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Some of My Best Friends Are Black: The Strange Story of Integration in America [Hardcover]

Tanner Colby
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July 5, 2012

An incisive and candid look at how America got lost on the way to Dr. King’s Promised Land

Almost fifty years after Martin Luther King, Jr.’s "I Have a Dream" speech, equality is the law of the land, but actual integration is still hard to find. Mammoth battles over forced busing, unfair housing practices, and affirmative action have hardly helped. The bleak fact is that black people and white people in the United States don’t spend much time together—at work, school, church, or anywhere. Tanner Colby, himself a child of a white-flight Southern suburb, set out to discover why.

Some of My Best Friends Are Black chronicles America’s troubling relationship with race through four interrelated stories: the transformation of a once-racist Birmingham school system; a Kansas City neighborhood’s fight against housing discrimination; the curious racial divide of the Madison Avenue ad world; and a Louisiana Catholic parish’s forty-year effort to build an integrated church. Writing with a reporter’s nose and a stylist’s flair, Colby uncovers the deep emotional fault lines set trembling by race and takes an unflinching look at an America still struggling to reach the mountaintop.


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"Who would expect a coauthor of two Saturday Night Live alumni biographies (The Chris Farley Show; Belushi) to pen a thoughtful, judicious, yet provocative social history of American race relations? Evenhanded, felicitously written, and animated by numerous interviews, Colby's book is a pleasure..." -- Library Journal 

"Pointing out the shortfalls of court-ordered busing, affirmative action, and other well-intentioned programs, Colby's charming and surprisingly funny book shows us both how far we've come in bridging the racial divide and how far we've yet to go." -- Publisher's Weekly

"With depressing persuasiveness, the author argues that we haven't achieved racial integration, because, well, we don't really want to. ...the author's personal voice is compelling and his thesis is most disturbing. Recommended reading for anyone who still thinks we live in a post-racial America." -- Kirkus

"Colby, emerging from the "comedians who died young" pigeonhole that he had made for himself... finds a new way into a national discussion, which is so cluttered at this point that it can be difficult to find the floor. His refreshing angle is based in aw-shucks honesty and an earnest humor..."  -- The Daily Beast

"Kansas City residents who are proud of their metropolis might wish Tanner Colby had never written Some of My Best Friends are Black, despite the book's supurb qualities." -- The Kansas City Star

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"I've often thought that the issue of race has been more than adequately dealt with by America's people of color and that it was finally white people's turn to engage with the uncomfortable subject if we were to move forward together as a nation. In Some of My Best Friends Are Black, Tanner Colby bravely and ably accepts the challenge. This book taught me unexpected and valuable lessons about my country, my people, and myself. What can a white guy named Tanner teach a black guy named Baratunde about race in America? Turns out the answer is 'plenty.'" -- Baratunde Thurston, author of How to be Black

"In weaving together the personal narratives (including his own) of "the Children of White  Flight" and "the Children of the Dream" Tanner Colby has crafted a powerful piece of social commentary and contemporary history. Hugely readable, quirky, and incredibly smart, Some of my Best Friends Are Black presents four unforgettable smaller stories to tell the big story of race in today's America." -- Tim Naftali, author of George H.W. Bush and director emeritus of the Richard Nixon Presidential Library and Museum

"Irony, surprise, virtue, and hustling are always the interwoven story of ethnic troubles in America. Tanner Colby lets us see that, however many advances have been accomplished, the unfamiliar styles of those who intend to do well--along with those who inevitably pollute any area with short-sighted economic dreams--inevitably lead to a universal conclusion: "Mistakes were made." The story of how and why this happened is what gives this book something special beyond the usual sentimentality imposed on human events, above and below." -- Stanley Crouch, author of Reconsidering the Souls of Black Folk

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 320 pages
  • Publisher: Viking Adult; First Edition edition (July 5, 2012)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 067002371X
  • ISBN-13: 978-0670023714
  • Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.3 x 1.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #34,331 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Tanner Colby is the author of Belushi: A Biography and the New York Times and Los Angeles Times bestseller The Chris Farley Show: A Biography in Three Acts. He lives in Brooklyn, New York.

