The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams and over one million other books are available for Amazon Kindle. Learn more
Qty:1
  • List Price: $14.95
  • Save: $1.49 (10%)
FREE Shipping on orders over $35.
Only 3 left in stock (more on the way).
Ships from and sold by Amazon.com.
Gift-wrap available.
Add to Cart
FREE Shipping on orders over $35.
Condition: Used: Very Good
Comment: Eligible for Amazon's FREE Super Saver/Prime Shipping, 24/7 Customer Service, and package tracking. 100% Satisfaction Guarantee.
Add to Cart
Have one to sell? Sell on Amazon
Flip to back Flip to front
Listen Playing... Paused   You're listening to a sample of the Audible audio edition.
Learn more
See this image

The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams: Planning Together for Less Stress and More Joy Paperback – November 4, 2005


See all 4 formats and editions Hide other formats and editions
Amazon Price New from Used from
Kindle
"Please retry"
Paperback, November 4, 2005
$13.46
$3.89 $0.01

Frequently Bought Together

The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams: Planning Together for Less Stress and More Joy + The Busy Brides Bible for Planning a Fabulous Wedding Without the Expensive Cost of a Wedding Planner + A Practical Wedding: Creative Ideas for Planning a Beautiful, Affordable, and Meaningful Celebration
Price for all three: $38.53

Buy the selected items together

NO_CONTENT_IN_FEATURE
NO_CONTENT_IN_FEATURE

Product Details

  • Paperback: 231 pages
  • Publisher: New World Library (November 4, 2005)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1577313410
  • ISBN-13: 978-1577313410
  • Product Dimensions: 0.8 x 6.6 x 8.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,290,137 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

Editorial Reviews

From the Inside Flap

"This is the perfect pre-wedding gift for a couple planning an event that should be a source of joy and excitement, but is often a source of stress, anxiety, frustration, and even rage. Filled with practical and inspiring suggestions for creating a wedding celebration that joyfully expresses the souls of the two participants, this guide infuses its subject with psychological realism and a subtle tone of unsentimental spirituality." - Nathaniel Branden, PhD, author of The Art of Living Consciously

"From 'Popping the Questions' to 'The Honeymoon' and everything in between, this book covers it all! It arrived just in time for our son and future daughter-in-law to plan the wedding of their dreams!" - Charlie Bloom, co-author of 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married

"I read the book in one sitting. When I finished, I jumped in my car to take it to my son's house, so he and his fiancée wouldn't go one more day of their wedding planning without this heart-felt, practical guide." - Linda Bloom, co-author of 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married

"This book is a joy to read from cover to cover. Every bride AND groom needs to read it so they can enjoy planning their wedding while also building the basis for the success of their future marriage." - Susan Jeffers, PhD, author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love

"This is a beautiful and sensible book. Drs. Judith and Jim have outlined a remarkable blueprint that will save couples a lot of time and money. The spiritual principles will help them to create deeper intimacy as they transition from 'twoness' to 'oneness.'" - Dr. Grace Cornish, bestselling author of The Sacred Bond: 7 Spiritual Truths to Recognize and Marry Your Very Own Soul Mate, Drcornish.com

"This practical, helpful book guides couples through perhaps the most important event of their lives to date, and makes the experience more joyful then imagined." - Brian Tracy, author of Your Own Future

"This absolutely great book is a fascinating, readable, and wise blend of romance and practicality! Judith and Jim give just the right guidance and support for couples planning a marriage - or for that matter - planning a life together. From the earliest considerations of engagement to the end of the honeymoon, this book is an amazing gift to those couples who want to make their marriage and their lives reflect their souls." - Sidra Stone, PhD, and Hal Stone, PhD, co-creators of Voice Dialogue and authors of Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship and Embracing Our Selves

"Practical, prescient, precious. Judith and Jim have created a wedding masterpiece!" - Pat Love, EdD, author, The Truth about Love

"Utilizing real couples' stories and their own rich experiences, Judith and Jim brilliantly lead you through the rocky terrain of getting married; from pre-engagement considerations to the wedding day and beyond. Throughout, they act as the little voice in your head gently urging you to be true to yourself by planning a ceremony that will genuily reflect the bond between you and your beloved. I will, without hesitation, recommend this book to all my nervous brides-to-be." Farah Husain, bridal makeup artist

"The wedding market is flooded with 'how to' books - planners that all say essentially the same thing. Finally, here is a new, different, and interesting approach. This is a book for the modern couple, reflecting a growing trend for the groom's involvement. It recognizes that wedding planning today can be - should be - the beginning of a life together." - Gerard J. Monaghan, president, Association of Bridal Consultants

