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10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love Paperback – March 1, 2006
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Suddenly men make sense!
I've already gone on to Mr.Read more ›
Kort's work is probably the most deeply insightful exploration I've read of the influences of family of origin issues, internalized homophobia, and other baggage that gay men experience, and how those factors, as well as subtle peer influences within the gay community and other factors affect us, and, in turn, how we select partners and how we relate to them.
I've read a lot of the psychology literature, both clinical and popular, on gay men and the special issues they face, but I think Kort has done the best job yet of weaving all of the pieces together in a way that is insightful and really helps the reader understand *why* we choose the partners we do, the actions we take that are driven by our unconscious, and particularly how all of the behaviors we bring to relationships have their roots in our childhood and other internalized life experiences.
Some of the insights he describes in the case histories of couples he has worked with are just extraordinary, as though finding the "needle in a haystack" that is the root cause of a partner's insecurities or inappropriate actions/behaviors. Almost everyone reading the book will find portions of the book that will resonate with their own experience, and there were several times when I was reading it where I experienced major "Aha" moments as it described feelings or behaviors I'd experienced but could never quite explain or understand.Read more ›
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I highly recommend this book for both the gay/bi/questioning male and anyone who cares for one. I wish this book was prescribed reading for a young men. Read morePublished 7 months ago by Bryan Pyle
This book helped me discover ....Loving myself is so freeing....Published 7 months ago by Shawn Wright
Excellent. I great bit help in understanding how childhood traumas influence out adulthood and what to do to become healthy and balanced. Read morePublished 21 months ago by Richard Max Hurst
Excellent resource for men working through coming out and then thinking of the next step of relationship building. Read morePublished 22 months ago by Den McClurg
Great book. Has saved my relationship!
Would definitely recommend.
it won't give you tips, but help you instead to comprehend what's behind love and find your place in it.Published on March 1, 2014 by Irakurle
Very interesting read and I liked the way Mr Kort used real cases to illustrate his points. What I took away was: there is usually a reason for most of our self-destructive... Read morePublished on February 22, 2014 by Amazon Customer
The book met all my expectations and more. A good source to help understand why people act or react as they do.Published on February 11, 2014 by Fritz