Customer Reviews

His keen wit shines throughout. Cheryl M  |  2 reviewers made a similar statement
I found this book very informative as well as a really good book to read. Marlene M. Lockwood  |  3 reviewers made a similar statement
This is a great story and a reminder that it can happen. Paul A. Mastin  |  1 reviewer made a similar statement
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42 of 44 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Honest, entertaining look at race relations July 7, 2012
Format:Hardcover
Like many white liberals, Tanner Colby joined in with African Americans around the country, celebrating the election of "pretty much the awesomest guy to run for president in my lifetime, Barack Obama." However, as he looked around the room and around his life, he realized that he didn't have any black friends. This was the case with almost all of the white people he talked to. So he set out to write this book, exploring race in his own background and in American life. As he looked at the changing legal landscape, he realized that while under Jim Crow, the color line was kept in place with "terrorism, fear, and deliberate, purposeful discrimination," today life is "engineered in such a way that the problems of race rarely intrude on you personally. . . . You can be white and enjoy the same isolation and exclusivity without having to do anything."

For Colby, like many late 20th-century Americans, the story of race starts with forced integration of schools and the busing that made integration possible. He grew up in Birmingham, Alabama, which Martin Luther King, Jr., called the most segregated city in America. All over the South, school districts resisted integration. Breakaway school districts in white parts of town arose, as did, later, a huge number of private schools. White flight from school districts and from city cores let to even more segregation, making busing and forced integration more expensive and less practical, and, most tragically, led to the closing of many majority black high schools that had enjoyed success with black administrators, black teachers, and black students.

And the dream of integration? Colby's experience was repeated all over: the black kids sat in their own section of the cafeteria, were often relegated to remedial classes, felt unwelcome in clubs and sports, and, with very few exceptions, did not mix socially with white students. One of his former classmates, reflecting on their otherwise academically strong high school, commented, "if your parents were concerned about giving you an education, they would educate about the fact that there are black people who can read and write."

While the government could impose racial integration on public schools, they are more limited in the imposition of integration in housing. As a case study, Colby examines neighborhood patterns in Kansas City, Missouri. Building on the fears and suspicions of whites, real estate developers began to create planned communities with a new innovation. In addition to large lots, winding streets, parks, and other amenities, developers introduced racial covenants, which prevented blacks from buying property in whole neighborhoods.

On the other side of town, seedier developers practiced block busting, in which the developer would move a black family onto the block, then, after a while, go to the neighbors to instill fear that the blacks are taking over. He could scare them into selling at a low price, then resell the property to more blacks. Most disturbing is that federal housing policy made block busting much more profitable and contributed to the decline of neighborhoods. (I know, it's shocking--government policy intruding in the market and resulting in destructive unintended consequences!)

Turning to the workplace, Colby examines race in the world of advertising, where Colby got his professional start. Reviewing the history of affirmative action (which was imposed by the Republican everyone loves to hate, Nixon), Colby concludes that "it wasn't designed to fail, but it wasn't exactly designed to succeed, either. . . . It was riot insurance. It was to provide a financial incentive for blacks to stay in their own communities and out of the suburbs."

Finally, Colby returns to his childhood home of LaFayette, Louisiana, where he lived before moving to Birmingham. We've all heard MLK's famous line about 11 o'clock Sunday morning being the most segregated hour of the week. Colby writes, "As much as we talk about the importance of 'diversity' in our schools and workplaces, the notion of integrating the church is the last thing anyone, black or white, seems to be willing to put on the table." The Catholic Church in southern Louisiana (where most everyone is Catholic) had been integrated for generations, yet the rise of Jim Crow let to segregation, leading to the unusual situation of having overlapping Catholic parishes where church affiliation was determined by skin color. Even in the smallest towns, two Catholic churches would exist, sometimes even sharing a parking lot.

Colby writes that he "saw black people at white churches, and I saw white people at black churches, but what I never saw . . . was a black and white church" except at St Charles Borromeo in Grand Coteau. As he tells the story, it was a long, painful 40 year struggle, but eventually the white and black churches became one. This is a great story and a reminder that it can happen. Our family has longed to find a truly integrated church, but we haven't. As we have visited black churches, we had the experience Colby describes, a warm welcome as visitors, "but that's exactly what you are when you're here: a visitor. As friendly as people are, the longer you sin in that pew--and at a black church you will sit there for a long time--the more you come to realize that this isn't meant for you. Because it isn't. It's the social, economic, political, and cultural hub of a separate black America. It's churchness cannot be divorced from it's blackness." (I would have been interested in Colby's experiences in Pentecostal churches. Ever since Azusa Street in the early 20th century, Pentecostal congregations have been, in many cases, very well integrated.)

This last statement points to a theme that Colby follows throughout the book. The struggle for integration does not mean that black people want to be culturally integrated into white America. They want to right to choose where to go to school, but should not have to give up historically black schools. They should have the right to buy a house wherever they like, but might still choose to live in majority black neighborhoods. They should not be prohibited from obtaining jobs in any field. And they should be welcome in white or integrated congregations, but may choose to attend black churches. As Colby puts it, the fight for integration "was about the right to sit at the lunch counter and be served, not about the right to sit at the lunch counter and have a root beer with Susie and Biff."

