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Someone I Love Is Gay: How Family & Friends Can Respond

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I have spoken with many family members of homosexuals, and regardless of how accepting, loving, or even liberal they may be, the initial announcement, "I'm gay" is one that can knock you to your knees. I have also heard Anita Worthen speak several times, and her deep love and compassion for her son and for homosexuals in general is so evident. From her heart she writes this practical and compassionate book that is a "must" for any parent reeling from the news that their son or daughter is gay. Discovering this book is often the very first time that a parent or a family member discovers that they are not alone, that others have been there too, and that what they are feeling is normal. Especially helpful are the chapters on the grief cycle-adapted for the family member, and on how to relinquish your loved one and "let go."

After learning that my daughter was leaving her 4 young children and a very loving husband to persue a lesbian relationship, I was devasted. Nothing can take away the terrible pain this has caused in family members, friendships, and fellow missionary friends and associatiates. Her dear husband recommended this book to me and it was a lifesaver for me. I still hate that this terrible thing has happened but I am now able to understand something about which we are dealing. I would recommend this book to anyone going through this painful discovery.

This book shows parents (or others) how to love people who choose a gay identity when the parents disagree with that choice. It walks the fine line of speaking the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) to someone who is promoting homosexuality. It is well-written, has good ideas for ways to keep communication going, and above all seeks the best for the person who espouses the gay identity.

Thinly disguised as compassionate counseling for parents, this is another in a long line of books shoveled out by religious zealots. This book uses discredited research and advocates dangerous and harmful tactics to try and force your child out of being gay. Buy any book by Wayne Besen on the subject for a thorough dismantling of these crackpot theories. Then buy Now That You Know for a truly appropriate and positive resource for learning how to respond to your son or daughter's coming out.

I grew up in gay culture and for years beleived the lie that no one could change. I am now 27 and am married and have two kids. I am happy to have read this publication. I bought the silly tales by gay activist, that just because homosexuality was in wildlife that meant it was okay. My freinds in the late 80's were dying of Hiv while gay activist refused to close the bath houses of San Francisco. I amso glad to be over that and am aware of this sinister movement. Gay people and Gay activist are two differnt groups. I loe to talk to gay people gay ativist are beyond talking to. I am happy and am not even a christian I am an athiest. So you can be ex gay and not be religous. Science is abounding with information that says sexuality can be changed by enviroment. The gay activist through means of intimidation not science got some of americas most cherished medical institutions to bend to there whinning. The American Psyciatric Association is about to get a huge law suit by former gays. I hope this will teach them to be honest.
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Someone they Love? I don't think so.

I am not impressed with the authors' so-called Christian objections to homosexuality. True the old testament does speak against it, but in the same place the Bible also speaks against eating shellfish.

Where are the support groups to "cure" the eaters of shellfish? or to cure those who commit the sin of Divorce?

Jesus spoke not one word about homosexuality.

But he did have something to say about Divorce: Mark:10:4-12.

My question to the authors is: as Christians who follow the teachings of Christ, shouldn't you be more concerned about the sin of Divorce than the sin of homosexuality? Jesus says "whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her"

The true reason for this book I think, is the cultural hatred and fear of homosexuality, not conern for it as a "sin". There is some evidence that those who most hate and fear homosexuals, are themselves deeply tempted by homosexuality, are themselves attracted to those of their own sex.

As Jesus also mentioned: "thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye."

One chapter of this book that I did almost like was the one on childhood sexual abuse, with some reservations. They have included much of the most progressive information.

However, the implication that sexual abuse "causes" homosexuality, I disagree with. Many many straight men and women were sexually abused. Ninety percent of prostitutes and women in prison were also sexually abused. Not all are gay..

They believe that there is no legitimacy in being homosexual and will use any "facts" to support this idea even if there is no logical link.

They use the testimony of people who have joined Exodus, a support group for people who want to "stop" being gay. They don't consider any testimony of homosexuals who are happy and living stable and productive lives. Nor do they include stories of the many openly gay Christians.

especially sons or daughters, need to understand that this book is promoting the idea of "curing" same-gender sexuality, specifically by affiliating with the Exodus group. This is regarded as quack medicine by every legitimate medical group you can name, and can be harmful. If you have a family member who's gay and are having a hard time dealing with it, you'd do better to contact PFLAG (Parents, Families/Friends of Lesbians and Gays), and if you're looking for an account by someone who's been through it, "Prayers For Bobby" is a better choice. Also see "Truth Wins Out" at [...]

What a wonderful and timely book for the 21st century. The authors are to be congratulated on the clarity and strength of their vision. I can't wait for the next edition, which I believe includes help for black people who want to turn white.

How do you handle it when you learn that your child, parent,brother or sister, close friend, etc.is struggling with homosexuality? This book is a lifeline of hope for families faced with the shock and grief that comes when someone they love makes such a disclosure.

I bought this book to get some understanding as to how I should cope w/a friend who is a lesbian. It gave me better understanding of how they feel and even how I would/do feel. It was a good book and I'm glad I got it.