Soulmates: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams [Paperback]

Ph.D. Carolyn Godschild Miller (Author)

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Publication Date: April 1, 2000

Carolyn Miller takes an in-depth look at a topic of perennial fascination. Sharing her own quest - and that of dozens of other couples - for a meant-to-be relationship, she uses true stories to illustrate what she means by "inner guidance." Contrary to popular belief, soulmate couples do not usually recognize each other at first glance. Miller shows how individuals who attract the ego are seldom the ones the soul deeply desires to be with, and soulmates are often people who look all wrong at that crucial first meeting.

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Herman glimpsed his "soul mate" for the first time when he waseight years old and in a Nazi work camp. She was on the other side of a barbed wire fence. He called to her for food and water. Years later they met in New York City, dispatched by friends on a blind date. They immediately discovered their unique connection and agreed to get married. Soul mates!

Anecdotes about finding love in the strangest places are the most amusing aspect of this book. Miller's talk about an "inner guide" instructing us who to marry may be useless to those whose inner voices are more inchoate. Her advice--don't be blinded by preconceptions about the "right" person to marry--sometimes strains credulity, as in the tale of the Austrian Nazi whose inner guide tells her to marry an American Jew. It also has the uncomfortable feeling of being directed at people in their late 40s who are getting a little desperate and want some justification for dating a totally inappropriate person; after all, most of the time, people marry those from similar backgrounds, "soul mates" or no. (Beliefnet, May 2000) -- From Beliefnet

With its attractive cover, Soulmates will fly off the shelves into the arms of those seeking true love. -- New Age Retailer, Nov./Dec. 2000

Product Details

• Paperback: 252 pages
• Publisher: HJ Kramer (April 1, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0915811863
• ISBN-13: 978-0915811861
• Product Dimensions: 8.6 x 5.6 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #660,535 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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30 of 32 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Authors Reply to A reader from Los Angeles"dated Oct17,'00, October 26, 2000

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Carolyn Miller, Ph.D. - See all my reviews

This review is from: Soulmates: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams (Paperback)

A CAUTIONARY TALE: PLEASE READ THE BOOK BEFORE YOU COMMENT

Dear "Reader from Los Angeles",

I think you'll feel a lot better about my research if you actually DO read Soulmates, and I know you'll be relieved to learn that the material to which you object does NOT appear in it. Nor did this material appear in an early raw manuscript of the book that you purportedly read sometime ago. I will quote for you here in its entirety the only passage I actually used based upon my research interviews that you referred to. (The woman to whom you refer is called "Carmen," and your husband - the man Carmen called "Joseph" in an early manuscript of the book - is referred to as "Adam.")

SECOND CHANCES (Excerpt from: SOULMATES: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams, pp. 99-100.)

"I am convinced that we can have soulmate relationships with a number of different people. The loss of one ideal partner doesn't mean that we cannot have the wonderful relationship our soul desires - it just means that we can't have it with him or her. For example, here's what my friend Carmen's guide replied when she asked if a man who interested her was her soulmate: 'You want to know if Adam is "The One". I say he is a total possibility. But there are other men around who could join you on your path of holiness. You are nesting, and various holy friends who are, so to speak, at your level, will approach you. No matter who you choose, or who takes you as a partner, you both will be joyous in the same measure.'

"'Carmen' shared her experiments with guidance with me several years ago as they were unfolding. I felt - indeed, I still feel - that there was a lot of wisdom in some of the responses she received in meditation. There is nothing in my notes that recalls Carmen's guide ever saying that Adam was her 'one and only,' but simply that he was a good man who shared her values and interests, and who might make a good partner for her if he chose to do so." [End of Excerpt]

As events continued to unfold, it became apparent that Adam had not chosen to consider Carmen as a romantic partner, and, at her guide's urging, she did begin a relationship with someone else. Since nothing had come of Carmen's interest in Adam, I decided not to include the material related to her inner process in the book, except for the excerpt above.

In retrospect, it does seem like a shame that Carmen decided to share her meditations regarding Adam with him, and that he then decided to share them with you. I can understand that it would be upsetting to think other people were being led to believe that your husband was "meant for" someone else. However, if you do decide to read Soulmates, you'll see that I argue vigorously against the idea that each of us has only one ideal mate, or that anyone is intended for some specific individual by God, or fate, or whatever. It is my belief that these are matters of individual choice, and since you and the man I've called "Adam" have chosen one another, I wish you much happiness!

22 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Where have you been all my life?!, November 23, 2000

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Dr. Ilene Krems (Los Angeles, CA USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Soulmates: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams (Paperback)

That's the question I want to ask this wonderful guidebook to soulmate relationships! Soulmates answers so many important questions about the real nature of fulfilling partnerships. It is easy to read, and filled with true-life examples of the principles that it teaches. Each chapter ends with a clear summary of its most valuable points. As a psychotherapist, I have recommended Soulmates to many of my clients, who have also found it to be an extremely valuable guide to a complex subject.

14 of 14 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars "Soulmates" delivers!, November 22, 2004

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STEPHEN KIERULFF (Los Angeles, CA, USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Soulmates: Following Inner Guidance to the Relationship of Your Dreams (Paperback)

I was pleasantly surprised to find that "Soulmates" is not New Age pablum, but a delightful mixture of solid psychology and ... and what? Warm mysticism? Course in Miracles wisdom? Whatever the second part, the first part, solid psychology, is undeniable, and the author's wit, honesty, modesty and self-disclosure make the book a great read. Believe it or not, it may even help you find (or create) a soulmate.