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Solutions: Practical and Effective Antidotes for Sexual and Relationship Problems

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This book has interesting information in it, but what it contains is information intended for therapists whose goals it is to change the relationship lives of their clients, including couples that come to the therapist for therapeutic help.

It's poor judgement to choose a book like this one for yourself to develop your own relationship or sexual life with, because you'd have to be two people, the first a therapist, the second (and maybe third, including your partner) some client with a problem. While you could role model yourself and switch among those roles, adapting the book's content to your needs, I think it's better to look elsewhere for help for yourself. Another book written by the same authors is called Know-how, and aims to help it's readers help THEIR OWN relationship problems.

I've read this book and others by the same author, and couldn't make the content of the book "Solutions" relevant to my life in any valuable way while the other books were all quite applicable. Until the obvious occured to me, "This book is intended for therapists, not for people wanting to help their own relationship lives". Then I lost interest in this book. I'm not a therapist and don't plan to be one.

I don't recommend this book to anyone who is not a practicing marriage/couple therapist. It's value to someone who is not a therapist is almost nil.

I have given this book as a wedding gift to people very close to me since first reading it. It has simple, easy-to-follow exercises for enhancing love and healing the easy-to-receive wounds. It also helps with the process of breaking up, should that be the way things go, allowing the pain to be transformed into growth and healing.

I am a retired psychotherapist, so my take on this book is a bit different from those of other reviewers.

I agree with the reviewer "A Customer" in that this is not a "do it yourself" book. It really would be folly to attempt to use it for that purpose. A word of advice: Please don't try it.

The commentor to the above review, "E. Owen," also is correct in that the book would be difficult for most to understand because of the NLP jargon.

I used this book right after it was published for a graduate-level NLP course and found it to be excellent. I still have my copy, have referred to it many times over the years, and certainly still would go back to it.