The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After 40 [Hardcover]

Tina B. Tessina (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 21, 2001

Bestselling author and family therapist Tina Tessina is an expert on decision-making, and her seminars, workshops, and lectures have women all across the country responding with tremendous enthusiasm to her concise, practical, and easy-to-use advice and techniques.

Even the most accomplished women waver at times.

"In workshops and therapy sessions, I encounter people hungry for guidelines. Even people who are already established and successful seek a clear explanation of which decisions are smartest for their particular situation. It is my job to know what will help women who are having to weigh issues and options."

Learn to make decisions like a CEO!

"Women who make tough and smart decisions are often criticized for it, while men making similar decisions are praised and lionized. The result is that many women are reluctant to be decisive, and that attitude has given them little chance to learn how to make decisions effectively."

Intuitive hunches are not sufficient for organizing a satisfying life.

"This is a nuts-and-bolts book about how to decide. While spiritual or metaphysical explorations can be rewarding, those kinds of things are not very helpful with the concrete decision-making skills and practical thinking life can require."

Tina Tessina's top ten:
1. Make your life your own
2. Reinvent your life roles
3. Revitalize your career
4. Enhance your friendships
5. Stay healthy
6. Secure your financial future
7. Fulfill your life's dreams
8. Have more fun
9. Create joy and meaning in your life
10. Give something back

"Each chapter fully explains one of these decisions, delineates why it is important, and offers personal stories, examples, resources, guidelines, and exercises that show the reader how each decision can be used in real-life situations."

Editorial Reviews

From the Back Cover

"Tina Tessina once again gives women practical directions to a more satisfying life. For all women who want to live happily beyond the age of 40!"‹ Daylie Deanna Schwartz, author of All Men Are Jerks Until Proven Otherwise.

"A fresh approach to midlife recharging. Both practical and inspirational, this book shows how to add both more security and more pizzazz to any woman's all-grown-up years."‹Susan K. Perry , Ph.D., author of Writing in Flow: Keys to Enchanced Creativity.

At last, a book for 40+ women that does not focus on growing old gracefully, but on finishing the process of growing up, finally becoming a fully actualized adult. The suggestions Tessina offers for creating a fulfilling life apply to all of us of any age or either sex, but particularly speak to the modern, mature woman."‹Isadora Alman, nationally syndicated columnist and author of Doing It: Real People Having Really Good Sex.

About the Author

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., L.M.F.T., has twenty-five years of experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is the author of ten books, including The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again (1999) and The 20 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make Before 40 (1998). Dr. Tessina lectures and conducts nationwide workshops on all of her books and has appeared on major television and radio shows, including Donahue, Oprah, Geraldo, and Larry King.

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Product Details

• Hardcover: 224 pages
• Publisher: St. Martin's Press; 1st edition (March 21, 2001)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1580631819
• ISBN-13: 978-1580631815
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.2 x 0.9 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,456,003 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. http://www.tinatessina.com is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California, with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction (New Page); How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free (New Page); The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again (Wiley) and The Real 13th Step: Discovering Self-Confidence, Self-Reliance and Independence Beyond the Twelve Step Programs (New Page.) Her newest books, out from Adams Press in 2008: Money, S*x and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage and Commuter Marriage. She publishes Happiness Tips from Tina, an e-mail newsletter, and the 'Dr. Romance Blog' http://drromance.typepad.com/dr_romance_blog/

She is an online expert, answering relationship questions at Divorce360.com and Yahoo!Personals, as well as a Redbook Love Network expert and 'Psychology Smarts' columnist for First for Women.Dr. Tessina guests frequently on radio, and on such TV shows as 'Oprah', 'Larry King Live' and ABC news. Follow her at twitter.com/tinatessina. Facebook: www.facebook.com/tinatessina

Customer Reviews

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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Practical and Empowering, June 18, 2001

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Judy (Bennington, VT United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After 40 (Hardcover)

I just turned 40, so with this title I had to read this! I liked that the book focuses on what you can do rather than where you may have gone wrong. The author rightfully stresses that the decisions we make directly affect the quality of our lives, and encourages us to reevaluate our choices according to what we now know. Her advice is both useful and empowering. This is a great gift for anyone facing 40!

10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars A synthesis of practical wisdom, May 2, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After 40 (Hardcover)

I give this less than five stars partly because it's not the kind of book I normally read (someone gave me a copy) but I found the advice about how to be friends with your adult children useful. For example, Tessina suggests discussing adult topics with your adult child, not just family topics or questions about their personal life. Or if your adult child says or does something annoying, treat it just as casually as you would if it were someone else's adult kid saying something annoying (ignore it and don't let yourself be drawn into a family squabble).

Here is a quotation starting a chapter that catches the flavor of the book: "What we must keep remembering is that our bodies respond to the feminine principle, the goddess. They respond to rest, to nurturing, to a presence that says you are okay just the way you are." -- quoting Dr. Christiane Northrup

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great wisdom for women, June 9, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After 40 (Hardcover)

The big 4-0 can either level us or lift us up. Tina Tessina's book shows us how to embrace our life experiences, use our accumulated wisdom, and create more with the lives that we have. At forty, we're beyond the ego-centric focus of youth (or at least we should be) but we know enough to care for ourselves and make ourselves a priority. I found myself showing passages from this book to my aunts, my 40+ friends, my mother, and anyone else who would listen to me. This book helps us get our priorities in line so that we can walk up through our 40s with strength, not with shame or fear. Now, any friend of mine who's turning 40 is getting a copy of this book.