Solace: Finding Your Way Through Grief and Learning to Live Again [Paperback]

Roberta Temes Ph.D. (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: July 15, 2009

There is no more stressful and traumatic experience than coping with the death of a loved one. There are various stages of grief and loss, which often take months or even years for many people to overcome. But with the right guidance, readers can learn to lessen the pain and live happy lives. "Solace" provides soothing comfort and hope for those who are suffering. As an award-winning bereavement expert, Roberta Temes believe all of us experience and process grief in our own way. Here she helps readers through the stages of grief, tells them when they should worry, helps them consider the pros and cons of bereavement groups and counselors, and shows them how to use visualization to help the healing process. Featuring anecdotes drawn from her bereavement practice so readers may learn from the experiences of others who have also gone through and struggled with loss, "Solace" is also filled with comforting affirmations, quotations and words of encouragement. Dealing with loss is never easy, but this book provides a calming companion to help readers through their mourning and begin enjoying life again.

Editorial Reviews

Review

“Many…are grieving loved ones, and the grief certainly contributes to their depression. A fantastic book I just came across is Solace.” -- Beyond Blue

“…thoughtfully crafted a self-help guide to grief that is easy to read and centered on readers who are now going through the process of grief…” -- Suite 101

” …offers psychological guidance, practical advice and reassurance to the bereaved…alerts the bereaved to genuine signs of when to worry and consider seeking professional help.” -- Director

Book Description

There is no more stressful and traumatic experience than the death of a loved one. It can take many months or even years to adjust to life without that special person. But with the right guidance, readers can learn to lessen the pain and get on with their lives.

Solace provides soothing comfort and hope for those who are suffering. Bereavement expert Roberta Temes believes all of us experience and process grief in our own way. Here she eases readers through the stages of grief, helps them understand their emotions, and enables them to recognize when they may need to seek help. Temes also helps them consider the pros and cons of bereavement groups and counselors, and shows them how to use visualization to ease the healing process. The book is filled with comforting affirmations, quotations, and words of encouragement, as well as anecdotes drawn from the author’s bereavement practice so readers may learn from others who have struggled with loss. Dealing with loss is never easy, but this book provides a calming companion to help readers through their mourning and enable them to begin enjoying life again.

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Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 18 and up
  
• Paperback: 146 pages
• Publisher: AMACOM (July 15, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 081441463X
• ISBN-13: 978-0814414637
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,047,256 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A companion for coping with the death of a loved one, July 30, 2009

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Lillie Bradford - See all my reviews

This review is from: Solace: Finding Your Way Through Grief and Learning to Live Again (Paperback)

Whenever I read the pages of Solace, it feels like Dr. Temes is holding my hand and rubbing my back as I mourn the death of my mother. I understand that Dr. Temes is an expert but I never feel like I'm being talked down to or reading a book written by someone who has knowledge but no understanding. This book taught me how to live my life while mourning the death of someone I loved so deeply. The real life examples of how people mourn differently are comforting and the ideas in the book have helped me find a place to put my grief so that I didn't feel so consumed by it. Solace has been like a really smart best friend that knows just how to make me feel better and I highly recommend it to anyone who has suffered a loss.

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Comfort and Support for Those Who Grieve, October 22, 2009

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Cynthia Sue Larson "www.realityshifters.com" (San Francisco bay area, CA USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Solace: Finding Your Way Through Grief and Learning to Live Again (Paperback)

SOLACE hits just the right notes for those desirous of comfort, support, and answers in times of grief and loss. Author Roberta Temes provides readers with marvelously clear advice regarding what to expect when faced when suffering the loss of a loved one. Grief is a process that occurs in stages that each can last for months, typically starting with a sense of numbness, followed by disorganization, and reorganization. Dr. Temes assures readers that "You will get on with your life," although "It won't be the same life you had."

SOLACE provides those in grief with a sense that someone understands what they are going through, as well as ways to cope with situations, feelings and events they might never have encountered before. Temes helps to answer questions regarding to what extent something we are experiencing is normal (such as flashbulb memories involving crystal clear recollections of past events with our beloved), and provides suggestions as to how we can help ourselves through challenging times.

I love the no-nonsense suggestions Temes offers in SOLACE, as she encourages people to mourn in their own fashion, and points out resources the bereaved may not have known are available. I highly recommend SOLACE to anyone feeling lost in any of the stages of grief, as well as for those living and working with those who grieve.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A Helpful Resource, October 21, 2009

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Bibliophile By the Sea (US) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Solace: Finding Your Way Through Grief and Learning to Live Again (Paperback)

If you have lost a loved one, a friend, or a co-worker, or if you've maybe experienced some trauma that has changed your life, grieving that event is perfectly normal and natural.

It is through grief and the grieving process, that we are able to heal, and to find new strength to help us continue on our journey that is life.

In Roberta Teme's new book, Solace: Finding Your Way Through Grief and Learning to Live Again, the author gives the reader practical advice in a compassionate way to help us as individuals cope with our loss.

The author suggests helpful ways to help those who are grieving. Two sections which I found very interesting were: Helping Children Who Are Grieving, and a section on Rituals and Remembering. If you or someone you know has experience a loss, you might want to consider this self-help/grief book. It was very good.