Eichenbaum reveals that relationships involve a combination of factors: destiny, an understanding of each partner's sign, and the willingness to work through the highs and lows of love's natural progression. Each of the twelve signs of the Zodiac corresponds to a phase of a romance, from passionate court-ship, represented by fiery Aries, to the commitment and soul bonding of watery Pisces. Each Sun sign has its gifts (the discernment of Virgo or the enthusiasm of Sagittarius, for example) and its corresponding challenges (the self-doubt of Taurus or the unpredictability of Aquarius) that it brings to a relationship. By understanding that the choice to love and grow with your partner is yours and yours alone, Soul Signs in Love shows you how to enjoy and revel in the unfolding process of discovery and revelation that underlies lasting love.
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The question I'm asked the most often is "Are we compatible?"
After one of my public appearances, a couple will furtively come up to me, and one spouse will say, "I'm a Scorpio and my partner is a Leo. Astrology books say our signs aren't harmonious; will our marriage last?" There is an urgency in their voices as if their "incompatible" Sun signs were time bombs. "Must we stand by and watch as our relationship self-destructs?"
Of all the people who come to me for astrological consultations, very few marry the sign with whom they are considered to be compatible. I feel that one of the main attributes of the Aquarian age is that you have the right to be an individual and complete within yourself, but what this does to relationships is still to be discovered. Most of my astrology readings are about relationships; not so much who you're compatible with, but how to have a working relationship with the one you're with already.
Even couples with traditionally compatible signs fear conflict and seem to be unsure of the securing of their relationship. With half of the marriages ending up in the divorce court you can understand their alarm, but I'm always a little surprised at their feelings of helplessness. Can it be that astrology is giving out the wrong message? The age of Pisces, whose influence is fading daily as we go deeper into this new century, was a time when organized religion controlled marriage. With two thousand years ahead of us in the age of Aquarius, astrology will evolve as an empirical source of information. In this new age we will develop a larger vision and be aware of the power and creativity that arise out of the play of differences.
Love Transcends Differences
Relationships are not only about togetherness.
You must learn to see that each day is a chance to experience your partner in a different way, and that the problems that naturally arise are full of possibilities for growth and change.
There is an old American Indian saying: "Take two birds and tie them together. You have two heads, four wings, and four feet, but they can't fly." After intense moments of connection you and your partner naturally retreat into separateness and feel yourselves as separate poles. This pause gives you the space to be who you are and stimulates the desire to come together again. And after all, aren't relationships the union of separate beings? We need a sense of our own space, our own identity, to be intimate.
In my astrology practice I've read many compatibility charts for couples. It has never occurred to me to tell couples with classically incompatible Sun signs to end their relationship; I give them insight on how to circumvent and transform the problems that arise. Basically incompatible signs such as Scorpio and Leo can develop a soul-bonded relationship, and even compatible signs generate a whole set of issues that have to be sorted out if a relationship is to succeed.
I find there are three basic types of relationships: one is to become involved with someone like yourself in world-view and emotional responses; another is to become involved with someone totally your opposite; then there are the alien relationships where you become involved with someone from a totally different background or culture and everything they do is fascinating or confusing. Romance has widened its territories so that today your partner logically could be from a different culture, race, and/or religion. These relationships have no chance of working without an understanding of how the process of love develops into intimacy.
Compatible or Not
Our greatest gift in life is choice.
It is important to remember that nothing in life is so ordained that it can't be changed. At every moment in time and space we have a 100 percent chance to make a decision through love or from a sense of need. Even if you and your partner have Sun signs that are traditionally incompatible, the soul inherently manages and transcends the influences of the stars.
There are couples who, according to their charts, aren't supposed to be compatible at all, who never have an argument, but even with the best of aspects there are no promises. To explain this you must understand what astrology offers you. Your Sun sign doesn't control you in any way. It's a subtle influence much like your nationality or the physical and emotional characteristics that you inherit from your family.
You can live your life very well without the benefit of astrology, but once you see how it influences your life it can become a valuable tool for self-help. The soul transcends time and space; it can use the energy of your Sun sign in several ways.