"Too often, men are encouraged to leave the wedding planning to their fiancées - with the result that their weddings and their marriages suffer. From a refreshing and very inspiring point of view, Judith and Jim reveal why it's essential for the bride and groom to plan their wedding together. This book establishes the template for weddings of the future." - Melissa Wilt, public policy analyst, Men's Health Network, Washington, DC

"As a wedding gown designer whose main concern is that the bride receive maximum value, I applaud Judith and Jim's practical, enthusiastic guide showing the wedding couple how to maximize the value and meaning of every aspect of their journey into marriage. This is a must read for every bride and groom and all the people who love them." - Madeline Gardner, designer of bridal gowns, Mori Lee LLC

"In my nineteen years as a wedding photographer, I've seen too many brides miss out on the spiritual and romantic magic that a wedding should be about. So I am thrilled to recommend this book because it can rescue all future brides from making the same mistake. This book is destined to become the bible for creating truly fabulous and deeply meaningful weddings." - Wilson Pinilla, president and CEO, Pinilla Photography and Video Inc.

"This book is hard to put down! Filled with invaluable information, it's everything a couple needs to plan their wedding and their life together." -Richard Markel, president, Association for Wedding Professionals International and founder, Bridal Show Producers International

"If only one person makes all of the decisions about the wedding, it stands to reason that that person will be burdened with making most of the decisions in the marriage. Judith and Jim give couples the tools to discover what matters most to them for their ceremony and its various celebrations opening the door to rich communication, which is the basis for a strong marriage." - Julia Markel, vice-president, Association for Wedding Professionals International


More About the Author

Best known as Judith & Jim - we're husband-and-wife psychology team Judith Sherven, PhD and Jim Sniechowski, PhD - best selling authors of six books, including our latest http://WhatReallyKilledWhitneyHouston.com in which we help our readers understand how the power of unconscious forces drive much of what we do and what holds us back. We are passionate champions for your freedom to live a truly free and fabulous life in any way you desire.

Internationally famous for our ability to dig deep into the heart of what holds people back while providing the recipe for permanent release from that internal prison, we have created a blueprint for learning about the power of Unconscious Allegiances and Forbiddances. Since most people cannot access our private consultation and coaching, we've produced our "Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous(tm)" program to enable the user to shatter the blindness that holds people back, guiding them through the necessary steps to releasing their hold backs and roadblocks to successful living and loving. Http://OvercomingTheFearOfBeingFabulous.com

At this time, we are executive coaches and leadership trainers and consultants to a variety of businesses and corporations including being on retainer to LinkedIn.

As guest experts we've been on over 2700 television and radio shows including Oprah, The View, 48 Hours, CNN, and Canada AM. And we've been interviewed or published by hundreds of major publications including the Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, USA Today, Boston Globe, Wall Street Journal, O, Cosmo, Bridal Guide, Redbook, Playboy, Essence, Women's Day, Family Circle, Parents, Brides, Men's Health, Best Life, and Today's Black Woman.

Meeting on a blind date March 7, 1987, they married 13 months later, and currently live in Las Vegas.

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5 stars
5 star
11
4 star
2
3 star
2
2 star
0
1 star
0
See all 15 customer reviews
A terrific guide for any couple planning their wedding.
Patricia Feinman
Their co-authored book, The Smart Couple's Guide has personality as well as practical advice.
Lynn C. Tolson
I love the fact that, in this book, there is lots of focus on preparing for marriage.
Laurel Jacobson

