Soulmate or Cell Mate [Paperback]

Jackie Woods (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 1, 2006

After counseling couples for more than 25 years, it became clear to Jackie Woods that the concept of a relationship in today’s society is deeply flawed. Woods rejects the idea that a relationship is about giving up parts of yourself to another person or believing that another person "completes" you. Instead, she contends that any relationship that diminishes a person is unhealthy. The foundational principle of her new book, Soulmate or Cell Mate, is that relationships are an independent "third" living entity that are fed by the people creating them. This independent relationship space enhances people’s lives rather than takes away from their individual space.

Soulmate or Cell Mate offers practical tools for relationship improvement and healing, including understanding your heart energies and the four-dimensional relationship, overcoming your inner child, how to communicate better, and how to navigate common challenge areas and hidden enemies. Woods distinguishes between healthy, growing relationships and those only held together by tired patterns and unhealthy emotional attachments. Whether you are currently in a relationship or have given up on finding Mr./Ms. Right, Soulmate or Cell Mate gives readers the tools to transform any relationship into a healthy, intimate experience that will enhance your life.

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About the Author

About the Author Jackie Woods is the founder and CEO of Adawehi Healing Center, Institute and Press in Columbus, North Carolina and has more than 25 years of relationship counseling experience. Her work has been featured in publications such as Awareness Magazine, Spirit in the Smokies, and Natural Awakenings, and she has appeared on numerous national and regional radio and television programs. Woods is also the author of two previous books, Journey to Ultimate Spirituality and Spiritual Energy Cycles.

Product Details

• Paperback: 247 pages
• Publisher: Adawehi Press (March 1, 2006)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1933690003
• ISBN-13: 978-1933690001
• Product Dimensions: 7.8 x 5.2 x 0.1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,855,764 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Very Different, Interesting Outlook, April 27, 2006

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Shirley Priscilla Johnson "Author/Reviewer -... (USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Soulmate or Cell Mate (Paperback)

We are blessed in this work to have an author who truly knows what she is talking about. Counseling for more than 25 years, author Jackie Woods realized that society was definitely leading couples down the wrong road in their relationships. We are told that we complete each other and we must bend and sway to fit together for a working relationship often leaving us beyond frustration. Is this how it should be?
Not so, according to our author!
We learn in this work that we are and should remain true to ourselves, our individuality and in doing so we only then can truly have a healthy relationship without resentments, unfulfilled visions or deep longings never spoken.
She believes that coming together doesn't have to mean leaving your own desires behind but rather by expanding on them you will enhance each other and draw closer. She shares how 'heart energies' impact our relationships and choices and includes a list of the same, fully explaining her meaning on this subject and how it relates to us.
She feels once we understand how this energy works in different areas or our lives and those of our partners we can have a much more fulfilling relationship.
Very interesting work, well written with some thought provoking revelations that certainly are worth our consideration in striving to enhance any relationship.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Rule book for marriage!, May 28, 2007

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C. A. Slattery "Sheri" (Massachusetts) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Soulmate or Cell Mate (Paperback)

We all wish there was a book of directions for rearing children, well this is just the book for any relationship! It is an easy read, well mapped out and directs you toward harmony and maturity in working things out and living together in marriage. A must read for anyone in a meaningful relationship that you want to last. We have learned a lot and wish we would have had this "tool" 20 years ago when we were married!!!

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Soulmate or Cell Mate, April 18, 2006

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Mary Simmons "simmonsmry" (Wroxeter, Ontario Canada) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Soulmate or Cell Mate (Paperback)

Have you ever wondered if there is actually one perfect person out there who will complete you and enrich your life in the way that can only be achieved by a soulmate?
If so, author Jackie Woods says you are perpetuating a deeply flawed concept that is prevalent in our society. In her latest book, `Soulmate or Cell Mate: A Guide to Healthy Relationships,' she offers practical advice for improving relationships.
Woods says the purpose of her book is to, "give you tools that will help eliminate the gap between your personal awareness and your relationship skills."
She advises her readers to change their definition of a good relationship by coming to understand what makes it work.
In guiding her readers on a spiritual journey towards developing a soulmate relationship, Woods explores how communication, childhood behaviours, strengths and weaknesses, hidden enemies, everyday problems, sex, family and money affect relationships.
She focuses on heart energies and how they impact relationships and personal choices, including a list of these energies at the back of the book and referring specifically to eight which support relationships. They are acceptance, love, nurturing, support, honesty, trust, generosity, community and commitment.
According to Woods, a relationship should be viewed as a third entity, separate from each of the individuals who are involved. By defining your dominant heart energies and identifying how you wish to express them, you can choose to react to your partner's heart energies and better understand where they are coming from.
Part of this is realizing how you and your partner experience the world through physical, emotional, mental and spiritual perceptions.
Woods says we have to be prepared before we enter a relationship. We need to work on ourselves before becoming involved with someone else since, "you can only love another person to the extent that you love yourself."
Woods has 25 years of relationship counselling under her belt and she offers many examples of couples she has known and helped over the years. The illustrations are easy to relate to and offer human faces to the abstract ideas.
Defining your actions and reactions by the energies that drive them will take some practise. I don't imagine rearranging your thinking in this way will be easy, but it makes sense that if you persevere and figure out your motivations you will have less stress in the long run.
`Soulmate or Cell Mate' offers an alternative to the Hollywood concept of romance. It gives you hope that your relationship doesn't have to be stuck in one of these two categories because you and your partner can make the decision to become soulmates and develop a healthier relationship while each becoming healthier individuals in the process.