One of the obstacles to lasting marriages is that most mating is done in our twenties. Face it! Few of us are mature at that time. But even when people put off commitment until later there are no guarantees. Of course you have more life experience to draw from, but dating at any age is difficult because it requires vulnerability and risk. When I predicted a relationship for her, a single client of mine in her fifties moaned to me, "It's unnatural to date in your fifties."
Each stage of courtship and commitment brings new choices and a chance to grow closer. At each point we create a new path and a new life lesson. We have much more power to achieve what we want than we give ourselves credit for.
As we move into the new century, it is possible for people to live longer. There has to be respect, patience, and simple endurance, as well as love, to be married for fifty years or more.
Aquarian Age Relationships
Astrology doesn't have all the answers.
Astrology is a system we work through, much like a cosmic weather report. Astrology is a road map for spiritual growth and an invaluable source of information. There are two things in life that you can't change: that you are born into the earth plane and that eventually you will leave it. While you're here, you spend a lot of time trying to find out what life is all about, usually by interacting with others. In fact, the meaning of life is found primarily through relationships; that is the game of life. You have a choice in how you play the game, but to know yourself you must relate to others.
One day, there is a wake-up call: you lose your job; your partner asks for a divorce; someone dear to you dies; you may become seriously ill. Generally this call means that your life as you have known it is over. However it happens, suddenly your perspective changes and you need answers to questions you've never asked. Why am I here? Why did this happen to me? With new awareness and close scrutiny you find you possess undesired traits or handicaps as well as wonderful gifts or talents to use without much effort. This elevated conscious awareness looks past the obvious into the subtle. You can see the signature of the Creator.
Astrology is a great help; as a holistic tool for self-knowledge, it gives you pieces of the puzzle you wouldn't see otherwise. By observing your life as you live it, things you've overlooked in the past are more apparent. You find there are no coincidences, everything is connected, full of purpose and meaning. All of creation is one great unity and every minute counts. By putting the pieces together in a cohesive way you are able to help others see it too.
Aquarius is the sign of unity, and unity will be our lesson for the next two thousand years. When you learn that you are whole at a deep level of consciousness, then you won't expect outside things or other people to fill the emptiness inside or complete you. Then your relationships will improve, no matter what sign you are.
You can read every book, magazine, and newspaper in the world and still not understand what is really happening in your life and around you until you look within and come to the conclusion that life is a creative experience. When you take responsibility for the quality of your life, then you will be ready to attract and sustain a truly intimate and fulfilling relationship.
Soul-Centered Relationships
Astrology is a usable system and Aquarian astrology is a new way of looking at this ancient information.
Hidden in the zodiac's timeless symbols are potentials and possibilities. How you react to the compelling aspects of your Sun sign is your choice. People have changed very little physically through the ages, yet the world is very different today. We function today with a strong degree of personal autonomy, which would have been considered sacrilegious to the ancient mind.
Spiritual principles have been lost by choosing an intellectual approach to life instead of a holistic view. The ancients believed in a divine force through which the spiritual and physical universe becomes manifest. Because their religion and science was connected, they understood the force that permeates and links all levels of reality from the divine to the most material. Nature was an important part of their lives. We have lost this understanding in the last century and our world has been wounded by this separatism.
In the Aquarian age partnering can be done on an equal-footed basis. Relationships aren't based on what I can do for you or you can do for me, but what we can do together.
The Aquarian motto for relationships: I love you enough to give you the space to follow your own soul path and I want to share my life with you as you are.
Love comes from the soul. The more secure you are within yourself, the more soul connected you are and the better your chances of having a lasting relationship. To be happy with someone there must first be the vulnerability to join emotionally, mentally, sexually, and spiritually with another human being. When you surrender to your soul, a great source of wisdom is tapped. You move past the level of natural affinities into mature understanding and the...
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I read a few sections of this book and found it very insightful, especially the way the author linked each stage of courtship with a zodiac sign and characteristic. A lot of people think that once they move in together or get married, all kinds of problems will be solved automatically. But the author illustrates how one has to let the relationship progress through all these stages first, and uses real life example to show how some people jeopardized their relationships by rushing things.
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