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

16 of 16 people found the following review helpful By Lisa Rothstein on November 9, 2006
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
I'm in my 40s and getting married for the first--and only--time in a few months. My fiance was feeling a little left out of the planning process, so I bought 2 copies of this book, one for him and one for myself. It's been a great discussion tool, and we've both made lots of notes all over the pages. The book covers the details of wedding planning but with a focus on keeping the relationship and the meaning of the celebration central. No matter what other planning guides you own -- and you will need others that do go bananas over flowers and bridesmaids' dresses if that's your thing, and God knows there are plenty of them out there-- please pick up a copy, or two, of this one. It lets you convert the stress and commericalism of planning your wedding into a relationship-deepening experience.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
8 of 8 people found the following review helpful By Lynn C. Tolson on September 25, 2006
Format: Paperback
As relationship trainers, motivational speakers, and workshop leaders, the authors of this book have credentials. Drs. Sherven & Sniechowski wrote Be Loved for Who You Really Are (St. Martin's Press, 2003), The New Intimacy (Health Communications, 1997), and Opening to Love 365 Days a Year (Health Communications, 2000). Married since 1988, they also have the personal experience of marriage longevity in the difficult-to-navigate labyrinth of relationships. Their co-authored book, The Smart Couple's Guide has personality as well as practical advice.
Divided into fifteen chapters, Drs. Sherven & Sniechowski thoroughly discuss aspects of the wedding plan. The authors offer true-life cases from hundreds of couples as examples of those who chose to plan their wedding together. These examples are used in a variety of settings: from "Popping the Question" to "To Change Names, or Not." Dispersed throughout the book are insights from the authors' own co-created wedding. The authors even research the history behind wedding customs, yet empower the wedding couples to co-create their specific style of wedding according to the themes and traditions of their own choosing.
The Smart Couple's Guide...is not a wedding planner, but a useful source of suggestions that illustrate how a couple can plan their wedding (and marriage) together. The authors state: "By living out your commitment as a couple throughout the planning process, you will experience new possibilities and new levels of awareness." Pre-marital relationship building skills is a main theme of the book; the authors cite values such as honesty and integrity as the foundation of the wedding, not the number of tiers on the cake or names on the invitations.
Read more ›
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
6 of 6 people found the following review helpful By Arthur C. Klein on December 5, 2005
Format: Paperback
In a copycat world of imitating successful books -- the millionth weight-loss book, the umpteenth reassuring guide for anxious brides -- Drs. Sherven and Sniechowski have filled a void by treating both men and women, brides and grooms, as co-partners. It may be heresy to say that the white-attired princess on the white horse is no longer the only star of the wedding process, but it's a long-awaited heresy that meshes beautifully with today's reality -- the reality that the vast majority of men and women who marry DO share in the wedding process. This book is for those sharers, those individuals determined to be partners before their wedding, during their wedding and for the rest of their lives.

This utterly indispensable book for married-couples-to-be will do wonders for lowering the divorce rate. Always supportive, never condescending, consistently lovingly and personal from first page to last, here is a book for every couple thinking about a wedding and for every person who knows a couple with marital plans.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Rebecca on October 23, 2013
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
This was an incredible book. Kept us grounded in our own vision of our relationship and the wedding celebration. Have gifted this to two other engaged couples and they tend to agree! It can get a bit saccharine at points, but overall THE BEST book I read in preparation for my wedding ceremony and reception.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Kathryn L on October 27, 2011
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
I purchased this book as part of my "wedding planning book binge," and while it raises some valid points, I also felt like some of it was overbearing. The suggestions for discussions of finances and whether or not a woman should change her name was thought provoking. However, sometimes the authors' own views overwhelm a person's ability to design their own wedding to suit them. For instance, the author describes the silly tradition of feeding each other cake (occasionally forcefully) as "abusive" and makes a blanket statement that it shouldn't be done. Also, they seem to have the position that they had a relatively ideal wedding, though it isn't one-size-fits all. Not a bad purchase, but not my favorite text.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By E. K. MARTIN on January 30, 2010
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
This book is extremely specific when it comes to planning. I assumed it would be largely focused on the couple and how to reduce stress, but it actually provided real ideas for planning as well. I read it in two days and will most likely go back and keep referencing it throughout my planning process.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Format: Paperback Verified Purchase
A wonderful way to plan for what you truly want for your special day not what others think you should have. I gave this to my niece for her wedding.
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again
Format: Paperback
Judith Sherven and James Sniechowski, husband-and-wife psychologists and authors of three books previously reviewed by me in these pages (The New Intimacy, Opening to Love 365 Days a Year, and Be Loved for Who You Really Are) have just published a new book on their favorite topic, love and marriage. In a literal sense, The Smart Couple's Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams covers a narrower subject than any of their three previous books. But actually, predictably enough given the authors' excellent writing skills and tireless, creative devotion to promoting passion, their latest offering manages to transcend the limits of the genre of wedding guides. Not seeing a book that went beyond the technicalities of wedding planning and touched the spirit of the event, they took the plunge and wrote it!

Perhaps the best way to describe The Smart Couple's Guide is as a combination of two things: 1) a collection of many wonderful true stories from married couples about their special celebrations; and 2) an alternative wedding guide that primarily addresses issues omitted from most or all other wedding guides. So if you are searching for a list of wedding caterers, or suggestions for choosing the best wedding photographer, there probably are better books for you (also Judith and Jim do provide some insights on most of these more traditional wedding planning issues).

But there are several other scenarios in which this might be a great book for you to read, and many of them don't even require that you are planning a wedding! If you are preparing to tie (or re-tie) the bonds of matrimony and want to read a book by two authors with a great understanding of issues of the heart and spirit behind marriage, this book is for you.
Read more ›
Comment Was this review helpful to you? Yes No Sending feedback...
Thank you for your feedback. If this review is inappropriate, please let us know.
Sorry, we failed to record your vote. Please try again

Customer Images

Most Recent Customer Reviews

Search