I got over Colby's confession of Obama worship pretty quickly and thoroughly enjoyed his book. His personal take on issues of race, coupled with solid background material and plenty of other first-hand accounts make this a terrifically readable and challenging book. Are we better off as a nation than we were when we were kids? Undoubtedly. Are there still racial divides running through our schools, neighborhoods, and churches? Yes, but maybe that's not necessarily a bad thing. Historically black colleges, black neighborhoods, black service and social clubs and black churches can foster growth and positive identity in ways that token integration can't. But the fact remains, in spite of the progress we've made, that for many Americans "it's easier to vote for a black man than to sit and have a beer with one."

Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the complimentary review copy!
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14 of 15 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A Compelling Read July 15, 2012
Format:Kindle Edition
If you think the issues raised in this book are history, read the article "Stop pretending racism is over" on the Opinion page of the July 14, 2012 Boston Globe. It is written by a black Harvard student who was running to catch a bus and was verbally abused by four strangers. Mr. Colby's book explores segregation and integration in four areas: school, housing, advertising and church. His style of writing makes this serious subject eminently readable. His keen wit shines throughout. This book is a must read for everyone. Don't skip the Preface.
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"Anybody tells you that this school didn't break off to try and stay all white is lyin' through their teeth." -Vestavia Hills Principal Cas McWaters. As a resident of Vestavia Hills, Alabama, to read that admission from someone in a position of authority within the Vestavia Hills school system was worth the price of this book. Hats off to Principal McWaters for his candor and Tanner Colby for a well written book.

The first chapter of this book covers the story of Vestavia Hills as it relates to its schools and the issue of race. Since Colby graduated from Vestavia Hills High School, it is not only a historical account but also a personal journey of discovery. At times blunt, but not condemning, the book explores the perspectives of both blacks and whites involved in this piece of history. It is a sad story, but at the same time encouraging because it shows how we are now not what we were then. Most encouraging to me, is Mr. McWaters' candor and cooperation with the author. All too often, we have been unwilling to speak honestly about these issues.

I am limiting my comments to the first chapter as I want to encourage Vestavians and people who live in the Birmingham, Alabama area to read this book. It should be required reading for all Vestavia Hills High School students in my humble opinion.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
3.0 out of 5 stars Good condition
Like brand new and arrived on time. Not as good a read as I thought it would be. A bit too clinical. Read more
Published 10 days ago by Eithne Clarke
4.0 out of 5 stars Brash and insightful
(I did not purchase this but borrowed it from the library.)

This book comes across at first as a tongue-in-cheek examination of racism in America by someone who admits... Read more
Published 1 month ago by Stephen Matlock
4.0 out of 5 stars Answers ALOT of Questions
I had always wanted to know just how segretation/integration came about, and this book answers many, but not all of my questions. If you like social history, it's very good. Read more
Published 2 months ago by K. Miller
5.0 out of 5 stars Interesting, informative and awakening
I found this book very informative as well as a really good book to read. I became alarmed at our overall slowness in truly being integrated as a nation. Very good insites.
Published 5 months ago by Marlene M. Lockwood
5.0 out of 5 stars Grandma Raves
I purchased this book for my grandma after seeing it's recommendation in a magazine. She's an avid reader & especially on issues of race relations. Read more
Published 6 months ago by tiyauna lewis
4.0 out of 5 stars Insightful & sometimes humorous take on a sensitive topic
This is not some serious textbook chronicling the history of racial integration in America. Neither is it a personal memoir about the author's lack of black friends. Read more
Published 7 months ago by Toni Campbell
4.0 out of 5 stars The on-going debate between Booker T. Washington and W.E.B. DuBois
Author Tanner Colby, previously known only for writing about fat dead comedians, decided he needed to get an image makeover to be taken seriously as a writer. Read more
Published 7 months ago by Dienne
3.0 out of 5 stars Opinionated "Story of Integration"?
Our author does a nice job of documenting the early social progress of Blacks, and he did it in a unique way. Read more
Published 7 months ago by Ink & Penner
4.0 out of 5 stars It's the personal stories that resonate
Tanner Colby voted for Obama in 2008. He shares that fact as he starts the journey that ultimately became this book. Read more
Published 7 months ago by James Hiller
5.0 out of 5 stars AS IT WAS AND AS IT IS
Really really really good accounting of history of racism & integration up to today in Birmingham schools, Kansas City real estate, Madison Avenue professionals, and the Catholic... Read more
Published 7 months ago by Joann Blackburn
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