Pam was diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis, which Pam pronounced Sixtyfive Roses. It wasn't a new experience, handling Pam's illness, since she had been ill all along, but it now had a name, and a death sentence. Heather's family began to learn everything about Cystic Fibrosis; became founders of the Canadian Cystic Fibrosis Foundation and fought for Pam's life with every fiber of their being. Heather describes how helpless it felt to lay awake listening to her sister breathing, ready to jump up to get her parents, and how scared she was to wake in the morning to find Pam gone from life. The treatments they were to give Pam at home, the long hospital stays fighting infections, the struggle to pay bills, and the toll on everyone's lives shook the foundation of their family but at the same time made them all the stronger. Heather's internal struggle with her feelings and adolescence brought forth an angry young woman; the constant turmoil affected each family member in different ways. The tradition of having tea became a soothing ointment for many moments. Was it enough to soothe their souls?

This memoir is an astounding testament to the strength of family, but also to the reality of illness and a person's spiritual growth. Witnessing Pam finding her own peace and subsequently Heather's whole family is the gift Pam left for us all, wrapped up and crafted into "Sixtyfive Roses" by Heather Summerhayes Cariou. This book is about depth of love and dedication, it is about sisterhood and family, it is about Cystic Fibrosis and the research that is being done, it is about one family's selfless dedication, and it is about Pam. Excellently written, with a foreword by Celine Dion, who has also been touched by Cystic Fibrosis in her family, readers will not be able to put the book down. One can't help but be moved in reading it.